MissKat

I work in the arts and pot is, for many, part and parcel of that scene.Personally, I've used it, I've enjoyed it and will most likely use it again. That being said, for me, pot+sex= major frustration. While it might make me extremely horny it dulls sensation and, in doing so, makes it very hard for me to have an orgasm.

As a single female I haven't always found a great level of acceptance from either couples or single men. I might serve a purpose for a lot of those people but I don't consider that to mesh with my definition of acceptance. Single guys, on the whole, seem to think that because I swing it must mean I'm wanting sex with everyone, which couldn't be further from the truth. In short, if they don't call me a slut, that's generally the way they look at me. Now, while there are definately times that I love to feel slutty (and I don't apologise for that), there's a big difference to me between the way I can feel and the way someone treats me. A lack of respect probably sums it up best. With some couples there's definately been a degree of suspicion regarding my motives for swinging, probably made worse by my being in my 20's (just a feeling, but I think it's close to the truth). I can understand that, to a degree, but it certainly has made me feel uncomfortable with quite a few people. A lack of trust in me and each other probably sums that up. Of course, it does depend on the people you swing with. The ones I enjoy spending time and playing with aren't the ones who have any issues with my being 'in the lifestyle'. They don't look down on me for my involvement and they don't make any particular judgements. Whether there's a pattern or not, most of them have been quite a bit older than myself and in the mid 30's-40's. I should add that when it comes to parties and clubs there's no way I'll be attending either without first knowing the people running them (and usually would only go with a couple). Also, not interested in any that let in unscreened single men and would even hesitate to visit one that had any single guys there. Personally, I'd be interested to know what the attitude of couples on this board is to single females, especially those like myself who are in the younger age bracket.

Well, the collection seems to be growing each year although it seems to be mainly dildos that can be fitted to harnesses. At the rate Im gathering them I'll either have to retire a couple or get more bed-side drawers LOL. The main ones I own are the Soft Pack 7 inch (for, as the name suggests, when Im packing) and c-sock, Mr Bendy (also for packing), Sire, Nexus (an absolute gem), Randy and Brando (a challenge but fun for all), Babeland Silver Bullet (love it but it isn't super sturdy), Hitachi Magic Wand (the absolute best ever) and that's about it I guess. The harnesses I use are the Pleasure Principle harness (my absolute favourite harness) and Terra Firma leather harness (an exceptionally versatile harness). Apart from all that there's cuffs and a few other bits and pieces,

Whether I have a vaginal or clitoral orgasm through penetration alone or with assistance (toys, fingers, tongue) just varies from encounter to encounter and, sometimes, partner to partner. I will say though, when I have multiple orgasms through penetration alone (no extra help) they're usually clitoral orgasms. The vaginal ones tend to hit me so hard that Im not quite 'ready to go' straight away whereas the clitoral ones hit me hard but still leave me with enough energy to keep on going.

I would just add that, as a single woman in the lifestyle, Ive experienced both sides of the coin. On one hand you are in demand to a certain degree but on the other hand there have been quite a few people I've encountered who have a very negative view of singles seeing them as potential troublemakers, flakes or divas. Of course there will be those types out there and its naturally a concern to couples. Best you can do is be upfront with people and let them know exactly what you're looking for. I've also found it helps to let them know why you as a single are swinging. Some people might have had to deal with diva behaviour from a single woman along the lines of her having the attitude that people should be greatful she's spending time with them. So, make the people you're playing with aware of how greatful YOU are that they're sharing things with you.

Here in Australia swinging is very much a 'white' scene with the only real diversity coming from European singles and couples. We don't really have the racial mix of other countries so that isn't overly surprising. I would say though, that anyone outside of the norm would have a definite exotic cache and probably find themselves extremely popular.

Putting aside girth for a moment I consider 6-7 inches is nicely hung, 7-8 inches is well-hung, 8-9 inches is very well-hung 9 inches plus is 'wow'-hung (although I have found found that men who genuinely fit the last two categories and also have good girth - more than 5 inches around- are as rare as hen's teeth.)

I've never looked at myself as being promiscuous or otherwise (its not my call) so Id say that a willingness to experiment sexually was what led me to swinging. Some people might view that willingness as promiscuity and that's cool with me as I had a very good time on the road to the lifestyle LOL

Barney and Betty Rubble were definately swingers. Wilma was keen but Fred had issues (I see him more as a looker than a doer). Bewitched: The whole show was about closested sexuality so, of course, there were swingers galore in that one. Larry Tate would have been totally down for some action but stictly fmf. Louise would have faked a headache because she was really after some mfm fun. Samantha's cousin Sabrina was the ultimate swinger, always trying to get Darren to play but always frustrated by his straightness. Truth is, he had something latent going on with Uncle Arthur so that was never going to pan out. Samantha's parents split because she was really gay but neither of them were into the monogamy scene. Either one of them (or both) would definately have played with Louise: probably when Larry was bombed on martinis. Samantha was as in the closet as Darren but, despite her hotness, she was the only non-sexual one on the show apart from Mrs Kravitz, although that was kind of the point (reject your sexuality and you end up like Mrs K). The only way she could 'let it out' was via Sabrina. Oh, and those witches conventions, that was just code for a swingers party (which is why Sam never wanted to go to them). Get Smart: What can you say about that one? The Chief was definately into leather, 99 was keen to play but can you imagine what would happen to any party Max attended?

One of the first videos I ever saw was a Nina Hartley one celebrating 25 years of the Lifestyles Convention. Obviously aimed at people in the lifestyle and those interested in it so, if you're looking for something with swingers content then it could be a good choice (I found it hot as hell LOL). Otherwise, if you're after something that isn't the mainstream type of porn and is really accessible to women then I couldn't recommend anything better than AbbyWinters Apart from their site they've got a range of dvd's you can purchase and they are just gorgeous. The girls (its only girl-girl) are all so stunningly natural and light years away from the plastic looking porn stars you see everywhere else. Pretty much just the girl next door minus the overly fake set-ups, terrible story lines and awful acting.