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UCONN Keith

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    MWM
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    Storrs, CT
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    Hiking, camping, sailing, parasailing, canoeing, ATV's, woodworking, hot tub, horses, music, current events.
  • Occupation
    Psychiatric/Medical
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    Off/on many years.

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  1. Ken and Barbie DIED in the Barbie Playhouse Fiasco of the 1970's! Their Barbie pool collapsed and drowned the both of them - Ken AND Barbie! Didn't anyone else get the news release? Geez! We have all since "moved on" to the "Cabbage Patch couples" and "Bratz" - which I might add have a much MORE delectable booty and figure than that of those skinny, self-absorbed, cosmetically altered, personality disordered "Barbies" (and Ken) ever had! (Hmmmph!) So there, Mattell! Take that! (Hmmmm? Can ANYONE Guess my stance on this issue?)
  2. I've noticed many postings of late in which members are questioning their own body image and their possible "fit" into "swinging" and/or "Polyamory. I know we all have our own preferences (mine is shubby/bbw's - red hair a plus! ) so I wanted to take a poly to see what others thought. Thanks!
  3. Dear Bear! No, my dear, you are not "Too Big" to swing, find interested lovers, or do anything else you might want to do..... I found your photo to be very classy, innocently sexy, and very inviting! You are a beautiful lady! With that said.... There are many, many men/couples/women (me included!) that actually have a preference for people that aren't so slim that they end up looking like an adolescent male 9 let alone a female!)...... Some of us prefer our lovers to be sensual, voluptuous and REAL! There are several sites that cater to people that are bigger than "twiggy" They often refer to there members as BBW (Big Beautiful Women). One, in particular, that comes to mind is Large Friends Although not specifically a "swinger's site", they do have listing options for both single men and women AS WELL AS couples Their cost is minimal - even though I always hated sites that make money from personal ads - oh' well..... The people on this site come in MANY various sizes and shapes! From a 130 lb women that feels she should categorize herself as a BBW to the truly LARGE (350+lb) women. The men are, interestingly enough, of average size - for the most part although they do have several BHM (Big Handsome Men) as well Even on the few occasions that my wife and I visited a club (in the past) and even at Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica; we have seen many, many people that were far from skinny! All seemed to have a great time and we even met with several. So, you should feel confidant that your sexy smile and beaming personality will be a fitting attribute that will accent your already desirable, sexy body! Good luck! Congratulate your husband on finding such a beautiful, charming and lovely wife Great Question!
  4. Irish Bryan, Be careful, my friend, with regard to allowing yourself to feel insulted if you think a remark is sarcastic. As a "solo" (as opposed to being a single)male, you will encounter a great deal of stereotypical comments, attacks, insults and the like from others that feel "swinging" is a "purest" activity. Than, in and of itself, I find a hilarious notion to begin with but it is the way it is... Now, as to the question at hand, yes - there is someone (often a few) for everyone. Regardless of your race, nationality, gender, relationship status. It will go seemingly slow at first but the best advice I can offer - as someone who has been involved in swinging as BOTH a member of a married couple (for the purists) and as a solo male - is that you need to post! Post frequently! Post everywhere! Join discussions, threads. Don't only comment on those that are sexual or swinging related in nature but all the others as well. This would include the non-swinging advice column, general life questions column and all the others. This will give everyone, that may be interested, an idea of "who" you really are. What you think and feel about other issues, what you may have in common, what other activities you could enjoy, etc... Also, make sure to write a very detailed, descriptive profile and introduction posting (in Introduction Forum). This will help greatly too! Explain - openly - what your current marriage is like, why you are looking (if it's for replacement of sexual intimacy, then fine! Who are we/they to judge you?) Try joining and posting on other "Personals" sites as well. I know that the vast majority don't cater to "Solo Males" yet you will find those that are accepting on these sites anyway. There are, contrary to popular opinion, many sites that actually remain free! (yes, there are still those that intend to treat their lifestyle as something other than a source of income...) Do some searches for "Mature" sites. This will eliminate a vast majority of the younger crowd that are always seemingly in some sort of emotional quandary over actually meeting or simply browsing. Most importantly, ask yourself what you are looking for and why - regardless of what others think. Be true to thy own self and everything else should fall into place - eventually. As for single bars - yes, they are great sources of finding casual, non-committal sex yet maybe that isn't what you want? Only you know..... As I have said in a previous posting or two (regarding "swinging" and solo males), sometime, other "purest swingers" don't understand that you/they may be seeking the emotional intimacy that comes from being open enough to "swing"...... Perhaps if your wife was interested in swinging, in would have put a whole new twist on your current relationship? Not just sexual but in regard to understanding each others emotional needs and communication styles as well..... Just a thought. I wish you good luck! I have confidence that, with a little persistence, you WILL find someone to experience the lifestyle with....... I commend you on being brave enough to ask this question! Good job!
  5. Back when my wife and I were both active, I (hubbie) prefered nothin more than a MWM threesome overall. No, stop! I'm not "Gay, Bi-Sexual or even Bi-Curious".... I simply love seeing the woman I love, for whom I have built up such an intimate and consuming trust, being slowly seduced, teased and pleased by another man! It's almost as if I could watch myself - sort of like a mini outter-body experience - making love to her. Far better than any video could ever be! A video of us - together - wouldn't include all of the sense! Real-time sounds, movements, erotic scents, etc.... All VERY important to me! Further more, there was nothing better than assisting him or - even after they had finished - me making love to her as she was sooooo very responsive and sensitive then.....I guess, truth be told, I have always had this voyeuristic nature and I loved having it fulfilled. Yes, we did experience foursome and even FMF threesomes for which were all enjoyed BUT, for me, MFM threesomes were ALWAYS the best...... I like to "Spoil" my lover(s)...... Keith in CT CT_MWM@Hotmail.Com
  6. Personally, for me, foreplay is more inclusive than those manual forms typically associated with such act. What am I talking about, you may be wondering? Well...... There is something incredibly sexy about the playful, witty and suggestive verbal banter that occurs prior to even the first touch or kiss. You know the type I am talking about. For many people, this banter is often the first sign they notice that the other person is even interested. The innuendos, the subtle re0directing of conversation, etc... To me, this is all foreplay and makes the "chase" all that more exciting. Most of the best lovers I have ever been with were very, very skilled at this talent! They were able to arouse their prey long before physical interaction occurred. In fact, if verbally skilled women were really wanting to be truly evil - as well as know the size of their perspective male lover's cock - they could EASILY arouse him to erection, by simply talking to him, long before she permitted him to continue with his advances! All that playful, flirty, pre-contact interaction is - for me - foreplay. I simply LOVE the whole interaction. This was made ever so evident to me when my wife and I - during our early days - would find someone we were interested in. Especially when it was another male (I.e. by high school best friend, a buddy of mine from the gym, etc...). Seeing him - at first - "flirting" with her (before he even was aware that she would be willing, able and knowing permitted to fuck his brains out) was very exciting to me. I have always loved seeing her seduced and pleased (still would to this day if she was interested!). Also, when she decided that she wanted another man, and pulled out her tool box of flirting skills, the whole thing became even all the better! Seeing her eye movements/contact, the way she played with her glas, hair, etc... Watching and listening as she made subtle sexual innuendos - baiting him in without giving him an open, obvious invitation. Seeing her "play" with her catch. It was simply beautiful and very hot! That too, for me, is all foreplay! Anyone else agree? Thanks for the great question and comments!
  7. As a man that has participated "swinging" activities as both a member of a couple and as an individual practitioner ( ), I think there is a lot more to the tendency to shy away from the inclusion of single/individual males than we have yet discussed. Overall, regardless of your philosophical stance within the swinging world (whether you tend to be more Polyamorous or openly Hedonistic), there are some basics that are universally accepted by all: Respectfulness, attraction, compatibility, a common desire for mutually enjoyable and agreed upon sexual interaction, as well as adhering to pre-established and agreed upon boundaries. Can a single male - or female, for that matter - meet the generalized expectations set forth? Yes, I think they can. It would seemingly depend more upon that individual's personality, character and behavior than their overall relationship status. NOW, why - lets ponder - would single men be excluded? Let's think a minute about sexual orientation listed upon the profiles of the couples browse. More often than not, the male partner is typically listed a "straight" and maybe - just maybe - "Bi-Curious". It is the very rare male of a couple that posts that he is openly "Bi-Sexual" within a couples profile. Now, lets consider the wife or females listing of orientation. More often than not, she is openly listed as being "Bi-Sexual" and/or "Bi-Curious". Few of the women's listings actually note their preference as "Heterosexual", do they? When we consider this phenomena, doesn't it begin to make sense that what we are actually seeing, with regard to the inclusion of the single/solo male within "swinging" is actually more related to the ability of the two men in a meeting - the wife's husband and the new sexual partner - to accept each other's presence without including another females to "balance out" and/or preclude any possible notion of "Gay" activity? Sort of like a small, underlying form of "homophobia", if you would How many ladies - in all honesty - who love to swing would not want to be the center of attention for two eager, willing and capable men? How many husbands, who not participate with the additional male (even in a "couples" scenario), haven't actually enjoyed looking over as he had sex with the other lady and actually found he enjoyed watching his loved one being pleased by another man? Hmmmmmmm. Now, the other issue may be one of a gender-based, socio-educationally based nature ! That would be the way men are, in general... As a man, I can assure you that we all - regardless of our intent or manner by which we have since learned to act - have all been guilty of sophomoric, lecherous behaviors. It's true! Our biologically driven need to have sex, when coupled with our generally more aggressive and confrontational, testosterone driven ways, has made the majority of us do, say, or think something pretty "stupid" and/or socially unacceptable in regard to sex! (There, I said it! The truth is OUT of the bag now. There's no going back. The He Man's Union will black-ball me for sure.......) So, even if the solo/single man has the best intentions, he often finds that he has posted a comment/profile that isn't that appealing to a swinging couple. Add to this, the male gender's sometime evident fear of expressing their emotions (I.e. "Real men don't cry", or even eat quiche for that matter! So I am told) and we get short, monosyllabic postings and profiles that - like most guys - cut straight to the chase; "Let's Fuck!". Yes, such posting ARE crass, uninformative and leave the reader feeling more like a vibrator - in need of a new C battery - than an interesting, alluring, attractive, sexual and sensual being. Do all such men, who post such statements, lack the ability to communicate? DO all such men what only to perform a sexual "hit and run" in order to obtain their addictive, sexual "fixes"? I'm sure not all do....... Many may simply be too self-conscious about the possibility of expressing themselves. As for the single man being "Gay" or "Bi-Sexual", do you really think that this is the case? If it were, I can assure you (as someone who practices within the psychiatric/medical field) that they could MUCH more easily find willing partners at the numerous Gay sites, rest areas (yes, this is a HUGE place for Gays to meet up!), or the many Gay establishments in most mid-size to large cities (which, by the way, FAR out number the total number of existing swinging clubs)..... So, even if you "don't mean to rant", feel free! Go ahead! Express yourself! It is, at least, proving that men ARE CAPABLE of doing so and can express personal convictions with regard to swinging - and all things related to such - without being a member of a participating couple..... As a "straight" male however, I'm sticking with the "Swinging Related Homophobia" theory myself!!!!! Thanks for the great comments and discussion everyone... I enjoyed it greatly!
  8. Yes, I agree! In my experience, there are VERY FEW (if any at all) swingers who are comfortable or willing to form such a relationship. That is why I always try to use the phrase, "Poly oriented" or "Poly-like". To sort of demonstrate that it may not necessarily be a totally committed relationship as I might have with my primary yet it is a much deeper, lasting friendship/lover I seek. Your correct about the labels. Maybe we should come up with ideas to describe it better - even though we would create yet another label. At least people similar to us (Poly/Swing mixes ) could be better defined. Thanks for your post! Great!
  9. The sad truth be told, not often at all! When my wife and I were dating and even when we were first married, we met others about a few times per month. Mostly by association through events, social connections, etc.... We never did frequent swing clubs or house parties or the like. Unfortunately, due to "kids and careers", she slowly reverted back to her conservative Catholic upbringing and everything eventually came to a halt. I think it's been about six to eight years since we did something together. We are still very much in love and committed to each other and our family. She is, after all, my best friend. It would seem that her interest was more of a "phase" where as mine was simply a "way of life"? As for the second part of the initial question, "swinging alone"; yes - I have in the past. I haven't been active for a few years now myself. I have just recently (as evidenced by my rather long posting a sub-section of the "personals" area - even though there isn't really any "personals" there at all!) renewed my search... As a man without his wife/partner however, I know I will probably be quickly stereotyped and overlooked by many possible new partners. Oh' well, that's just the way life goes! Thanks for the great question/poll! Keith
  10. I LOVE verbally responsive lovers - as long as they are genuine and I/other can tell that they are! Screamers, moaners, criers are wonderful! I myself - as a man- am told that I am a "growler"....... Thanks for the poll! Keith in CT CT_MWM@Hotmail.com
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