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  • Birthday 03/24/1948

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    M. Male
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    Florida
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    drinking, writing, camping, biking, and college football.
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    Retired
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    Off and on for over 40 years.

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  1. About the only, almost safe, way to insure you don't run into the coworker is to avoid clubs, meet and greets, and other group things. Just find other folks through sites like SLS and stay with private meetings. But do keep in mind that, even then, there's always the chance someone will mention you to someone who mentions what they heard to someone else. It could get back to the person.
  2. We never used a pro but I've heard of swingers doing it. And, she's probably correct about Vegas being a safer place for it. And, honestly, finding a non-pro for a FFM isn't easy.
  3. That's probably not going to ever happen. Lesbians seldom admit they're bisexual and try to show no sexual interest in men. I had a very close lesbian friend who let me know that. She also confided in me that, if she could be with my wife, she'd be OK with me being part of the fun. But I had to promise to never tell any of her lesbian friends.
  4. It's pretty accepted that the term for a lady who wants to join a couple in a threesome is 'Unicorn' because they're so rare. I just had a thought about what a male who wants to be with a swinger couple could be called, especially here in Florida... Python, because there are way too many! LOL!
  5. I guess we're never too old to learn a new term. What's a Napoleon?
  6. I guess the closest I ever came to a relative was a first cousin I made out with when we were teens. But, honestly, if I'd run into a cousin at a swinger's event, and she and I both agreed, I'd think it would be pretty cool.
  7. There's one in Orlando that my wife and I thought about going to years ago. It's Club Relate. If I recall, they have parties both in Orlando and Tampa.
  8. One of the experiences we had, that I enjoyed as much as anything we did, was a vanilla meet and greet at a Holiday Inn lounge. Well, I say vanilla but, like yours, there was a lot of making out. And, also like yours, we made a great contact for a lot of fun on another occasion.
  9. I remember when I was writing some stories about swinging. I had created characters, a couple like us only more adventurous. My wife enjoyed reading those stories but she once said, "you make swinging sound so much sweeter than it really is". That's when I realized that she had difficulty dealing with her pleasure during..., after.
  10. OK, I'll try to answer your questions about why we stopped. The first experiences were during about a four year period when we'd been married three to six or seven years. I don't recall it being called the lifestyle back then. It was referred to as wife swapping and only sometimes, 'swinging'. Except for one, the couples were all friends or acquaintances before any thoughts of playing. I could tell my wife enjoyed the play but she always felt a little guilty the next days. And I also think she felt a little fear of our relationship being harmed. We just hadn't been together long enough. The second time we delved into it, twenty years later, she was more confident and comfortable. But, after a few years she simply lost interest. I just don't thing that sexual adventure and enjoyment was ever as important to her as it is to me.
  11. When I was single, and in the military in other countries, us guys frequented many places of prostitution because we weren't anywhere long enough to get to know gals to date. Now that was fine for immediate gratification but I never, ever, enjoyed it as much as a real date. When my wife and I tried the lifestyle, we both preferred getting to know potential partners first. I guess we both just enjoyed the flirting and all of the foreplay that went with dating, before playing. For us, at least, the waiting was half the fun.
  12. I do think more of us husbands enjoy watching and, therefore, prefer same room. But my wife was like yours and didn't like to watch or have me watching her. I think she had difficulty really enjoying the intimacy with the other man if she knew I could see and hear them. And she's always had a jealous streak and seeing and hearing be with another woman didn't set well with her.
  13. We've been married for almost 48 years now. Two different times I our marriage we were involved in swinging for about 3 years each time. During the 40 or so years we were vanilla, we did discuss vanilla things but were always sort of careful about sexual topics. During the six or so years we were playing, we had much more open and honest discussions. I strongly feel that a couple who plays together has a much better relationship with each other.
  14. There are some, like me, who enjoyed swinging but for whatever reason no longer swing. Some it can be the loss of their spouse or it could be that one half of the couple decided not to continue and the other half respects their partner's decision. But, whatever the reason, what do you miss most? For me, it's the conversations. When we were swinging, my wife and I were the most open and honest with each other than we had ever been before or after. That's what I miss most..., the open conversations. And the friends we had, or made, that we played with were about the same. I don't think we ever had vanilla friends that we could be that open and honest with.
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