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swing52001

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About swing52001

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  • Relationship Status
    married male
  • Location
    Kawarthas, Ontario
  • Occupation
    retired for now
  • Swinging Experience
    How long have I been swinging? Long enough. how much? not enough

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  • SLS Name
    swing52001
  1. Sex on the first date? Of course! That said, circumstance certainly has some authority over the decision. My preference is to at least get to know potential playmate/s through chat and email but sometimes the opportunity for fun is far more enticing than conversation over drinks. Call it chemistry, or kismet, or anything you like. That flash of electricity between two bodies eager to satisfy lust and want, gets me every time.
  2. My wife is in the same boat. Her inability to engage in sex has been a problem for some time. She has offered a hall pass for which I was extremely appreciative but has since rescinded it and lays the guilt trip infidelity on my every time I mention it. Not sure what I'm going to do and so can't offer much except to encourage you keep working on it. The fact that you are both working on it will make the difference between satisfaction or unhappy situation.
  3. Straight doesn't begin to describe my wife. Straight-laced or Victorian might be better descriptors. I can't blame it all on her upbringing or some of the television that she watches. There are hormones and physical considerations too. But we can still make each other laugh.
  4. I guess its a relative thing. No, not blood relatives.... relative to chemistry, situation, timing etc. My experience is limited. I have had the good fortune to be with ladies who were 15 and 20 years younger, and a couple in my age group. We enjoyed more than one night stands in each of the relationships, so it seemed to me that it was satisfactory for all parties. There's a woman who is 12 years my senior who is one of the sexiest women I have ever met and I'd hop in the sack with her without a moment's hesitation. As we age, we are less likely to be distracted by youthful vagueries (not sure if that's a word but it seems to fit) and we begin to appreciate and value experiential situations from a different perspective.
  5. Having been a "dad" three times over, I have had the luxury of sex with a pregnant lady (not often - her idea ) But happily, I have had the opportunity to satisfy my thirst for hot milk many times over as my wife could respond with copious volumes of milk and she liked nursing. I'm sure there are lots of adverse things that could happen during sex while preggers so being careful is good advice but having said that you would want to be careful in your choice of partners and what you do with them anyway, wouldn't you. Sharing your milk with the many eager men who will want some won't hurt anybody as long as you can produce when it's time to feed baby.
  6. skeghed, you need to talk this out with your hubby. Tell him what you think you want and tell him what you think your fears are. You will ultimately decide to go for it or not. Either way you will have come to the decision together and that will enhance your relationship. If you do decide to try a couples situation, make sure that the rules of engagement are well understood and maybe even the consequences of breaking them. He did jump the gun once before. Best to be prepared so that there are no further skirmishes at the expense of your mutual trust. Oh, one further admonishment. Do this for both of you not just for your hubby.
  7. Don't worry about it rickmccool, it's probably normal to feel that way.
  8. Good thread. I'm 59 and although my physical reaction to sexual stimulus is still fairly good, there are times when I realize that I'm not a hot young stud anymore (well, ya gotta have something, if it ain't in yer pants, thank goodness for imagination ) So maybe there's something there for me. But that's not why I'm here. My partner is my focus. If it isn't working for her, it doesn't matter how energetic I am. My wife's libido has all but disappeared so I'm interested in a product that may be helpful for the ladies.... none have weighed in on the subject yet. Is there a reason for that?
  9. While my wife is not yet curious enough to partake of the joys of the lifestyle however, I can comment on the possibilities that present when you meet someone who is traveling. We have met and joined a vanilla group who have become, it is likely, lifelong friends. The interesting and pertinent fact is that the couples are each living in different and scattered states across the continental US. If we hadn't gone out for dinner with the first couple we would not have met any of the others. We would definitely have been the lesser for it. So, my vote would be to take advantage of the opportunity to meet with a traveling couple or verifiable single. The proviso being; a, if you can without turning your life upside down, :juggling:and b, the ever present, if it feels/seems/looks/ ok. That might mean prior contact of one sort or another or not depending on mood and/or circumstance. It goes without saying that unverified singles and obvious cheaters could bring a load of drama that no one needs or wants. jmho
  10. I love the way a thread can lie dormant for a while and then spring to life without provocation. I haven't had the good fortune to have the mfm experience but having read the above I am encouraged to continue it's pursuit. If someone judges that it is wierd for me to have the desire to see another man with my wife, so be it.... I won't ask them to join
  11. Bored is a negative term. I'm bored with the routine that has developed over 30+ years of bonkin the same woman the same way. I'm sure she is too. That's definitely negative. But I think we're not bored with each other or we wouldn't be still together. That's a plus. There is some middle ground in some people's sex lives where experience, excitement, variety, fun and several other equally positive adjectives may be used to describe the activities that we describe as 'swinging'. I can't speak with the authority of a seasoned swinger but I have learned this from the posts I read right here on the "board" and that's not boring
  12. Wish we had experience to say with authority:sad:..... but I would likely vote for the "sometimes" answer because it would depend very much on who we were with, ie; friends, lovers, or acquaintances just poking around for fun. It surely isn't a decision to be made without serious thought.
  13. Man, I wouldn't touch that invite even if I couldn't say 'vice-squad'. I might be insulted that a girl would invite me to spend $100 on her without even so much as a "hey stupid, wanna be a 'found-in' ?" Head for higher ground.
  14. The answer to the question of whether one prefers one night stands may be a bit misleading unless the answer is qualified somehow. I suspect that most disappointing dates, in the end, are one night stands, but many one night stands are not a disappointment.
  15. My wife is either not curious enough or not bold enough to have tried having sex with another person. I have invited her to try on many occasions and she knows the invitation is open ended. If she feels like it I have encouraged her to go for it. If she decides to try another man (or woman for that matter) it will be at her sole discretion. We are not each other's chattels. We posess only the emotion that is the basis and strength of our 37 year relationship. Everything else is shared. Well, except for the domestic stuff she says I neglect Mr. Spoo, you got it right.
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