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About onewayward

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  • Birthday 03/06/1965

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    married female
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    Croydon, UK
  • Occupation
    PR
  • Swinging Experience
    20 years plus
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  1. Wow, AlwaysLrning! Here's praying for speedy progress at your end and equally prompt updates!!!!
  2. Thanks for replying, Gordo. You've REALLY got me thinking about the "cheating" bit. Shall discuss that with hubby too (he's in the wrong place right now - Boston, on work!). Just to explain, that 'cheating' act has almost always (except on 3 occasions - when it wasn't working towards what was intended from my/our end) ended in confession/admission of 'fraud'. All concerned, thereafter, had a good laugh over it. (BTW, hubby isn't bi.) It was REALLY politely, Gordo. Because we are polite/gracious too. And he was xtra polite. I did feel awkward. But hubby rose to the occasion, his nod helped. I confess I have on those 3 occasions, in the past, just gone off with those "idiots." Growing older, I've learned to judge. Yes, guys with partners who we've been with have been, by far, much more 'committed.' The issue here is two-fold. Hubby tends to get overly mushy with the girls after even the first 1-2 meetings. That, invariably, heralds curtain-call. On two occasions, I've had a close call. One, just about a year ago (at my age!). Started flipping. Both the guys had partners who we were friends with. It became near-ugly. Thankfully, I managed to (and so did the guys) wake up to reality, and put an end to it.
  3. Net. Club. Thru people we've played with before. Plus (EMBARRASING!), thru my younger office colleagues.
  4. Amazing! What an honest reply! Hats and bra-panty off, sparkstar! Since you mention 'cup of tea,' allow me to confess. I'm from India, so inevitably, the new guys we play with bring along a decent gift of India Tea. Hubby, Brit to boot, would earlier get his gift of a fine Single Malt - but that's gone thru a major overhaul. Only wines/champagne now, alas! For me, the BEST gift has ALWAYS been the 'unload.' And you can guess where. Each 'unload' has its own enduring slip-slide-down memory. Sloppy seconds hubby prefers from my mouth.
  5. Treat it as a joke. I have no right to generalise. Just that we played with a Swede way back in 2002-03. He was much older. Had women at every port of his business calls (made me jealous as hell). But at least he was honest to admit that. We did three afternoons/evenings with him in his hotel room. Third day, hubby wanted to be gracious. I, too, felt Sweden wants 1-to-1 with India (lol, I'm Indian, hubby Brit Caucasian). So post-lunch hubby excused himself. But thereafter, kept calling every 15-20 mins or so. Very often just when I was trying to get the Swedish flag fluttering on high-mast! if memory serves, it was probably the 6th call from hubby that got the Swede flag down to quarter-mast. He said he was going down to dip into the pool. A different matter that I joined him later (after chiding hubby on the phone), and we had a gr8 time doing some daring, innocent public stuff. Rita
  6. Takes a while for tech-challenged dumbo like me. Apologies!!! Was hitting the wrong button! Given the current 'strain' in prospecting, I just keep getting this feeling the guys between 19-28/30/35 are fine with a nearing-50 woman (that MILF fantasy, I guess). But not with her 50 plus hubby. Guess both hubby & I are realizing this. Kind of 'denial' mode. We haven't yet discussed it. Thereby, this post. Don't want to upset him. He knows my preference for the younger lot.
  7. I am relatively new here, but in one of my earlier posts today, I've tried to explain my hubby's predicament and my drive. Like your wife, NYFlirts, I figure I too have a HUGE drive. Mr Wayward can't match it. Plus, he's (like you?) slow. Now this brings me right away to your questions: 1) My hubby has certainly experienced this, so you are not alone. 2) No. Stick to your STYLE. Mr. Wayward tried to experiment. Ended up BAAD for both of us. 3) Sidelines? You've got to figure out why you are in that SITUATION. What pleasure are you deriving from it? Even on the sidelines, there can be a lot of fun. 4) There's a lot of fun in enjoying 'in the mind' (visually aided, of course). Mr. Wayward gets his rock-hard going with that. 5) Let it flow with the firm/entrenched belief/understanding that she and you should be enjoying every moment of the experience. Don't calibrate the degrees of enjoyment. Humble advice from a vintage swinger wife. Please discount whatever you may wish to.
  8. I've sent several replies. Guess the moderator holds them back. We are 'veterans' of online & offline.
  9. 7 years ago. My boy toy dressed me up for the party to follow (a few hours later).
  10. F48, M55 here. Currently playing with F61/M62. They often tire us. Have a blast!
  11. It was far easier even five years ago. But now at 48 (me) and 55 (hubby), it’s getting tougher. Being clinical, but this still remains our modus operandi. Either we prospect together, in which case the guy knows right away what he’s getting into. Or I do the prospecting as kind of ‘married but looking’ and thereafter, when things move well and I’ve had a few sessions with the guy I subtly bring him around to getting hubby join us as well. Neither option is working as smoothly any more. To be honest, it’s hubby’s age. In the first instance, I know for sure the ‘MILF factor’ still works with the young ‘uns, but hubby’s age doesn’t aid progress any more beyond a few mail/skype exchanges with us. The second route is still working as the ‘starter’ (again, bcoz of the ‘MILF factor’), but doesn’t progress beyond very often. Recent examples: two guys I had a blast with just turned down my ‘further’ hints, so I opted out; one guy who agreed, met hubby and me together over drinks and then disappeared; one guy who agreed, also met us together and agreed further – but, when it came to the ‘crunch’ (in a hotel), politely took me away to his room. Any serious advice?
  12. It still happens - even after a decade plus. Whenever i am out on a date, hubby does some amazing mental calculation and calls , invariably when 'it' is happening. When I feel generous, I take the call - as in, I receive the call and let him hear what's happening.
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