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Mr. Sparks

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About Mr. Sparks

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  • Birthday November 28

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    Couple
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    Austin, TX
  1. I am sensitive to tobacco smoke (my eyes get red and weepy after 20 minutes or so). Mrs. Sparks is a reformed smoker and doesn't like the smell at all. I don't think we could play with moderate or heavy smokers. No offense, but most heavy smokers no longer have a keen sense of smell just don't realize the extent to which the odor permeates their hair, clothing, furniture, carpeting, car etc. Laying off the cigs for a day or so and gargling three times isn't going to make it go away. We would consider playing with folks who smoked only occasionally.
  2. Mrs. Sparks and I are working on trying to find our all-important first couple to play with, so the condom issue is up front and imminent for us. Mrs. Sparks is uneasy about STDs and wants her partners to wear a condom. I'm not as scared as she is, but I will honor her concerns, so that means I will wear one, too. While I agree that careful selection of partners and thorough personal hygeine are very important protective factors, the Centers for Disease Control have stated emphatically that, properly used, condoms offer the best protective measure (short of abstinence or monogamy) that is available to the general public. Although they offer imperfect protection, I dare say that many folks in the Lifestyle wouldn't be swinging without them. As far as the latex issue goes, the smell and feel of latex isn't pleasant, but only about 3% of the U.S. population is allergic to it, from what I have read. Unless you are having sex with condoms quite frequently (or marathon sessions), I don't see how the latex issue is much of a health concern at all. I would think that you are more likely to suffer tangible physical harm from carpet burns, sore or bruised genitals or kissing someone with a cold or flu. I'm curious if anyone here has tried condoms made of alternative materials, such as polyurethane or Tactylon. They supposedly allow more sensation because they heat up more than latex. Polyurethane, at least, is also supposed to be tasteless and odorless. Haven't tried one myself. I can never fault anyone's decision to use a condom. It's a personal judgment, and I don't see the validity of trying to push either a pro-condom or anti-condom point of view. I feel pretty safe about swimming without one, but then again, I think about having to explain to my parents/in-laws how a monogamous spouse married for 17 years has contracted an STD!
  3. Hmmmmmm. What sounds sexy is as infinitely variable as what can feel sexy on a given occasion. There seems to be an abundance of aggressive, misogynistic songs about sex these days, but a dwindling amount of the soulful, sexy sounds of seduction (like Nina Simone!). Being parents and very professionally challenged, Ms. Sparks and I need tunes of the latter variety. We also like Diana Krall, Aretha Franklin, Nina Simone, Sade, John Lee Hooker, B.B. King and just about any softer jazz. We especially love Tina Turner, Van Morrison and Mark Knopfler (very sexy guitar and voice). As far as individual songs go, try listening to "Right in Time" by Lucinda Williams: Not a day goes by I don't think about you You left your mark on me; it's permanent a tattoo Pierce the skin and the blood runs through Oh, my baby The way you move it's right in time The way you move it's right in time It's right in time with me I stand over the stove in the kitchen Watch the water boil and I listen Turn off the television Oh, my baby The way you move it's right in time The way you move it's right in time It's right in time with me I take off my watch and my earrings My bracelets and everything Lie on my back and moan at the ceiling Oh, my baby I think about you and that long ride I bite my nails I get weak inside Reach over and turn off the light Oh, my baby The way you move it's right in time The way you move it's right in time It's right in time with me
  4. As a psychoactive drug, marijuana affects different people in different ways. I enjoy getting high once in a while when Ms. Sparks and I have sex. It enhances the experience by amplifying my sense of taste, touch, etc. MJ tends to relax Ms. Sparks, while it can sometimes bring up an anxious feeling in me. Accordingly, I don't get high with just anyone. I would have to feel very safe and comfortable with someone other than my wife to have sex with them under the influence.
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