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RedRobin

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  1. Julie, you've clarified your question and if I understand correctly, you are asking if the couple in question had an age difference between them, i.e., he is 50, she is 35...would I still play with them. Correct? And my answer remains the same. Sure, no problem, but it would depend on the people involved. If I liked them both, had something in common with them both, and was attracted to them both - sure. Their age difference would not matter to me. All of those factors have to come into play (no pun intended) before age is even a consideration.
  2. I haven't had the club experience yet, so I can't respond to that specific topic, but as a rule, I've never had any problem talking to anyone in any circumstance so I can't see that I would change in that environment. I'm one of these that can always find something to talk about and only on the rarest of occasions have I encountered people that don't respond. People like to talk about themselves, their work, their ideas, news features, food likes and dislikes, vacations, pets (oh! yes! pets! dogs, cats, birds, snakes, lizards - doesn't matter), children, phone service, price of groceries (and gas currently) and the list just goes on and on. On the very rare occasions I meet someone I just can't stimulate to conversation, I figure they aren't the type of people for me anyway. I've only met a few couples for dinner and drinks, but haven't had any bad conversation experiences. Maybe a tad tense initially given the purpose of the meeting, but after about 5 minutes, things just seem to flow along. This reminded me of something off subject. I used to date a fellow (note the past tense) whose main complaint about me (main? one of many complaints!) was that I "knew" everyone. Checkers in the stores, dry cleaning lady, guy at the gas station. That sort of thing. Yeah. I do. And that's bad?
  3. I voted for sure, no problem, but it would depend on the people. I've known some younger people that were really old and some old people that were really young. The person/people would be the deciding factor for me. Not just a number.
  4. Where are all the beautiful people? I thought they were all right here on the Swingers Board! Be Happy! RedRobin
  5. Isn't it interesting how we all hear and read the same things, but come to different conclusions about what we heard or read? I was discussing something similar with a dear friend not long ago as we discussed the fact that men are more often color blind than women. We then started discussing what different colors meant to us. In other words, when I say something is yellow, what does that really mean to you? Are we seeing the same shade of yellow? Or are you seeing something I might call green? Police have said that "eye witnesses" often report entirely different things, but all swear that they saw the accident, etc., perfectly. I just find that interesting. Sorry. I said all of that just to say that I didn't find the remarks of the poster aggressive at all and thought they were interesting questions, indeed. I haven't read a huge number of adds, but I also wondered the same thing about everyone reporting themselves as D&D free based upon the statistics I have read about the prevalence of HPV and HSV. Different sources claim different statistics, but I have read anywhere from 70% to 90% of the population have HSV. In this poll, only 2 people out of 20 claim infection and I believe that correlates to about 10% (but please don't trust my math!). If the statistics are accurate, you would expect 14 to 18 of the respondents to report symptoms of infection. (Again, my math is not to be trusted!) What accounts for the difference in the general population vs. the lifestyle population? Are the statistics over reported? Maybe in an effort to market the expensive drugs on the market? Is there an age correlation since it seems that the much, much younger generation has a more open attitude towards sex than some of us did just a few years ago? Are some of these viruses spread in ways not yet discovered? Personally, I'm a big believer in the psychogenic aspects of disease and wonder if our mental state doesn't do more to perpetuate illness than actual exposure to bacterias or viruses. Maybe that aspect alone could prevent the spread of the virus among lifestylers as they are comfortable with sharing their sexuality and don't suffer "guilt feelings" from enjoying one night stands and that sort of thing. I don't know, but I do find the comments and questions of the original poster interesting and believe it gives everyone something to think about. Then, after thinking, and like all things, they have to decide what is best for them. RedRobin
  6. I think there is definitely some merit to your questions and comments, but I don't think people are going to be as straightforward and honest as you would wish because of that very stigma you mention. I've read the statistics, also, and thought the same exact things, but unfortunately, the stigma is part of what has increased the statistics. In other words, because of the stigma attached to STD's, people refuse to admit it and continue to spread the infections. It is much like mental illness and the stigma attached to that. We think nothing of telling people we have pneumonia or a bladder infection or something like that, but we hide our depressions and mental illnesses and often, don't seek treatment for something that could be easily treated. I don't remember right off hand, but the rate of depression is extremely high. With short-term counseling or medication therapy, people could live much happier and more productive lives, but most of us would not want that information in our medical records as it could be used against us at some future date. (Thinking employment) Also, and particularly with married couples, they might be hesitant to go to their family doctors to request STD testing for fear they might have to explain why they are concerned if they are supposed to be living in a monogamous relationship. Then, too, those same medical records go to the insurance company and most of us are insured through our work. Who knows who has access to those records. When you combine that with the cost of getting tested frequently, there are many issues for people to contend with. The other point I want to make is that testing is not proof-positive. There are too many areas for mistakes to be made in the interpretation of the results. Then, too, there is an incubation period for most viruses. I wonder what it would be for those you mentioned? In other words, what would be the time frame between contracting the virus and it showing up on a test? I don't disagree with what you are asking or expecting, but I do think you are asking and expecting more than you will receive from most people. Unfortunately, you are presenting that *perfect world" scenario. Be Happy! RedRobin
  7. This is an interesting subject to read about. I believe more single women would enjoy participating in the lifestyle if they were able to find true mentors. Someone to attach themselves to, in a manner of speaking, for safety and security reasons. It is difficult trying to even date as a single woman. The idea of participating as a swinger can become overwhelming to the point of some giving up the idea shortly after it is thought of. Another thought I had along this same line has to do with single men. Most people have rather negative feelings about single men, but they, too, could probably benefit greatly by having a couple take them in hand to assist in guiding them. Like everyone else coming in, single men have nothing to base their actions and reactions on other than past experiences in the dating arena, but those actions are not always appropriate in swinging situations. I believe the best mentor would be someone that I didn't have any type of sexual relationship with, but someone that could answer questions, be a sounding board, maybe go with me to visit some of the clubs, and just help me pave my way in general until I began to grow comfortable and felt like shedding my water-wings. And yes, I totally agree that this board could serve some of the same purposes as a mentor but a real-life person would be nice also. RedRobin
  8. I really enjoy hot tubs especially when I have one of those great big thick terry robes to wrap around me as soon as I get out. It just makes me feel as if I'm lying in the lap of luxury. Followed by a glass of wine, of course. I can't say I've had any multiple-partner hot tub experiences (yet) but find that there is nothing more relaxing than coming home from work and enjoying a visit to the hot tub. Of course, just the relaxation alone can get you in the mood for lot's more fun! And remember, those terry robes come with easily undone sashes. Skinny dipping and walking on a beach? Gosh...that sounds wonderful, but some of us are land-locked with nary a beach in sight. But for a vacation spot that would be grand. I imagine that in the Pacific Northwest they have to have hot tubs as the weather isn't always conducive to skinny dipping or beach walking. But as they say: "When in Rome..." RedRobin
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