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    Default Re: Pulling out, before coming, your thoughts?

    sounds like you have some issues that need addressing before entering this lifestyle, saying this to me would invoke a "ok he's a wierdo" type response.

    the coming in the condom comment pretty much put it across, the male part of the couple you swing with, whats he supposed to do, be on the verge, wip it out, pull off the condom, can you wife finish the job with her hands or is this taboo, so he has to do it himself and rules swing both ways so you too, its just all very wierd.

    Stick to soft swap I don't think you are comfortable for full swap right now and you are both very young why not enjoy each other???

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    Quote Originally Posted by bimickie26
    Stick to soft swap I don't think you are comfortable for full swap right now and you are both very young why not enjoy each other???
    Weirdo ok from time to time.. Aren't we all a bit weird though? Your right we are not comfortable with a full swap right now. Who really knows when the time is right though? If you've actually read over this whole post you would have read about the part where we mention that she wouldn't just leave the guy hanging in this situation to finish the deed himself. She is not that cruel. Tell us when the right age to start would be. This is something that we both want to do and we aren't just jumping into things. Our thinking is that we will take it slow and if nothing happens with any other couples, that's fine with us. The boundaries will be set before going to the bedroom so that nobody is unclear of the others expectations.

    We are very mature in our life and both do very well financially even though we are still in college. As far as enjoying each other, we do very much! We asked ourselves these questions. What's wrong with swinging, what would be fun about it, what scares us about it, what makes us comfortable with it, what could the consequences be, is our relationship stable enough to do this, who would we like to meet, what fun events could we attend, am I really that sexy, do I want another man to come in me even with a condom, do we want to use condoms, what if our family finds out, what if I get another women pregnant, what if nobody wants to swing with us, what if we post something and people bash us, are we to young, are we any good at sex, will the other people be good at sex? This list goes on. Before this board was here and all this information about this lifestyle was made easily available, perhaps we wouldn't have considered it. Now that we have a little basic training we want to try our skills in the field. Explore with others, go out on double dates, find out what they do and don't do to each as a couple. I'm not bragging or boasting but I'm fairly attractive and she is too. We are both in excellent shape and have very structured families. One day we would like to start a family of our own, but not right now.

    Who's to say that there is an age to begin. I'm definintly not a person to judge that. Maturity level is very important. Do we feel that we are mature enough to enter this kind of lifestyle? Well I guess we don't know because we haven't done anything with anyone else yet. Can we take steps to being more mature about the steps we take in the future? Well if so, I think this board is an excellent place to start, followed by a few Club H parties, some nude beaches and perhaps maybe just some light swaping. Who's to say that it can't start out as a swap and finish as a light swap, or there are even posts where people don't allow penetration. Does that make them weirdos? It just seems to us that anyone can start into this lifestyle at any level they feel comfortable with. Our level is that of not soft swapping but swapping with pulling out. Let's call it in the middle.

    Here is a small list mf swapping:

    1. Playing around, kissing. 2 .hand jobs, blow jobs, eating out, banging 3.Soft swapping "two couples in the same room" 4. Kind of soft swapping with condoms and coming outside of her in the condom or if your quick enough to take it off, maybe on her chest 5. Swapping and coming inside the condom inside her 6. No condom coming outside, 7. No condoms coming inside.

    Some people like anal and some people like bondage anal and two guys to come in them at the same time. If we were into this we would accomodate them just like some people here at the board have. We would in no way judge them for their fetishes or beliefs. Some women are bi sexual, some bi curious, that's fine with us if she has been with other women, there are certain things my fiance might do with them is she was attractive. Here again we would never judge anybody for their rules. We do not believe people are weirdos because they have rules and limitations that are different from ours.

    Maybe we'll call these stages. We feel comfortable playing at stage 3.

    Anybody care to add to this list feel free. This list could be huge.

    Her getting him off is not taboo, we have spoken about this here in this post and in others.

  3. Back To Top | #28

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    i guess i just dont get it, cuming in a condom while inside her is not okay but fucking her in the first place is, it makes no sense to me at all but i am a woman and cannot begin to fathom what makes guys tick. One thing i can tell you is it probably makes no difference to your girlfriend its you that has the issue...

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    Quote Originally Posted by bimickie26
    i guess i just dont get it, cuming in a condom while inside her is not okay but fucking her in the first place is, it makes no sense to me at all but i am a woman and cannot begin to fathom what makes guys tick. One thing i can tell you is it probably makes no difference to your girlfriend its you that has the issue...
    This was her rule if we swing, and if it's hers then it's mine. She's not comfortable with it and I back her up. If this is her comfort level, I'm fine with that. If she wanted the opposite I do not feel as though I own her, she can make those decisions herself. I'm not the big dominant controlling male. Our relationship is a 50/50 split. This applies around the house and in the bedroom. Lots of people have lots of issues, if this is our biggest one and that's a problem, for some people, we respect their opinions. Although we may not agree with them on some issues, we are careful not to judge them. Anyways we respect your opinion, but do not agree with it.

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    Here's a suggestion.

    Use a contraceptive foam along with a condom. The foam does nothing STD wise but it is added protection against pregnancy, and also works as a lubricant. VCF makes a relatively inexpensive one.

    Mr. Lol
    Somebody better go back and get a shitload of dimes!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by myspaceguru
    Weirdo ok from time to time..

    Here is a small list mf swapping:

    1. Playing around, kissing. 2 .hand jobs, blow jobs, eating out, banging 3.Soft swapping "two couples in the same room" 4. Kind of soft swapping with condoms and coming outside of her in the condom or if your quick enough to take it off, maybe on her chest 5. Swapping and coming inside the condom inside her 6. No condom coming outside, 7. No condoms coming inside.

    Some people like anal and some people like bondage anal and two guys to come in them at the same time. If we were into this we would accomodate them just like some people here at the board have. We would in no way judge them for their fetishes or beliefs. Some women are bi sexual, some bi curious, that's fine with us if she has been with other women, there are certain things my fiance might do with them is she was attractive. Here again we would never judge anybody for their rules. We do not believe people are weirdos because they have rules and limitations that are different from ours.

    Maybe we'll call these stages. We feel comfortable playing at stage 3.
    We're intrigued by your list of "stages".

    Please clarify stage 3 - what is "banging"?

    And, in what way does stage 3 differ from stage 2?

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2jersey
    We're intrigued by your list of "stages".

    Please clarify stage 3 - what is "banging"?

    And, in what way does stage 3 differ from stage 2?
    stage 1 is the primary stage, the launching engine so to speak
    stage 2 is the orbital stage
    stage 3 is the banging stage were the rocket bangs into orbit

    hope this clears it up for you any more questions please contact mission control at nasa... lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by myspaceguru
    This was her rule if we swing, and if it's hers then it's mine. She's not comfortable with it and I back her up. If this is her comfort level, I'm fine with that. If she wanted the opposite I do not feel as though I own her, she can make those decisions herself. I'm not the big dominant controlling male. Our relationship is a 50/50 split. This applies around the house and in the bedroom. Lots of people have lots of issues, if this is our biggest one and that's a problem, for some people, we respect their opinions. Although we may not agree with them on some issues, we are careful not to judge them. Anyways we respect your opinion, but do not agree with it.
    ok its her decision, wayyyy wierd but thats just my take of it, so cuming on her chest is okay with her but cuming in a condom in her is not... for me the first option were actual body fluids are exchanged ie its on her skin is way more personal don't ya think? would be for me

    I am not judging you BTW you are totally entitled to your "comfort level" i just dont get it is all. Having a man inside me in the first place is an intimate thing and if Ive gone that far i might as well finish the job at hand so to speak again i am not judging you and you should take whats written on the internet with a pinch of salt.... or salty one of the two

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    Stage 2. Banging: the act of sticking objects into the vagina or anus of a women or a man such as, fingers, dildos or fists. From the sexual pre tense bang.

    John was on the the floor banging Jennifer. Jennifer loves when John bangs her pussy with four fingers.

    Something like that
    ------------------------------------
    Ps. This is made up, it's not actually in the dictionary. That I know of.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexyshelby
    I don't really see the point... But if we liked you and knew about this upfront, I guess it wouldn't be too big of an issue.



    ~SS
    Dito

    We have heard of some strange rules, and this is def not the strangest.... we would have no problem.

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    I have current and former partners who think/thought semen was radioactive, poisonous, and caused premature aging unless first deposited in a vagina. They don't want to see, smell, feel, taste, or hear the stuff. Pulling out would be kind of fun and different for me.
    YMMV
    Mr. FC4L

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    Quote Originally Posted by funcpl4life
    I have current and former partners who think/thought semen was radioactive, poisonous, and caused premature aging unless first deposited in a vagina. They don't want to see, smell, feel, taste, or hear the stuff. Pulling out would be kind of fun and different for me.
    YMMV
    Mr. FC4L
    Does semen also cause hair loss or hair growth?

    Sure wouldn't wanna see a bald woman with a hairy pair of tits.

    Eww ...

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    I like that you are sticking by what makes you comfortable.

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    controlling your wife is not a way for her to enjoy a swining party. she may have a comfort zone very different from the husbands. when you are out of the swinging room she is in, maybe she enjoys herself the way she wants.

    i cant imagine my husband telling me how to swing.
    i prefer him out of the bedroom. what i do is my own business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by funcpl4life
    I have current and former partners who think/thought semen was radioactive, poisonous, and caused premature aging unless first deposited in a vagina. They don't want to see, smell, feel, taste, or hear the stuff. Pulling out would be kind of fun and different for me.
    YMMV
    Mr. FC4L
    Interesting....

    We played with a couple where she gets squimish at the sight of cum. Doesn't even like to see her husband's. I'm wondering how they got their two children.

    As far as the pulling out in a condom, I'd leave that decision to Drew. After all, he'd be the one who had to make special accomodations. I'm inclined to think he'd just say no...unless she was Halle Berry or Jessica Alba fine. I think he'd go along then.

    Pepper
    "Swinging is a lot like riding a Harley, ...for those who understand, no explanation is necessary; for those who don't, no explanation is possible." --Mr. Alura

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew
    We played with a couple where she gets squimish at the sight of cum. Doesn't even like to see her husband's.
    Pepper
    Funny Pepper, I didn't think we played with you yet...

    My wife is trying to get over that, but she's still having a hard time with it. It seems irrational to me, especially since I'm fixed and there are no wiggly little guys in there anymore. But she has always been afraid of any animal smaller than a basketball, insects, various fluids, and anything like that. Icky Icky Icky stuff.

    I'm a patient guy though, and she's making efforts to get over it, so oh well. It will be interesting to see if she lets loose in our early swining experiences.

    Mr. Truelove
    The most fun I can never tell anyone about!

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    My husband pulls out of me every time. That's just our thing. We don't do it for birth control nor for disease prevention, we think the visual experience of his orgasm is one of the fun, hot parts of sex. We even did it back in the days when we used a condom. So we wouldn't consider it the least bit of an inconvenience or the least bit weird.

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    I have no problem with it either way. Just tell me first lol! My play partner came on my stomach lol. I had no problem with it, but I would have liked some sort of warning lol.
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
    Shelly

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    Quote Originally Posted by TerryforSex
    i cant imagine my husband telling me how to swing.
    i prefer him out of the bedroom. what i do is my own business.
    My husband would never tell me how to swing, but we do discuss our limitations - which are pretty few and always end with 'go with the flow'! But, I can't imagine wanting him out of the bedroom! We are same room only folks, actually prefer same bed!

    As far as pulling out - with or without a condom - I don't think that would be a problem for Roger, and I know it wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't have as intenstive 'O' as I would with him coming inside me (with or without condom) but I'd still enjoy his 'O' anyway!

    Sarah

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    nmturfman will ask sometimes "in ya or on ya" cuz he knows i have a fondness for having it on my ass or my tits. its pretty much up to the particular situation, what we are doing, the mood. either is ok, but i do prefer him to cum inside when i do cuz its just that much more intense.

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