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    For fun and each other...
  • Birthday August 26

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  1. Happy Birthday and have fun

  2. Congrats on your fun night Spoo - great story. It also reminds me of why we like this lifestyle - it's just a hell of a lot of fun!
  3. Setting love aside for just a moment, and realizing for many, this will be purely hypothetical but... Have you ever had sex with someone, in or out of the LS, that was better than your mate? Did you discuss it with them? If you did meet someone that just rocked you in a way you have never been rocked, would you admit it to your mate? How do you think they would resopond? BTW - I made this a private poll so those responding will not be listed.
  4. I have taken this test several times over the last 20 years and have always been an EFNP. Interestingly enough, ENFPs are small percentage of the general population but far more common in swinging. For what it's worth, I think this test is stunningly accurate!
  5. Amen to that! Since we have a fairly limited window to play, we focus on our friends. While we occasionally enjoy a "strange" encounter, it is far less satisfying. To answer our own question, our sessions tend to be protracted over a couple of hours with multiple variations between the participants. By "marathon," I was referring to a protracted event without a variety of positions and partners. Not that we put a time-limit on things, but we don't get too many opportunities to play and we love the variety that each opportunity provides. So, we tend to switch around, take a break, jump back in, watch for a bit, then do it all again till everyone is worn out! :facelick:
  6. While talking with some friends recently, it dawned on us that some people are more focused on the duration of a sexual encounter than the quality of the encounter as a whole. Marathons are not our thing but we are curious... Not including all the wonderful flirting and foreplay that may go on outside the bedroom, from foreplay to getting dressed, how long is your typical sexual encounter when you are swinging? Is there any such thing as too short or too long? How long do you linger?
  7. Throught the ups and the downs, we have always been in this lifestyle together. Early on, we had a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about single men's marital status but after some consideration, decided that we did not want to be a part of that.
  8. Wow -- good times, That story hits way to close to home! What is it they say --- that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger? Bob (and Sandy)
  9. Yes - our very first couple was an absolute nightmare! We were all in bed together having a great time when the other couple starting arguing. Within a few minutes, it had escalated into a full-blown argument with yelling and screaming and stomping about. They carried the fight out of our house and onto our front porch -- all while they were still naked! Then the worst happened... He got in the car and drove off -- without her! Now, we used to live WAY out in the country -- no cabs, no busses. We had a llama farm, and a few cows nearby but that's about it. And here's an agry, naked women standing on our front porch at 1am. We had no idea what to do. We were mortified. For a half-hour, there should stood. She wouldn't come in, she wouldn't go away. Well, he eventually came back to claim his prize and we eventually got back to bed -- alone. Needless to say, it was awhile before we met with another couple Bob (and Sandy)
  10. First, this is a very interesting thread and everyone is offering thoughtful perspective - just what we have come to expect from this crowd! I have a little different reaction to Indiguy's original post. Granted, it has nothing to do with the question, but something really bugged me... Considering ten years? We go to great lengths to avoid this attitude with our swinging partners as well as our vanilla friends. Why is it that it is generally accepted that your sex life goes down hill the longer you are married? We want to be around happy couples who have a great sex life and are proud of that. It takes hard work and dedication to make that heppen. Right or wrong, but we believe little statements like this say a lot about your perspective on life. We want to be with people who say things like, "I can't wait till our 10th anniversary cause every year is getting better." BTW - we have no problem playing with singles who have permission from their spouse but if the verification process means an extra step or a more complicated arrangement, forgetaboutit. Sorry for being a bit off-topic. Just had to vent. Bob (and Sandy)
  11. For us, our lifestyle is our hobby. Or is it the other way around? Actually, we have talked about this alot in the past and concluded that our values and attitude (lifestyle) is what allows us to enjoy our hobby (sex with other people). For us, being in the lifestyle does not presume a desire for recreational sex. Therefore, lifestyle trumps hobby! I think that makes sense Bob (and Sandy)
  12. Obviously, this is a highly personal issue. We prefer not swinging with smokers for two reasons. The first is the most obvious. No matter how considerate you are, what mouthwash you use, and if you are willing to abstain, you will still smell -- and taste like cigarettes. And for us, that's a turn-off. The second issue is a little obtuse but is actually more important to us. Smoking is a social activitiy. Smokers like to smoke and we would never, in a million years, ask someone to stop doing something they really enjoyed -- even if it would make a difference for us. To each his own -- and we like it that way. B+S
  13. We are full swap but have no problem with soft. Just depends on what everyone feels comfortable with. Actually, some of the most fun we have had was with a soft-only couple. B+S
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