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Great question!! We are 'seasoned' swingers and really do enjoy newbies from time to time. We are not blood suckers like some who scower the internet looking for the first posts of newbies just to take advantage of them and make 'em bed post marks. I especially like to meet with bi woman who are a little more than curious. I think women who are just begining to explore their sexuality are very sexy. It's a challenge to me too to find the way to help them learn about themselves. Deb

speak for yourself...... I do not fell the same way you do on that issue.

What would you do if your children discovered you kinky side??? My son DID discover it, although he was over the age of 18 at the time but sill living at home. I told him we were going to be having a party at our house and asked him to spend the night at a friend’s house. He was curious and came back home in the middle of a 'pile of people' to get his pillow!! We of course were able to put our clothes back on and be in presentable condition prior to him coming in (we had blocked the front door). He was shocked but also knew he was at fault for what he had seen as he was asked and warned to stay away. The other thing I want to mention is that I have always had an open relationship with my children. They have always been able to ask me 'hard' questions and get straight answers -- even if the subject was not one I wished to broach. They respect my beliefs because I respect theirs. Simple as that. What would you say??? How would you say it??? I was straight with him telling him that we (my hubby is not his father) were swingers. I did not go into detail about it because quiet frankly it is NONE of his business. How would you explain that even though Mommy and Daddy have sex with other people, that their lives (& the kids lives) are still in a secure place??? In my opinion, if you are still MOMMY and DADDY to your children then you have NO business having swinging sessions where and when your children can walk in on you. Just plain old stupid if you ask me. :slam" We have played with other couples when their children are 'in bed' but that is not a given that they won't get out of bed and catch you as one couples we play with kid did. This couple by the way told the 3 year old kid that daddy was just kissing me good nite...then the kid says.........but daddy how comes she hasn't left yet??? Message here is don't do anything that will expose your young kids to something you can't or don't wish to explain. My question to you would be..... why would the question of security even come up?? And if you were embarrassed for your children to find out, a feeling of guilt or shame, isn't that your sub-science really trying to tell you something???? I was not embarrassed however others in the group were. My son left as quickly as he showed up so it was pretty easy to smooth things over that night. Now it’s just a standing joke with all of us. The first thing couples ask me is ....WHERE'S J? I am so curious to know how some would sit their kids down and have this type of talk with your children. I would, and did, have a straight talk with them. I discussed it like any other subject that came up. Give them only as much information as they are asking for. Know when to draw the line and tell them that the question they are asking is of a very personal nature that you do not wish to further discuss it. It will all depend upon their ages. Best advice from me is and ounce of prevention is worth a pound of explanation here!!! Deb

This is the crux of the matter........ If you have to DEFEND yourself inside your marriage and to a man who has NO COMPASSION for your feelings then your marriage is in serious trouble and in need of counseling. I wish you the best of luck.

There have been so many for me.... as I've been "THAT WAY" all my life but...one that comes to mind is.... This past New Years Eve we threw a fantastic house party. There were about 15 couples and a few singles -- both male and female -- here. The party theme was A Masquerade Ball. Everyone was require to wear a hand made mask until the unveiling -- midnight (we still played but WITH the mask on!!). I spent a lot of time building up to the party....sending guests pictures of the house all decorated up etc. With all the buildup and many people really went all out with costumes that there was ENERGY in the air. As the excitement built until midnight then we did the count down everyone kissed their respective SO's and the games began!! We had several areas of the house set up for everyone’s comfort...the basement was done in dungeon style (my favorite...whip me beat me make me feeeeeeeeeel cheeeeeeeeeap!! ) the garage set up for the smokers (it took three months for the smoke smell to dissipate!!) The living room floor was covered with mattresses for one big orgy room. Three other rooms were available for those who needed a bit more privacy. I think what made it so special for me was several of the guys got together to thank the hostess (that would be ME ) and a fantasy was fulfilled -- think many men servicing me -- Damn just getting wet thinking about it!! Thanks for letting me bring back that fabulous memory EBF!!!! Deb

I just love hearing the ecstasy bounce off of the trees.!!!! In the rain is next on the 'best of the outdoors' list!