jamesdean

Sorry about my post earlier if anyone thought I was trying to encourage ANYONE to meeting a single guy if that's not their desire. I was talking to those people who ARE looking to meet single males. I don't like when people insist I must do anything, so to finalize my thoughts on this I shall again say. Sorry if anyone gleaned that from my earlier post. As far as anyone who wishes to chat and heck who knows what will come of it, I am open to start a dialogue. I've enjoyed reading the comments and I thank all those that write for sharing. I know, I know, sounds a bit wimpy but it gives me comfort knowing there is a whole world of people with a similar lifestyle.

Hi Everyone, This is my first post here so I shall begin by giving a synopsis of who I am , why I swing, and issues I have encountered. I am 41, hold a advanced degree, am considered above average in looks. I entered the "lifestyle" after being laid up(I wish like that :-P) after a car accident in 1998 for 3 yrs. As recently as last week, have had spinal surgery(6th one) and I just didn't believe I was ready/able for a lasting relationship. My experiences in swinging with couples has been nothing but great. I am respectful, aware of other's desires, and of course highly sexual. The best part about swinging to me is the almost universal acceptance of people as they are without the usual mainstream judgments. The stereotype of the "dime a dozen single guy" infuriated me initially but I have come to realize that issue arises out ignorance. Singles ignore the fact regardless of what we/I may say, some people have that thought permanently etched in their heads. I'll give you an analogy. "DO you like anchovies?" "Hell no!""Have you ever tried them?" "Well no, but I don't like them anyway." That's the mentality many couples have towards us singles. They have never tried to open themselves up to meet with any of us. Even if that's not their preference, I suggest meeting a few of us at parties or just out and about. Heck maybe you could play matchmaker and help those of us who may want to be in a relationship meet the lady of our dreams.! :-0 Folks I have endured in the last 5 yrs more pain, more hours of introspective thoughts on life, more self -doubt than I ever, ever thought one could endure. I have come to realize my life is no more difficult, easy,unfair than almost everyone I ever meet, anywhere. We all have stories, challenges, desires to tell,overcome or achieve. I have had great fun in this lifestyle because I am an open book to those I develop friendships, playtimes with. It literally has been a saving grace for me and has filled a physical as well as an emotional need for me. Discount those who "label" you, and chalk it up to ignorance. Ignorance is different than stupidity. Ignorance is devoid of fact/understanding. Stupidity to me is having facts/understanding and hurtfully spewing ill feelings/thoughts. Anyway to end move on if you meet someone who does not fill a need/desire for you here. Understand they are a living being too with feelings. Give ALL the INITIAL benefit of the doubt because you may be unaware of the reason why one is single. Whether it be circumstance or by choice(even if it's temporary) In search of my life partner now,