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  • Birthday August 19

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    Massachusetts
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    technology
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    5 years
  1. Smile...it depends where I am....In Ohio where I grew up we called it pop. In New England, we call it soda....While living in Florida a short time everything was a "coke". I love the different colloquialisms of our country.-r
  2. Hi. We are 25 years married and had one exclusive/polyamory relationship a few years ago that has since ended unpleasantly. We are presently in another exclusive relationship and I find myself oscillating on certain issues and I would love to have a forum/friend to bounce things off of.
  3. My first sex toy was a Remington Electric Shaver....my mom got it for me when I was 13. It was a plug in type. I was on my bed shaving one day and I reached for something and the blades fell off. The shaver fell between my legs and the little plastic vibrating knobs touched my clit....I can still remember the sensation. I picked up the shaver and touched it to my fingers and it did not hurt. I then touched it to my clit and had my first orgasm. For the next 6 months I believe that I had the strongest calf and thigh muscles in my life for I tensed up like crazy when I used it....I then started feeling guilty...dirty...so I cut the cord and put it in my top dresser...this lasted about a week and I finally went into the basement and fixed the cord with my dad's electrical tape...I do not know how I did not fry myself...smile-r
  4. I wonder how many people this has happened to? I recently was at a club drinking soda water and lime. I had already had two drinks and it was a long drive home so I stopped drinking. I kept on telling hubby there was "pure vodka or something" in my drink. He blew me off until he took a sip. I felt so violated. I am so sorry that this happened to you. -r
  5. Smile...a caste system in the lifestyle.....truly it is no different in the vanilla world. It is a fact of life. Study after study dictates that we as a society gravitate towards the "pretty" people. If a tall man seeks a executive position verses a man of shorter stature and their credentials match the taller one will most likely get the job. In stores, young men have actually asked me for help first when a poorly little elderly lady has been standing there waiting a lot longer than I. This can also happen in a reverse manner...because I am tall, blonde and somewhat attractive people have assumed well she must be stupid...sorry... very high IQ.... The only thing someone can say is no....and if that is their answer it is their loss...regardless what these young people think they will age as well. They will be turned down as well as time passes...I can remember when 40 seemed old...but 40 and considered a MILF is even a HOTTER place in life than a 20 something blonde....smile.-r
  6. You know it seems like it just boils down to communication. This is why we like a getting to know you phase first. I have found in some cases people have not updated their profiles...you meet and then you assume....they assume....no assumptions can be made. I know it takes some of the "fun" out of it initially but the experience should be pleasurable for all involved or why do it.
  7. Yes Blondie77 I have lied and I hate that. We have one couple that we both liked a lot. They are attractive, intelligent and out going....the out going part is the problem....how do you tell someone "you are just too busy in the lifestyle for us". We do not like meet and greets for an hour and then to hop into bed....I am sorry that does not work for us. In one instance I really liked the wife and said I wanted a girl girl thing and then I was placed in a situation where the husband wanted to partake and I was not attracted to him. For clarification attraction is NOT just physical that I am talking about it is personality as well. I really tried to like this man but why should I do such a thing when I normally would not be attracted to him...how do you tell someone there is a flaw in their personality that rubs you the wrong way? Then they ask you well you seemed to lke us.......and I skirt the issue instead of being honest. Maybe one of the posters are right and most couples develop a thick skin....I just have difficulty hurting others regardless of the issue but I am developing a plan and hopefully we will learn in a tactful way how not to hurt someone when not interested regardless of the reason... Thanks for all the help....-r
  8. Hi all...Hubby and I are the type that need a getting to know you stage prior to intimacy. We are considered attractive, intelligent and humorous. Upon meeting us most people want to meet a second time. This is not always the case for us. We usually stick the getting to know you date out and try and enjoy people for who they are. Being intimate with someone is not just about being physically attractive to us it entails personality and commonality. How do we kindly tell people we are not interested?..I often get the line , "well you seemed to have a good time". I just hate hurting people but we are not going to be involved with someone just because....and what do you say when they ask a reason why..Was it what we looked like? Was it the fact...blah blah...Hope this makes sense...thanks all -r
  9. What a lovely thread....I was 17 and this guy Chris kept bugging me for a date. I told him if he got my girlfriend a date I would go out with him....It is 1979 I am in the front seat of a Green Charger and my girlfriend Cheryl is in the backseat. We are waiting for Chris and my girlfriends date to come out of his apt. My husband came out walking next to Chris and I said to Cheryl OMG that guy is mine....switch seats and of course the rest is history.......we will be married 25 years July 4th. I always tell the story...the first time I took my clothes off he told me to put them back on....the second time....well that is as well history......poor guy should have seem his face when he finally realized I was only 17 and we just had sex...He is greatest gift ever bestowed upon me and I truly wish nothing less for my children.
  10. In our two year relationship with another couple there were many "good times." There was a love there but not the type of love that hubby and I share. We thought the other couple felt the same way....but when the chips were down...(this man became terminally ill) it became apparent that he loved me a way in which I could not love him. It was very difficult to walk away from him and her both but we had to. I believe that this man and a lot of people regardless of age often equate sex with love. Love involves so many other facets....from child-rearing, illness, to caring for an elderly parent....so many things none of which even involves sex. The end of the story resulted in a man losing his wife, business, family and being alone as he struggled with his illness. I wish you the best and hope that before you enter this lifestyle you will have an answer to your question.
  11. Hi, The problem we have ran into is that usually the female is attractive and the male is as you described. We have not been able to find two people that he and I both think are attractive. Why would he or myself have a relationshiip with someone when if not attached to each other we would not give them consideration in the first place? It is not about quantity it is about quality. So....we have agreed never to "take one for team".
  12. After 25 years of being happily married I have found many means of communication that work. Maybe in this case if you have already tried talking to her you should write her a letter. Try not to go off on many topics...stick to the issue at hand. I usually put the letters on my husband's steering wheel in the morning and he reads them prior to going to work. The car is quiet. There are no distractions. I never make the letters confrontational, only expressions of feelings. I also make sure that I place many positive comments in the letter as well. I wish you much luck.
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