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  1. I had not already made my mind up but I was not about to jump to the worst either (not without seeing and asking for further explanation). I was hoping someone else found themselves in this situation and could tell me how they handled/how the reaction was. I was not looking for people to tell me what I wanted to hear. I'm down with people telling me to be cautious but really come on- to just RUN without even asking him- that makes me look like a bitch (especially if it was over nothing). Plus then I miss out on the fun I could be having with this guy. I was also erring on the side of caution- I still am. Although when a guy calls the doctors and gets an appointment for the following week to get tested I' m inclined to believe he's an upstanding guy. When he immediately contacts me (rather than avoiding me), explains things to me in a non-defensive way, reassures me that it is my right to ask these questions and he is in no way offended, I'm also inclined to believe him. Had he avoided me for days (or just stopped talking to me altogether) or responded in a defensive manner, I obviously would feel differently. I have seen photos and am even more satisfied with the explanation than yesterday. He's made an appointment to get tested and I will look at those tests even though I'd say I trust his explanations. I know the naysayers will say -- you can use photoshop to fake a report -blah blah blah. Being in this lifestyle is taking already taking a huge leap of faith- sometimes you just have to dive in and trust people are honest and have your (as well as their) best intentions in mind.
  2. Hello and thanks for all the advice. To those of you that told me to run without even giving him a chance to explain- shame on you. I like this guy, we have a connection - it is absolutely unreasonable and immature to not give him a chance to explain this and just disappear. In fact, I should've put my big girl panties on and just asked him when I felt it. This is such a HUGE problem in this lifestyle- people just ducking out without asking questions or addressing issues that are difficult or uncomfortable. Avoiding things that may be harmless or easily fixed is causing you all to miss out on lots of potential fun- just remember that. Man up, say what you feel and it may just work out in your favor. If it doesn't, at least you tried right? I always try to put myself in the other person's shoes-- lets say I developed a nasty ingrown hair before a date and a guy feels it and freaks. I'd hope he'd bring it up to me before just assuming the worst. I deserve a chance to explain myself to you. We are all adults here. We shoudl be able to have open discussions concerning our sexual health. Anyway, I emailed this guy about this and he almost immediately contacted me via text. He called me on the way home from work to offer his explainations (moles) and offered to get tested. I'd say that's an ideal response and he's clearly not hiding anything on purpose. Or yes, he's a really great liar. But I really doubt that's the case. This guy is active in the lifestyle, is at many parties regularly and well known. I can't imagine it'd be easy for him to lie to many people without people catching on and talking. Obviously, I'll be checking it out more clearly but at this point I am more than satisfied with that explaination. If I don't trust his it's moles explaination after seeing them- I'll request the test. Thanks again.
  3. Met a single guy for a date recently. I really liked him. We started to play a little and when I touched his cock I felt a small scab on the shaft and a bump just at the base --not on the penis but like in the area around the base. I know I should've asked him about it then but I didn't. I diverted the session back into a heavy make out with no other play. I ask my husband's advice about it upon returning home and he offered up several explanations of what it could be- a mole (he had one removed from that area after all), razor burn irritation, an ingrown hair. The scabbed area on his cock he said could be from jerking off too much/too hard- he admitted to getting those sometimes in his single days when all he had was his hand. I am not trying to make excuses for him but just really trying to look at both sides. It could be HPV or herpes (I dont think so though-- the bump was rather large for herpes I think--and not clustered). I'm more concerned about HPV but I wouldn't say the area was flat either- it felt like a raised bump- like how an ingrown hair or mole might feel. It doesn't make sense to me that he'd expose his cock to me with a raging infection of some sort but obviously, I'm not about to take that chance. He also offered zero explanation for it at the time which makes me wonder. I also did not ask him about it though. Since we were in a parked car, I did not see it at all. I only felt it long enough for my hand to glide down the shaft of his cock. I'm scared to offend him. I know I need to bring it up to him (I will not play with him without answers) and I know he deserves the chance to explain it to me. After all, it may be completely harmless but I know it's my right to ask these questions and get answers. Such a sensitive topic. I know that being direct and honest is the best way to deal with this but thought I'd ask others advice before bringing it up to him. So guys, how would you like to be approached in this situation? Ladies, have you found yourself in a similar situation? What a did you do? I thought about sending him an email - I realize that's somewhat of a cop out but that way it gives me time to write out what I want and then gives him time to process it and decide how to respond. Advice? Comments? Suggestions? All are appreciated.
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