Sparkysweet

Well, this one's a bit close to home. Ms Sparky suffers from Multiple Sclerosis - and we have discussed in some detail. We have both experienced guilt and remorse (before we started this direction) in the past. In fact for a period of time every time (we counted)...for about 20 times we had sex & she orgasmed (visualize mind blowing)...she also experienced some type of episode, or seizure that would just about freak out most people. Imagine my guilt of knowing what was coming in pursuit of my pleasure...and hers in worrying about staying sexually satisfying. Yet we persevered and finally said "screw it", we're going to live life to the fullest. Mostly she just gets to orgasm for 30 minutes instead or starts orgasming at the slightest hint of the erotic. Overall, we're blessed as much as cursed...our life has changed for the better in many ways, and our relationship and honest communication is simply unbelievable. We each found new life friend with each other and our slow intro into the lifestyle has been unbelievable...better each step. As for sexual needs, when/if we're affected, we'll work through ensuring needs are met whatever happens. Now as for swinging. First we're up front with others - no prob yet. We also have to work around symptoms...and finally if she becomes incapacitated and unable to adjust or enjoy, I'd simply lose interest in the lifestyle as all my pleasure and fantasies are derived from rocking her world. Sex with someone might be there and she'd want that, but it would pale in comparison to what we're getting out of each new experience to share with each other for now. If you really love your partner the way most profess, I'd think that the experience would lose a lot of its energy.

I thought you could not touch them either, just ask the club what the rules are, each one is a bit different. I thought I would laugh and be embarrassed, but I closed my eyes and felt the sensation, the music, and was surprised the different level of sexuality and eroticism (sp) it brought. About seeing my husband pleasure another woman, I have had to visualize this big time, however if we swing (we have not to date) we are starting verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry slow, many dates and first time will be watching and being watched. I may never get to the full swap, I am going to continue as long as I and my husband are enjoying the sexual horizon and not one little bit more. I am finding that I go outside of a prior non comfort zone let hubby know I am okay for another step and then opps, he has to process that, some things he thought he was okay with, we have changed our rules boundaries and where I was the last one in on stuff, we reevaluateing to both our comfort levels, and I'm no longer last to be ready on everything (just most everything!) Heh keep in touch, being a newbie, I am watching the other newbies for help.

Call the strip club, sure is cheaper than flying somewhere you have been when you can visit somewhere else, say Desire in Cancun and have an erotic, sensual, time within your boundaries! We had a great time when we went at the end of September, hope to get back maybe in the spring.

Being a newbie, the Strip Club we went to, was a great safe way to see how I would react to someone being sexual with my husband and I ended up knowing how I would respond to a Woman being sexual with me. We had an exotic very personable young lady sit down and chat with us, but needed to go to prior commitments. Well she is one of the most popular dancers there, little did we know. It took about a half hour before she was to come back to our table. In the meantime, I had gone to the restroom and when I came back, she had started the lapdance with my husband, I was shocked, and extremely jealous much to my surprise. I then tried to get out of my lapdance, but my husband told her to take my face in her hands and make sure, I was further shocked to find this extremely erotic and sensual. I have never been attracted to a woman sexually, but it opened sexual, erotic sensations I had not experienced before. We have gone back a couple of times and I know that I am totally cool with another woman pleasuring my husband, and I am exploring that possibility myself. This Strip club is very classy and not totally nude, and although it is a financial transaction, there are woman who enjoy pleasuring and we watch to see who enjoys what they do and those who are just looking for their $20. I am always up to new ways to pleasure my man, and the good dancers are in awesome shape and in my opinion earn every single penny. I watched one dancer last weekend who knew how to work that pole and had gymnastic skills that would make Mary Lou Reddin Cry, and the most sexual face and a body to kill for. I enjoy the music and food is awesome and cheap. But it is not an every day or weekend thing, It just is an erotic time and has been a great safe way to expand into soft swap swinging. Newbies, I reccommend this, find a classy, erotic, great music place. I always dress to kill, and tease my husband also, sometimes we barely get out of the parking lot.