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  1. If you choose not to tell the truth, which is your perogative, do you not have gyms, coffee houses, dog parks, public tennis courts, beaches, art galleries, bookstores where you meet your straight (and swinging) friends? ... and can therefore say "at the gym, etc." Just my $.025 worth. Bye now, gotta get ready for the gym.
  2. I'm a huge fan of Dennis Miller and all of his arcane references used in his rants, not to mention his commentaries during his (sadly) short tenure on Monday Night Football.
  3. MagicEnigma, in speaking for myself I find a nude beach as erotic as grocery shopping. That being said, more than once I have spotted someone in the aisle of Safeway that has made me stop and take another look. *g* Of course, if someone is spectacular looking you are going to give them a once over, same as at a textile beach or in a bar.
  4. There is a beautiful clothing optional beach here, and having gone there for twenty years or so, we have come to know a lot of the regulars there, many of whom have since had families. So, now there are little kids running around - children that we have known since they were babies, and their their parents philosophy is largely "if my son/ daughter begins to feel uncomfortable, then we will discontinue bringing him/ her". No one that I know goes to a naturist beach with the intention to gawk at and screw everything that walks. Although I know that there are losers who do. There is no place that is 100% safe anymore, sadly enough. Although I do not have children, I believe that good parenting is about being attentive to your child's needs, not smothering them or closing them out from life experiences. If I had kids, I would rather they play at a nude beach (supervised) than playing violent video games where they "kill" things and people. And that is my $0.25 worth.
  5. Me - 38, Mr. 40, together 8 years, married 2, swinging pretty near the entire time, taking a little hiatus (from the lifestyle) for a bit whilst we work out some stuff.
  6. If it's so goddamned simple, how come all we've ever had is ffm? Grrrr. So frustrated. Like I say, he and I can't leave the house without falling over single women, but find a single guy - hell no! Oh well, I guess it's not really the destination, but the journey.
  7. My husband and I have a 2 year age difference, but my first (I sound like Liz Taylor here) was 12 years older than me which makes a huge difference when you're 19/ 20 years old, although I don't think it would matter much now. We (obviously) didn't last, and I think it was not so much age as maturity. At 20 I was not ready to deal with the stresses of real life and his actual, not necessarily sexual, life experiences were way more in focus than mine. In answer to Roxy's question, so far we still have only played in threes and so I cannot say whether there is a disparity of ages in the couples who swing. Hopefully we find out soon.
  8. Ms.O - ArcaneReference's job = systems, so on behalf of all the geeks of the world, we salute you (once we put our slide rules down). And, you're right, we're cute as hell! Have a great day everyone. I have to go see if I can get out of doing housework, cooking and making babies so I can earn a collassal $10K just like Bob so that I will no longer be dependent on people like him. **I will not resort to name-calling, I will not resort to name-calling** my mantra while on this thread.
  9. Hi, again Bob. Once again I have to go back to my previous definition of you. Misogynist. Sorry, dude. If the shoe fits, right? There's an old joke up here: What's the difference between a slut and a bitch? A slut will fuck anyone. A bitch will fuck anyone but YOU. Have a nice day. Hope the interest rates rise so you can come a little closer to that ten grand you go on about so often. Ohhhhh... what a fortune. NOT. Just FYI, in Canada, I believe (not sure tho, but will check) that in order for a person to live below the national poverty line, you have to earn less than $14,000. Enjoy your $10K and your Kraft Dinner.
  10. We met the old fashioned way - in a bar. We went on a second date 3 days later, he moved in and never left.
  11. I think it depends on whether or not he was drinking (rum&coke which I hate) or eating something repulzive like fried food the day before - it upsets the pH balance or something in his body and changes the taste.
  12. Westcoast, Canada. I guess that falls under "Other - Africa, Antarctica"
  13. Ever since we got together talking dirty has always been a HUGE part of sex with us. And always, the fantasizing that goes along with that talk "take you to a club and have me and some other guy..." or "watch you fucking a redhead while I lick you and her ....blah blah blah". At any rate, some 6 months after we got together, our next door neighbour popped over for a new years eve cocktail. I was wearing a short skirt and some really high heels (my fave hooker shoes!) because Mr. AR and I were going to go to a niteclub. To make a long story short, she couldn't take her eyes off my legs, then eventually her hands off my thighs yada yada yada - the three of us fucked all night - never did again with her, but we remained good neighbours til she moved a couple months later. The rest is history, really. So, the long and short is, no - neither of us thought the other was crazy and, in fact, were both very happy that we were so in tune with each the other's sexual appetites. Oh, that and I have always been truly bisexual, albeit probably 70% of the time involved with men rather than women.
  14. Without meaning to sound defamatory, this is honestly a social comment, I thought circumcision was a Catholic (or Christian) thing, and the reason for the so-called "circumcision culture" in North America was the disability (in the beginning) of the separation of church from state and the state holding power. i.e. if you were cut, you were included and hence not part of the "other" group. Sort of like a hiding out. Oh, and Mr. ArcaneReference (cut) aside, the best lover and the greatest love of my life was uncut. So, no preference really, I guess like that old song, it ain' t the meat, it's the motion. And one more for the record, I am also buying boobs, not because I had had kids (none) but because I want to have 'em.
  15. Mis-quote of FLORI-daman "good luck, I wish I had that tolerance". Thanks. I wish I had it [tolerance] too. There is no tolerance involved here - I am absolutely intolerant of lying and/ or cheating - it is attempting to re-establish boundaries and see whether or not the trust will be able to be re-built. A lot of time and effort has been invested and it would be a shame to see it all blown because of a knee-jerk emotional reaction. If our marriage NOW does not work, I can honestly say we gave it a serious try to repair damage. Will we swing again? Likely not for awhile. If again, then only together as before. I still have some healing to do to get over it.
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