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  1. I'm a little saddened. I thought the numbers would be higher. Maybe we're not as evil and outrageous as others may think.
  2. If memory serves me right, you stated you were in law enforcement. If so, I would highly consider the reprocussions that would take place should your after work "activities" get out. Wasn't a lady fired in N.y for posing in playboy? Either way, it is VERY risky to say the least and besides embarressment, you may face being fired. I'd tred carefully on that on.
  3. Dito Wow this was excellent. I would have to say, your definetly at a point where you need to STOP swinging and get out of the lifestyle and safe your marriage while you still can. IF you even can. If she's willing to give you up for a little "fun." Stoutgate is right, then it's a relationship. It's more than fun. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Their are places out there that will offer help and counciling at a low cost or some even free. CALL AROUND!!! It's worth it. Take what ever money you would have spent on swinging, condoms, wine, candles, clothing, toys, whatever and invest it in your marriage. Yep, I sound radically, but marriage is the biggest and most important investment you will ever make in your life. Remember the part "till death do you part." That's radical.
  4. Sad isn't it?? No we can't hide from the world. We do the best we can and hold on for the ride.
  5. I recently watched a 20/20 or 48 hours special on this topic. (It was one of those shows, they're all the same to me) Anyway- It seems that the greatest concern that they showed towards the "lifestyle" this couple led was the fact that they took these couples home. Now, while I agree that their priviate lives are their priviate lives, I also agree that people that you "pick up" at parties and don't know from adam, yet you choose to take them to your place of residence while your children are home sleeping, does, pose a greater risk to your childrens saftey. So, if there is anything that is good that can come out of this, even though the people they took home has nothing to do with this particular crime, hopefully in the future it can protect others from going through this by hiding their lives a bit better. From what I understand the neighbor was a pervert who saw what was going on a flipped out. Their fault??? Absolutely NOT. But, in the future those of us who has children, may want to evaluate carefully who we do allow to enter into our homes.
  6. Hi This is a VERY touchy subject here that has been discussed before. This can get pretty heated as there are a great deal of different opinions and personal beliefs involved. You may want to scan through some of the older topics. Or, maybe Julie (our hostess) who has recently changed our forum can quide you as to where it is. Good luck with your decision.
  7. Like we always say, a college degree doesn't give a person common sense or morals, it gives them a piece of paper that says they are smart. period.
  8. I really appreciate that. That explains a lot to me. I just couldn't understand the reason behind the sudden changes in feelings, but what mattmann said makes sense to me. Thanks for clarifying that up. Bambi, just take it slow and be sure before you begin!!!
  9. I guess now I am confused. Jelousy is jelousy. I'm not sure I understand why it is o.k. just because someone says they think they are inadequet. First all of you were giving the advice of WOOOOOOOO hold it. Now its all systems go because of the type of jelousy. Maybe it's because I've never had to deal with it, but would someone please explain to me the differenc??
  10. If he's not sure of himself and feels he not good enough for her, wouldn' swinging just draw a deeper wedge between them? Everyone here has always agreed that you must have a good solid marriage that is STRONG before you can swing. If he isn't feeling adequet enough for her it isn't strong, therefore swinging will fuel the fire and he may even turn on her with the thoughts that "so and so can satisfy you better then me, I'm oughta here." Jealous tendencys can go either way at any time. I would work those issues out with him first and be sure that you have, before going anywhere with the topic of swinging.
  11. The snitty kitty has a point about the size thing. I happen to be a little bitty thing. I have small breasts and a small opening. My husband is average in size and even then he has to be gentle with me or it is just too much for me. EVEN after having had 4 children. I have come to realize that Isatisfy my husband with my itty bitty breasts and that is all that matters. Everyone else can go climb a tree for all I care and my husband satisfies me. In fact, if he was a bit smaller, he could probably do so even more. It's not about quanity, its about quality!!! The wife
  12. You were on a roll Liza, don't stop now. I'm still trying to figure out why this is such a big deal to this mike guy considering he claims to be married and not single, so I say "what difference does it make?"
  13. Hey Liza, are you refering to me, or the guy who has a name that sounds like a computer code????????
  14. MK7124, I noticed that towards the end of your original post you said something to the effect of: "Insecurity on your husbands part about loosing his sweetheart to a single male. Better go with the married one - he is safer. I think most people who swing are hypocrites." I think there is some truth to that statement but maybe not in the way that you seem to be emplying. In some, not all, but some ways it is safer to entrust your sweetie to a married person. If you put the matters of the heart and trust aside, there are alot of aspects to swinging such as physical safety. You certainly wouldn't want a man to become rough with your wife or loose control with her. And there are also the issues of STD's. Now, certainly being married does not make you excempt from either of these issues, but the simple fact that another women has committed and is still committed to you does make the odds a bit better. Saftey for a loved one always has to be the first priority and if the perception of saftey is there in married men, than that is where one needs to go. Just my 2 cents.
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