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to me. kissing is more intimate than any act of sex. that's just me. When i was a runaway teen and lived on the streets I had survival sex on occasion and NEVER kissed the man. It's easy to have sex without kissing.

idk that much about this lifestyle, but sex is sex and love is love. If my husband was saying "I love you" to another woman (or man for that matter--can't see that happening at all), then our relationship would be over because I am not polyamorous, I am just interested in sex without strings attached. In fact, to me it's better to just have sex with someone once and be done with it so there is no emotional attachment developing. That's where feelings get hurt. Now, in a polyamourous situation it's a completely different story, but as for me--I can only truly love one person at a time.

If I was single (I'm straight, but I could have sex with another woman if I got caught up in the moment; I'm not attracted to women as a rule), I would go to a swing club just for the experience and for sex with no strings attached to people I would never see again. Having sex with people I know doesn't appeal to me at all.

My husband now likes me HAIRY, and being of Eastern European decent I am VERY, so other than shaving so I can wear a bikini I leave it alone. That said, my husband before liked it shaved except for a "toupee" LOL. The husband before that was in the 80s and no one back then shaved so that wasn't an issue. If my husband and I decide to go to a swing club and then decide to play with others, idk how my hair is going to go over, but I wear the hair for him, no one else.

I appreciate everyone's input, thank you.

Hi there, This is my first time here. My husband and I have become mildly interested in going to a sex club, not necessarily to have sex with other people right off the bat, but just to see what all goes on and if it is something we would like to indulge in. If we go a couple times and decide to indulge, then I have one HUGE issue--I am terrified of getting a disease. I know that condoms are usually provided for and you should always bring your own anyway, but I really don't know how this works, especially when multiple people might be involved? My second husband (we didn't swing) gave me an STD that was thankfully something cured with antibiotics, so I am really afraid of something happening again and it being something I can't get rid of. I was married to him for 25 years and went straight from #2 to #3 so I really don't have any experience with condom usage, when one should be used, etc. I've pretty much been married since before AIDS was prevalent. Anyways, I'm not trying to be rude, but this is a big concern of mine. Other than that, I am super open to most anything.