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Stephen
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- Birthday 11/26/1959
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Location
UK, London
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Reading, film, music, walking
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self employed
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Would you want to swing single?
Stephen replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
My partner has stopped swinging due to disinterest in the scene, unfortunately we met too many cples who didn't light her fire. I however love recreational sex. Swinging for us was always part joint fun and sometimes one to one fun, we're not a glued to the hip at a party cple. Playing solo is much more horny, but I do get messed around and am very wary of disrespectful cples who see a single guy as a poor substitute for the real thing- cple swapping. Why do guys like me do it? For me, I love the sexual performance aspect, I have good stamina for a 44 y.o, and it panders to my vanity when a woman shows obvious appreciation of my vwe status. Plus I do love the company of women with an up front pervy imagination. Finding another playmate (with my partners approval) via dating, is always going to run the risk of emotional complications. -
SamanthaUK is right, most black guys who advertise do so on the basis that the woman is looking for a well hung black man. So the belief that most black men are big tends to be born out by swinger's experiences on the scene. As a vwe guy in an interracial cple I often play solo. It gives me a buzz that women regard my body and cock as some kind of fetishised object. As far as I am concerned I am just me, not pandering to any stereotype. Women looking for single men are also looking for something they don't have in their relationship - younger or much older, gym fit, upscale or working man etc a whole range of fantasy attributes. So what. It's a brief fantasy for a night. Cples tend to look for others they feel a great deal in common - looking for a mirror of themselves and not difference. So as an interracial cple we have found few white cples in the UK responding to our ads and now tend to find a majority of black/interracial cple interest. Which is a shame as our 'mirror' is not based on skin colour but on other more important factors. White women into black men should definitely go for it but in controlled circumstances. Picking up men in bars is crazy I think - how do you know they can perform or be cool about it? Group meets or finding experienced blk men who regularly advertise is your best bet. Initially the white cple (who have had few encounters with blk men) have to get over the fear barrier and realise this guy is going to be pretty normal and not some cipher out of Mandingo. If everything proceeds on mutual respect then you limit the options for failure. Swap numbers and pics and expect the same. Good luck
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We have met a couple who swung almost every day for a few months and then slowed down to about twice a week minimum! Most scene couples tend to do it twice a month - there's a lot of choice for people based in London and thereabouts. In the Midlands of England it is not unheard of for couples to attend a swing club once or twice a week as one would any local bar. My partner has us on a once a month ration! But that can include one weekend of two happenings - couple and club. Most couples do it once a month or once every two months.
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Hi, thank you very much for useful comments. I had no idea it was posted elsewhere Just Ask Julie, it really was my mistake. I wondered where the original had got to and posted it again. I wasn't perturbed by any answers because I hadn't read any. We'll probably not be swinging for up to 18 months we reckon when one considers the breast feeding scenario. But where there's a will there's a way and swing clubbing and own partner sex may be a nice option. We love this message board, it's full of mature, intelligent, critical and intriguing commentary. Keep it up, you're the best!!
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Hi, is this a bad topic or something but no one has answered it at all? Did I pose the taboo issue incorrectly or what??
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Hi, we are an experienced swing couple (only 2 years tho), M-42, F-45. The wife is newly pregnant! (6weeks). We'd like to know other couples experiences of what they do in the early stages of pregnancy. Do you continue to meet couples to swing? When would you stop playing with couples-how many months in? If you stopped altogether how did you satisfy your horny urges? Or are you put off the idea for a long time, coz your focus is elsewhere? We had arranged to meet a couple in a few weeks time and are unsure of what to do. At the moment the pregnancy makes us think we should stop playing but when the excitement dies down will we go back to thinking horny thoughts ps we think we conceived after a long bout of post swingplay sex with each other!
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We are experienced swingers (2 years in our mid 40s) and my partner has just found out that she's pregnant. What has been the experience of other couples in the early stages of pregnancy? Do you carry on swinging, or is it a bit weird to do that and do you stop? At the moment the idea doesn't appeal for her:do couples soon change their minds and try and have some fun before the later stages of pregnancy arrives? We have arranged to meet a cple in 3 weeks time and aren't sure about whether we should cancel or not. We may be cool about it in a few weeks time. What have other people's experiences been swinging when the female half is pregnant or with a cple with a pregnant wife?