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cek

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About cek

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  • Birthday 11/09/1944

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  • Relationship Status
    Single Male
  • Location
    Springfield, MA area
  • Interests
    Computers, Camping, Hiking, Bicycling, long walks and intimate talks, etc.
  • Occupation
    part-time clerk and college student
  1. Perhaps it is best to give an example as to why. I was in a chat room the other day and a guy (let's just call him steve) kept coming on and asking rude and suggestive things of a lady I was talking with (let's just call her jen). Well steve never got it into his head that when "jen" said something and I responded, he did not need to jump right in. She basically told him to "bug off" but he did not grasp that. We went to a private chat and when we came back, he was gone. We made the agreement that if he came back we would not recognize him as existing. It is that type of a single male that does not consider that it is a unit (man AND woman) that he is talking to that makes it very bad for the rest of us guys. Yes, I have seen single females also ignore the feelings of the wife involved, but somehow it just seems to be more inconsiderate when the guy does it. I have met up with couples that I became friends with, and if other situations in life had not taken me to a part of the country where I could not realistically see them often, it is safe to say we would have perhaps continued to this day our mutual meetings. A note to any single guys reading this. I do believe that if you are considerate of the feelings of the lady and the man in a couple situation at a party or other meeting, the word will get around. A guy needs to be attractive, and that (I think) is more about how he talks with both of the couples, senses what they want and gives that, is honest, caring, sensitive, etc. than what "equipment" or "body shape" he might possess. As was said here, he is entering into the life of a couple, and so he must operate on their ground rules and seek their pleasure way above his. It is all about honesty and no one being pushed into doing something they do not want to! Don't get upset guys, just go along with it and be the very best "third party" to anyone that asks you to play. But first you need to be the best "third person" in a conversation. Don't make a bad first impression, I have done that to often in life, and it is almost impossible for some folks to forget how you came off first!
  2. comment on what ATAK said. It is about screening out the SCUM. Me thinks there has to be more than a monitary screening. Otherwise you may get the obnoxious rich scum and not the working guy who really cares. Just some thoughts. However I have know of clubs near the Albany NY area that had some really strict rules and orientation meetings, so when a party happened you were clear about what could and could not be allowed. Also the other posts are right guys, we need to sense how her s/o feels. Often we just focus on the person we are conversing with and ignor everyone esle. can't do that here. just my thoughts
  3. Me thinks it is just plain horney. If I am caught up in the moment and it seems to feel right and the rest of the group I am with is doing it, I might flow along. But I think it is easier for gals to be bi or bi-curious as they have a more tender aspect in sex. Most guys I have known well seem to think they must take a really active roll and that is probably expected. Most gals seem to be more passive, in my view. Hence when there is FF the experience is more like an exploration than anything else. sort of like, I like this, do you like it when I do this to you? The moans and groans express whether more of the same is wanted or not. bi-curious, I veiw, as a neat phrase that says you have thought it over and you would maybe become involved, if the situation and the people are "right". As for me personally, as a guy, I get all excited seeing two gals appreciate each other. I think part of it is my wanting to learn what they like. If I can learn that she touched her in a certain way and it was really responded to well ---then I might be able to learn to do the same thing and "gently ease her 'over the edge' so to speak" in making her very happpy. Me thinks that is what this has to be all about, making you happy. You do what you want to do and non't let anyone else get you into something you don't want to do. So if you do not yearn for FF, but you have wondered about it, perhaps the phrase I saw of "thinking about bi-courious but still calling myself straight' that I saw somewhere seems like the right phrase. Whatever you do, enjoy doing it, or don't do it at all HUGs and
  4. Well, when it comes to sex with a lady, I say I would welcome a reply through my page if any lady would like to help me find out. But I can remember swinging privately after being at a club with a couple then from Syracuse NY. This was to be a MfM affair and he had a very large cock. As it was she wanted me to go down on him as she said it turned her on. I attempted to but could not "get into it" all that much. But I did it because I did like her. It is just a big turn on for a guy to scoop a woman up in his arm while she is next to him and hold her so she rests her head on his chest and he can caress her back and butt and feel that smooth flesh. Men, I think, are just to busy being competitive and the MM sex is still not the same as FF sex. FF sex is more like sharing in an experience, not one having dominion over the other. Mutual masturbation I think comes closer to the FF sex thing in the male world, and we can get into that. But, when all is said and done my biggest thrill is seeing the lady in question ecstatic with pleasure.
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