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AskMeOk last won the day on May 15 2016

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About AskMeOk

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    Swingers Board Addict
  • Birthday 01/24/1962

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    20+ Years
  1. Well, this has pretty much put all of our activities on hold. We live in a semi-rural sparsely populated area and have been fortunate that social distancing and the like has been rather automatic. Unfortunately (in a sense), we live very near the coast and the crowds are flocking in from every state and location whether it is a hot spot or not. These folks are not social distancing, wearing masks, or even showing any pretense of safety or common sense. So, our perceived safety level has dropped like a rock. Now, we thoroughly expect a second wave, sooner, probably than later and all we can do is watch the statistics and make an informed decision about entertaining again at some future point. The level of "new cases" continues to rise as people become weary of sheltering in place and restrictions are lifted. We'll really be glad to see the hind end of this thing, but with this rampant social irresponsibility, we don't look for anything to change before 1Q of 2021. ?
  2. As for any upcoming series on PlayboyTV... I find it somewhat amazing you weren't vetted to inorm the rest of us, but hey, I guess that didn't happen.... The local swinger community (and nationwide, too) has been approached and PBTV is looking for willing "couples, ages 21-45, who are in a committed relationship and curious about changing up their sexual lifestyle." If interested, contact Richard Arreguin at CASTINGNEWSWINGERS@GMAIL.COM. This is a paid offer, but requires you to possess a US Passport.
  3. Please cite the "incorrect information" that I shared.... Also, note that I never made ANY reference to you or Holli.... nor did I address ANYTHING other than usage of the English language. My wife and I have been faithful listeners and watchers of you two. No more. We just don't do personal attacks or drama, nor do we support those that do.
  4. OK, I'm not making myself clear.... I never meant to imply, nor do I believe "...if 'they are not playing they are cheating..." My definition for swinging is a non-monogamous behavior, involving knowledge and consent of all parties, in which both singles and/or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. A person engaging in this activity is a swinger. (As I write this, I realize there is a flaw in my definition, because it does not consider the "monogamous" forms of polyamory, polygamy, or polyandry. I guess I better look at that, huh?) The singles and/or couples and/or moresomes involved in the non-monogamous sexual activity are swingers. Those watching are, well, just watching. This, of course, implies all participants have knowledge and consent of their respective partners. The watchers are part of an open marriage or open relationship. I do believe, however, you cannot be considered a swinger, if there is not knowledge and consent... My only point is that if you are not actually engaging in sexual activity, you are not a swinger. There are open marriages in which one or the other or both might not be considered a swinger (consider any one of the polyxxxxx situations). It seems to be a trivial distinction, but becomes important in discussing certain contexts of the lifestyle. I inject my own definition of "swinger" into the discussion because nearly every swinger website (including this one) has deleted the term "Swinger" from the site's dictionary and with it, the associated definition. PS Considering the combinations and permutations of all of the "poly" stuff, I might see why..... [my head hurts....]
  5. Lacking consent, we have another word: cheater that seems to more correctly describe the situation. It follows the same rules of English grammar... they are cheaters because they are engaged in the act of cheating. Swinging implies knowledge and consent, but neither knowledge nor consent makes a swinger out of somebody not actually engaged in the physical act of non-monogamous sex. It is a fact that we've not had a very good word to describe this sort of behavior, where only one person of a couple participates.... we've got hot-wife and cuckquean for the girls and cuckold for the guys... I'm even seeing the term "hot-husband" bandied about.... Swinging involves knowledge and consent of non-monogamous sexual behavior, thus if you are not engaging in non-monogamous sex you cannot, by definition, be a swinger. I guess I just can't work out, in my mind, the logic of calling a non-golfing wife a golfer because she said her husband could go golfing.
  6. -er is "a suffix used in forming nouns designating persons from the object of their occupation or labor (hatter; tiler; tinner; moonshiner), ...", thus the English language expects one to be occupied in or "laboring" at an activity. Your example might define you as an onlooker, as you are engaged in that activity, but if one is not engaging in sex one, by definition, cannot be considered a swinger. So, by definition, I think that would make (only) the SOs swingers.
  7. If you define swinging as "a non-monogamous behavior in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity." I'd say no. In a previous marriage, Michael and wife were swingers. However, in the current marriage, Holli just does girls and Michael only watches... or maybe only touches Holli. I'd say that Michel surrendered his swinger card. I know there are people that disagree with me on this point, but if we were all sitting around watching, would we be swingers?
  8. I agree with most of what you said, sadly, it was tainted with the above statement, which was uncalled for, racist, and historically inaccurate.
  9. Hmmmmmm.... OK, does the fact that a resort has an "adults only" area tell us anything? In NC, I only know of one resort that has such a venue and they are very swinger friendly. Other venues run from clandestine swinger friendly to don't even think about it.....
  10. No, common sense dictates that once at a sexual venue.... *something* is expected to go on..... You simply can't. I think it was nearly 45 years ago that (Amherst College, I think) came up with the genius plan that you have to ask at every step. May I hold your hand? May I kiss you? May I touch your arm? Can I touch your breast? Ad nauseum..... I thought, at the time, I'd be looking for FWB in another city, if not state.... simply too much work, too contrived, and devoid of spontaneity. Considering all sexual advances as assault is just silly. Turning lovemaking into a ridiculous farce of "Mother May I?" is equally ridiculous.
  11. I really believe there is a large regional component, considering who swings where, so I think you need to make local inquiries. However, I believe there is a general tendency for most older swingers to gravitate towards house parties and smaller groups.... even if they attend large venues, they are likely using it as a M&G tool. A new and budding trend I am seeing is towards orgies that are oldster friendly. They are few and far between, now, but seem to be increasing in number.
  12. Our home is private and clothing optional from the front door back. We have a pool. Weather permitting, there is daily skinny dipping, by somebody or another....! (Or as my wife's sign says, "We don't skinny dip anymore, we chunky dunk....")
  13. To me, nudist resorts are "gated communities" more for legal (indecent exposure) than practical reasons. Unless there is anti-swinger verbiage in the purchase contract or deed restrictions, I don't think any property owners hold the power to make others conform. However, I think that families with children have a right to privacy from adult play. Nudist resorts have played the prudishness (and religion) card far too long, with AANR acting as the political wing to force everyone to conform. I think, today, we would almost always choose a non-AANR affiliated resort over one retaining membership. Anyway, I think allowing nudism and swinging to coexist, while allowing the same privacy one would expect outside the gates, is the best course. At least, it is the least hypocritical.
  14. No... that was, by far, a reasonable expectation. In my book, they were just outrageously rude..... we just met a couple that accomplished much they same feat and are, now, indelibly penned into our fecal roster. I hope you met some nice people there and move on past this couple....
  15. They don't affect me either way, but I've heard a lot of dancers say they work on good tan lines because their customers view the pale areas as "forbidden zones." For some, I guess, the naughty girl visual thing is hot....
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