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tonto&thetease

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About tonto&thetease

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Palm Springs, Ca
  • Swinging Experience
    2 yrs
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. We used to text from our personal phones ... Didn't work out so well, and yes, some men (ok, more than some has been our experience) get creepy. So, we got a phone we use for the LS. We tend to text when we're together to make contact, set up a meeting etc, but not always. I would say that there might be MILD flirting but never "sexting". It is great fun to share this together and there's always a laugh when we turn on the phone and read the messages that are waiting for us =)
  2. I have pet peeves, but a weight not being listed isn't necessarily one of them. I have a bigger problem with it being assumed because we are free members on SLS that we are fakes...Really? Or, how about this one, because we are not overweight we are too in to ourselves and our appearance and therefor ... we are fakes. This couldn't be further from the truth. Because we are comfortable in our own skin, we are able to be ourselves and really enjoy life. I want to read a profile that tells me about the people writing it, not a profile telling me everything I should be ... afterall, we know ourselves.
  3. I don't think "swingers" are immune to guilt or jealousy. I suggest that you confront your feelings head on. Talk to your husband openly and honestly about what you are feeling. You have to be very open with each other and talk about feelings as they happen. If you talk to him about your guilt, he may be able to dissuade it. If you tell him that just the thought of him having sex with another woman is causing you feelings of jealousy, he might be able to help you work thru those feelings. I know in my case, my jealousy had nothing to do with my husband and everything to do with my own insecurities. Once I was able to figure out where my feelings were coming from, we were able to work thru them together.
  4. Our children, from previous marriages, are 23, 20, 19 and 18. They are well rounded, intelligent, articulate, sex positive individuals who have been kept in the dark about our LS activities and choices intentionally. Would them knowing that we enjoy sex with multiple partners, complete strangers or any of the particulars benefit them in any way? Would them knowing that I enjoy sex with other woman help them any more than my knowing that they eat cooked carrots help me? For our family, our willingness to talk about and our positive attitude towards sex were more than enough. Not exhibiting prejudices, displaying tolerance, compassion and empathy gave them everything they needed. If our kids choose the lifestyle, and it works for them ... great. If not, that's great too. This is what worked for us. Parenting is hard work. What works for one family isn't what works for every family. Good luck with the hard decisions
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