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want2knowmore

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About want2knowmore

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    new york
  • Interests
    diving, gardening, fishing
  • Swinging Experience
    Not likely to happen anytime soon.
  1. I couldn't sell it, hell most nights I can't give it away!!!!
  2. Nah, I get what you are saying and to some extent that was probly the case early on. We have been together for a long time, nearly 2 decades. I don't push it, something I learned here, I try to communicate my sincerest feelings. (Something I was never good at) I still try though. It will be like some comment she makes and I'll ask her to explain, and she just flat out refuses. Go figure. Any ways that is why I asked. I have no interest in leaving her. I know her so well, but she seems to have a wall when it comes to sex. Anyways my question was a bit pyscological more than anything else. I got to stop hijacking threads. it might be awhile before I get back, so thanks....
  3. Didn't mean to make it statement with out variations or offend. I think that when someone represses a thought or desire it effects them in ways they may not be aware of. A previous poster was talking about his wifes lack of desire. It was simply something I noticed in the post and in my own life. So the jist was if some one buries thier sexual desires CAN it also shut down thier sex drive. (which is what I think maybe happening in my sitituation) My wife will make very vague remarks, and when I ask for a little more information she refuses and shut right down. I have approached this in diffrent ways and guessing what she is trying to communicate has been about 50/50. While I do not deny you have no fantasy you are also living in a lifestyle that offers more than what is availible to the "vanilla" world. Besides I doubt anyone in the SL can be called frigid, passive, unadventurous, or without interest in sex. I have been with other women, before being married, that were not comfortable talking about thier sexual desires or wants. ( One of the reasons I enjoy this board is because people tend to be more willing to share thoughts, and I have learned a thing or two) There is also the possiblity that I miss read your post, I don't always catch tone. If I upset you I apologize.
  4. Several times in this, and other threads, I noticed that the women are not willing to share thier fantasy. As this is part of the theme of my own story, why is it that women feel they must bury thier fantasy? Could this habit have some sort of adverse effects that lead to the lack of desire for sex?
  5. I saw that too, late last night and now I can't seem to locate it either. Trips are few and far between. The next several weekends are a fiasco of activity. (including her birthday) I willk leave that time alone for now. October is gearing up to be busy too. I am taking all the advice I have learned here and taking my time. Given that things seem to be going that way I am wondering if she will think to bring up the subject?"
  6. Thanks, I am just amazed at the sitituation. She has claimed in the past that she doesn't have fantasies about sex. It was unique in that she was watching at all, but I would have bet it was going to kill the mood. I think when we do talk about things I want to say something alongs the line of an avenue she can explore if she wants to. Me, I have no problem with watching porn so it is a bonus to me to have her there. As far as any swinging goes it is a long ways out there at the moment, (or not at all)but as always I would like to thank all for thier help. I want to keep it light but not overbearing, I would like some suggestion for porn tittles that may have a little plot to them (for her), and still be able to approach the subject without raising all sorts of alarms (for me), do such exist?
  7. Re-load... or just an average update... So it has been a few monthes since my last update. We were alone for a few days and had some time. It wasn't a discussion this time but I think it was just as productive. We went to an Adult store for "toy" shopping. WHen we purchased one it came with a dvd. She has never watched any porn with me. But she popped it in the portable player in the car and watched some of it on the way home. I figured it was going to be a mood killer. She never showed any intrest in watching one before. Even when we got home she played part of it and was watching. At one point I know it was two women she was watching in the car (which she has stated in the past didn't "do" anything for her). I was to busy watching her watch the movie. It was shamelessly bad and even way over the top even for porn, but she never really looked away. This to me is a big leap. I didn't press anything and we had a interesting few days. I think I will try to add a few "better" dvds to the collection... Anyways that is the latest in my world... as always any insight would be welcome
  8. I just wanted to say "Good Job" All thoug I don't swing (yet?) I will not cheat either. But in my life I have known girls/women who decide to stay and make it work. Few suceed. And some I have help move out and on. It is never an easy choice to end a relationship. This is why I think some decide to "stick it out". I like, and respect emotionally strong women. Best wishes.
  9. Too, soon. I have been working on this since before I found this forum. Sorry this sounds harsh, it isn't. Slowly is the only way to do this, I learned this before my 1st posting. This has been a great resource, and I thank you all. More as I have to tell.
  10. Reviving a thread, sort of. Last week weekend we had a long drive and we managed to get by the usual crap that stalls the conversation. We talked mostly about threesomes and my other milder fantasies. By the time we got home we were exhausted but we showered and went to bed and kept talking. The sex was great. I was telling her my favorite, for the moment, FFM fantasy. Which I figured would kill her mood. But it didn't. She also started talking a little "dirtier' than normal. It was enough to put me over. Could the seed have grown? I figure she was either going with it for me , or she has an idea of her own At least she didn't freak at the mention of it. She even stated that she is willing to talk about it more later. I can't wait to have her read this board and see the positive support that is here. More later W2M
  11. Yes thanks, What other subtles things can be done, is there a movie that isn't x-rated that portrays the sls positively? ( She won't watch porn) That might keep the lines of communication open...
  12. This pass weekend my wife amd I finally had some free time to talk. We have used a MMF fantasy a few times in the past, and made comments about it on and off over the last 15 yrs. But I no sooner approached it seriuosly, and she flat out refused to talk about it. She rarely openly admits to anything, and I am going with my gut instinct right now. I also know I have to be careful not to assume things with her just because of my desire. My gut tells me that I should wait a few weeks and bring it up again, I think she had a knee jerk reaction to the idea, and I will give the seed time to "grow". She started the next morning making positive side comments, similar to those we said before I put it on the table. We even had sex in the morning, for the 1st time in years... In the time that I have known her she has claimed to have no sexual fantasies although she enjoys sex very much. This seems a little strange to me. I am not the most subtle person in the room either, any suggestions to soften the edge? Well I'll keep at it, my birthdays in a few weeks and we have tentive plans to be alone...
  13. I don't think I am being hard on myself, but thanks just the same. It is just that as I read through some of the other post and threads the common factor seems to be that all the parties involved really need to be on the same page. Granted this would be harder if it was not in the same room. Right now I am good and I apprecite the answers.
  14. I know my post is based soley on the OP post. I guess I should have worded it more generally and not specific to this post. For know my question is answered Thanks for the insight
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