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  1. 1. People wanna meet first to see if there's a connection. Most people dont jump into playdates on first meetings. Specially SLS introductions. 2. Just say you are not interested. Most people would understand 3. Go to events or hot dates section to find local events. or you can search profiles near to your region. Hope this helps.
  2. One of the couples we play with is a professional cinematographer. Works magic with the camera. His advice is its all about angles and right light setups.
  3. I was his language translator for European movie auditions That's how we met.
  4. Our BDSM lifestyle is more a secret and personal to us then our swinging lifestyle. Maybe it's because it's my personal connection to my bf and it's special to me that way. We mostly play in Europe and almost at every club we have staff and friends know us and our lifestyle choices. Since I'm new to the U.S. and he is not, I just like to keep a low profile. And he respects that. Somehow respecting personal choices and public opinion about personal freedom here has not been at par with my expectations and I rather enjoy my activities where I feel safe, free and accepted.
  5. 1) Yes if he got his hopes up then as per communication with your wife you both should be on the same opinion about things. Guy who heard that you have been doing private dates is going to try of course. For that matter the bar guy serving her drinks might also give a try but then men are men. I agree that you have clearly stated to others that the hall pass is for this couple only. In that case your wife shouldn't be using the hall pass for the other guy. It's breach of trust and in my opinion it is not your fault. It was her choice. 2) Yes he crossed his boundaries. But if he is doing that then it is your wife's role to put down the request, doesn't matter what event she's in or how much she likes the other guy if at all. Trust gets compromised. It would be like telling the other guy I have a hall pass and don't care about the consequences my husband will face. He circumvented / stepped-over because he was allowed to do so. Knowing when to say "No" is as crucial as knowing when to say Yes.
  6. I would say your moral responsibility is towards your partner and her alone and likewise for her. Anyone can say anything nowadays. And it is your moral responsibility to verify. Both for safety sake and privacy concerns for you and your wife. How do you define separate play? Despite the couple’s arrangements to allow each other to play alone, they are still a couple. Going out of your way to speak with both members of the pair and not just one makes sense. Both deserve to receive your respect. And likewise for your wife. Since she has cheated on you I would at least verify where did rules got broken. It's your responsibility to know and set the rules I guess. Hall Pass doesn’t equate to Free Pass. And cheating is demeaning any way you look at it. Both for the trust and the relationship between a couple.
  7. In a situation where you were pretty good friends with a couple and knew they were just new to stuff, would you think the guy should go direct to the girl, or get the "ok" from the guy first? One of my friends has the exact same situation. Separate play poly relationship with another couple. Then some other friendly couple they met and trusted communicated with him initially. Then the guy going through a relationship problem (didn't informed my friend) bypassed him and communicated with his wife directly. Initially he let it slide. But wife kind of broke the communication part between them and the rules since she thought he already knows and accepts the interaction. After 6 months of play, rules got flexible for her. The other couple went through a divorce. And my friend's wife asked for a divorce. And now his wife and the other guy are happily settled. Swinging for me started as a couple, and I would not accept any communication where I have to inform my bf about something that is going on behind his back. I would like it if the guy informed him first. My bf goes that extra mile to get my opinion and inform me about his interaction with other women even though he has full trust and freedom from me and I appreciate him for it. He may end up with this same question and confused if I allow direct interactions. Many things can go wrong, I rather not take the chance. Doesn't matter how much I trust the friends.
  8. 1. How long you have been swinging? health and fitness. 2. General Hobbies and interests. 3. Rules are those acceptable?
  9. When we visit a house party we practically know in 10 mins how our night is gonna go. Usually we dont go to parties where we know hardly anyone or just 1 couple. Since i'm shy natured, have professional career (do not want to meet someone who is from work environment or even remotely connected to it) and want certain level of trust in the avenue i'm visiting. Sometimes we have taken cross country travel mixing business travel with pleasure since we have memberships in variety of clubs both in US and europe. Other times we have just visited common friends. I dont like rushed environment. I rather enjoy a lovely glass of wine and social chat and let things develop overtime then encounter couples who are just attending swinger parties to get laid. My boyfriend prioritize my comfort (siince i'm more into dom then sub with other couples and most couples r not into it or not even sure about what dom/sub is) our friends let us be who we are. and that makes it much more dynamic and fun.
  10. Friends made me Tip. When the gals changed in front of me and I realized I was gawking
  11. Couples Tower Isle, Ocho Rios, Jamaica or Club Orient, St. Martin are my favorites.
  12. I enjoy being restrained but my preference is to be held down by human force; I like the feeling of hands squeezing my wrists. Something about being used by my master makes me feel really hot and confident and empowered. Feeling out of control when there is trust and desire involved takes me to a transcendent place that I don’t get to on my own or during non-BDSM sex. BDSM and pain can actually move me to tears, but they are good tears. each piece of rope gets laid across me, my focus changes. I get calmer and breathe deeper, and I can feel each fiber of the rope against my skin. With each layer my master controls more of my body. I bend as he wants me to, my flesh manipulated by his hands and the rope. It is no longer about voluntary compliance. As he taps my inner thigh to indicate I should move it, I hesitate. I know the moment I do move, he will know just how turned on I am from the scent between my legs. For FFFM sessions i do the same to the couple. With master in control it is very freeing to know that my only obligation is to please someone else either through dom or sub. Usually I am the one in charge of everything. It’s great to have someone doing that for me.
  13. I am from Eastern Europe but have traveled the world and now settled in USA. Here I'll mention some experiences... France - Les Chandelles in Paris is my favorite place. France is swingers paradise I would say. About 300 clubs in Paris alone. Not to mention Cap d'Agde seaside resort town. Communication between couples is as easy as ordering coffee. Sometimes ordering coffee is even a more nightmare Spain - Ibiza the place to be. Malaga Costa del Sol, Valencia etc have lots and lots of swinging clubs. Couples are very friendly and speak many languages although you might meet someone you like which may not know english. Always good to have some information about the location you are visiting not to end up explaining you like someone and hearing "por favor" to no end... por favor Poland/Czech/Hungary - Half the world travels here for well basically hooking up and alcohol. Major problem is language. And couples are uptight. It all depends on who you know locally. If you know someone things get much easier as many couples would only communicate about swinging where they can trust the crowd. And they are specially shy for foreign visitors. Basically YMMV depends on your luck. Bisexuality is seen as a taboo and men are very dominating in the region. So very very few couples who actually are open about this. Italy - More touristy and less communication friendly. There are few clubs in Milan and Rome. But my luck has been terrible in this country. Germany - If you can cross the language barrier very swingers friendly. Kinkiest country in Europe. I have spent many months here with my boyfriend since it is a BDSM mecca. I have never had problem in this country and locals are very open and direct about this lifestyle.
  14. My master and I have many girlfriends to play with. discretion is important as we both are associated with BDSM world and have professional careers and the M/s relationship is based on trust system. We are adonis trio FFM. Sometimes I like to watch. Sometimes I participate. Mostly we pick submissive slaves as my bicuriousity is very dom oriented. Where as I personally am very submissive for my master. Workshops, seminars, and gatherings that have to do with human sexuality or intimacy are good meeting points for finding like-minded girls. Tantra retreats or Swinger conventions are good options. or you can also go for a “clothes optional” holiday. Naturists are usually open-minded individuals. When I used to live in Europe, Ibiza and Montpellier France used to be my destinations. Now in USA and in a M/s relationship my master take care of all needs. I strictly keep off internet for my search. First there are reliability and discretion issues. Now I am part of "a cult" you can say which satisfies all the needs without judgement.
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