Hello everyone, we are fairly new to this sight and this is our first post.
We've been into this swing-thing for a few months and have had a pretty good time so far. MOSTLY thanks to this sight with all its information--we learned the dos and don'ts by reading, rather than personal experiences. Great job!
But the swing community has had a problem we've noticed from day one: NOBODY likes the terms "swingers" or "lifestyle," or any other variants or terms used. So I made it a personal mission to remedy this situation once and for all.
I wracked my brain for days, well, okay-hours, well an hour at least in total. Anyway, I think I have a new term that might be embraced: BLENDERS.
Here's the background: First, the name should sum up the essence of what we do. It seems that the common act that all forms of "swinging" include is that of sharing--your partners, essentially. (The most common reason people reject the term "lifestyle" is because they see swinging as something they do once in a while, not something that constitutes a "way of living.") I see "lifestyle" as describing more specific arrangements, like a 3 or more polyamorous group--a group that live as 3 or more together.
So, I looked for synonyms for "share" but nothing suitable came up. I was considering checking language dictionaries, maybe a French word. But then, the answer was right in front of me. Our screen name on this site: borrowlend. Hence, "b" from "borrow" and "lend" make up "blend."
It's perfect--after all, sometimes we lend our SO to someone, same room or otherwise; sometimes we borrow someone's SO; sometimes we borrow while lending. Also, the name is more appealing, to me anyway, than "swingers." "Swinger" just sounds outdated, like a seventies disco word. Also, it seems to lack a significance--what does it mean?
So, what do ya think? Are we blenders or will I get flamethrow