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kellyandtopher

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About kellyandtopher

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  • Birthday 06/05/1978

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Prescott Valley, Arizona
  • Occupation
    Domestic Goddess
  • Swinging Experience
    15 yrs
  • Anniversary
    04/20/2000

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    kellyandtopher

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  1. So I didnt block him but I have been ignoring him... So he took his profile off of the site and I received a new email from a new couple... so I looked at the email... and then looked at the profile... and omg it was him with another girl... Im just so frustrated with this guy... I will keep ignoring him and hopefully he will just go away... I want to see if there is a way I can red flag him or something... so that others dont get trapped by him...
  2. Well thank goodness I havent heard from him... I will take your advise... I will ignore him... I dont need or want the drama...
  3. So I have had this male emailing me from Swing Lifestyle... he is young... almost 10 yrs younger than me... which I dont mind... but he is in his 20's and I feel not very mature... not that all 20 yr old are not mature... but he seems very immature... well his first few emails were a few months ago and it was just him... we informed him we were not interested in a single male at that time... then he said he had a girlfriend... well we still informed him that we were not really interested cause we wanted a couple that was more secure in their relationship... he still didnt get it... he still emails me... and that is why I titled this puppy dog... So now he emailed me again stating that someone in a town near me there was going to be a party put on by someone from Swing Lifestyle... so I asked who was putting on the party maybe we know them... sure enough they are friends of ours... we contacted them and they informed us that this male was a "manipulitive weasel"... that he mass emailed everyone in our towns stating that there was a party at their house... when there wasnt going to be... he has been thrown out of their house... and that I shouldnt even talk to him... :eek:OMG... so I havent emailed this kid back... I do have a letter ready for when he emails me... and it goes something like this... Ok so I am only allowed to send 5 emails a day on this website... so that is why I havent responded to you... I contacted Interested2Meet... they are not having a party this weekend... they are actually friends of ours and they informed me that you mass emailed everyone on here and informed them that they were having a party... this was not true... He also informed me that you were thrown out of his house the last time you went over there... I will not be manipulated... We were close to allowing you into our life but with what he had to say we are now cautious... we dont like drama... You know I am in my early 30's and some would say that I am still a kid... but I would never do this to someone... I am glad that I got ahold of our friends and found out about this kid before we let him in our lives... I do not need drama... I do not need a puppy dog... and I feel really sorry for people that have responded to him and fallen for his manipultive weasleness...
  4. Thanks for that... I know that I or we didnt do anything... she says that she "crossed the line"... she will have to learn from her own mistakes... but dammit... this sucks... o well... we are not gonna take it to heart to much... we will move on... always on the lookout...
  5. So our friends J&J have done it again... after a great time on Friday evening... and camping over the weekend... they have ended our "playtime" again... see the first time they ended it was because of her... she was having anxiety over her past sexual experiences... we talked about it and she felt better... so we were able to have a sexual experiece again... it went well for her and my hubby... they we were great together... me and her hubby not so well... I didnt get much pleasure... he couldnt get hard... and again he was very gentle... oh well... it was still great... her and I were great together... thought everything went ok... even after I went to bed... my hubby and them played a bit more... So the story goes on... over the weekend we went camping... we were to be discrete because there was going to be a friend there with us that is not a swinger... so we understood and kept our hands to ourselves... We get home on Sunday and get a call from her and we are done... again... this time because of him... he doesnt want to share her anymore... I guess after I went to bed while camping she was trashed and took her top off and then put it back on in front of all the guys... my hubby... her hubby... and the friend (guy)... I guess this was the breaking point for her hubby... he doesnt want to share her anymore... WHAT... I dont get it... I understand feelings do come up with this lifestyle... but dammit... they talked about this for 4 years before doing anything... fuck... my hubby was really happy... I am sad for him... I may not have been being completly satisfied... but he was... and I was ok with that... so they want to be friends... and I have talked about this before... this is going to be hard... there are expectations... we want to touch... we want to be close... but we will be understanding... and we will comply with their wishes... but it will be hard... I made the subject Yo-Yo cause that is what I feel with them... I now feel that they are going to change their minds again... that they will get over this and we will be going back and forth with their emotions... I dont know if I am up for that... I mean I do really like them... but I am not a therapist... its ok tho... we will see what happens... over time...
  6. If the hubby wanted to call it quits I dont know if I could go along with it... I really enjoy the lifestyle... I wouldnt want to say that I would go looking for others to cheat with but if the opportunity came up I dont know if I could contain myself... but on the other hand I do love my hubby and love my marriage... I would try my best to do what the hubby wanted... Now if it was me that wanted to call it quits and the hubby had to go along with it... I think he would have no problems with it... I think he would be bummed out about it but wouldnt ever think about cheating...
  7. Ok so I learned that it is the female part of the couple... she is having jealousy issues... really... damnit... I didnt do anything but be my self... was that too much... well shit... I dont know how to turn me down a notch... not be so sexy... my hubby just asked me to explain to him how it feels to be the object of mens desires and womens jealousy... this I am not able to explain... It does make me smile... but I dont do it on purpose... When I look in the mirror... I see a whale... blubber... fat... double chin... cottage cheese... but when I am looked at by others they look past that... I give off something... a pheramone... I know this... but damnit I dont do it on purpose... I want to be friends with this couple... I want the benefits that come with the lifestyle... I dont want her to be jealous... She is a beautiful woman... my hubby really likes her... pays alot of attention to her... I dont know I dont the male half that we are here to talk about it... that we dont want to make them feel uncomfortable...
  8. Disappointment... Our new friends J & J whom we have had 2 playtimes with... have just ended it... alas... they are having issues... Now I get it.. we have been in this lifestyle for 15yrs and they have only been thinking about it for 4 yrs and have only had 2 bad experiences before us... We really wanted to give them a good experience... maybe it was too good... I dont know... they say after 4 yrs of talking about it they just are not ready... they thought they were... Now they are wanting to still be friends... this one is hard for me... I dont know if I can still be friends with someone that I have had sex with... someone that I have had sexual thoughts about... I mean I do want to be friends but I wanted the benefits too... I felt that we were perfect for each other... damnit... to perfect... and again the old statement to be true... Too Good Too Be True... Damnit now the stupid thoughts are going through my head... was it us... were we pushy... did we do something wrong... were we too much for them... too touchy... fuck... I know these probably have nothing to do with what is going on... I know that in the beginning of our relationship there were some "problems" and we had to end some friendships because of them... I also know that their issues are there's and have nothing to do with us... Because of the person that I am I want to talk about it with them.... but I dont want to be pushy... I know that they have to work through this themselves... If they are going to be in this lifestyle then they have to be comfortable... ahhhh... so frustrated...
  9. So.. we have known this couple for like 4 months or so have gotten together with them 4 times.. everytime has been amazing for me... on the other hand not so much for hubby... the first time we met up he couldnt get an erection... the second and third time they focused most of thier attention toward me... left him out... I mean he did get to have some fun but not much... the 4th meeting we didnt even get to play... I have to say that the sex was incrediable... just the way I like it... but hubby wasnt happy... The way we had sex together was more orgy type... this was great for me... since I was center of attention... but hubby likes more of the full swap swinger type... taking another woman full on... ok so we set up a "date" for this Saturday night and I get a text asking if we would like to have another guy visit... This to my hubby was a slap in the face... he already was feeling like he was out of the loop with this couple and now they wanted to bring in another guy... this didnt go over very well... so I told them this... she didnt understand... I tried to get her to understand that hubby wanted "her" all to himself... a bit selfish... she still didnt understand... Now you have to understand this couple is a Dom/Sub relationship... She is very submissive... and he basically owns her... he directs and she does... hubby isnt use to this type of relationship... but was interested in the beginning... even tried a bit ourselves in it... but just couldnt get to thier level... didnt want to be at thier level... So hubby and I talked about it and came up with a conclusion... this is the wrong couple for us... damn... we are not socially compatable... sexually for me we are great... but sexually for him it just didnt work... so this morning he texted them and said... "our sexual goals are just not the same.. and we feel that this is just not gonna work.. we are going to venture off and find others that will work for us"... thier response was "sounds good... good luck on your search"... Just not the right couple for us... this was a bit disappointing for me... I really liked them both... the female was so sexy and the male would make me feel sexy... Im going to miss them...
  10. Well the 16 yr old actually didnt stay he went to his girlfriends house... so we just had to worry about the little ones... so wasnt too bad... Gonna try it again on Friday night... we will see how it goes...
  11. Relaxation was easy with alcohol involved... their kids have autisim so they have to have a specific sitter... but that is ok... we will just have to wait till they are able to have a sitter... hubby brought up the idea of taking turns in the bedroom... while the other couple watchs the kids... this was shocking to me... cause his rule is we play together... in the same room always... but then there is the question from the kids "where is mommy" or "where is daddy"... so I dont know... I know it is hard with kids... and we have never had this problem cause we always have a sitter...
  12. I have talked to them since... and felt like they had a good time... havent heard from them since.... but we have been busy... We will get a hold of them this week and hopefully get together with them again... We did like them... just hope they liked us...
  13. Saturday night we hosted a new couple... This was the first time we have hosted... This was also our first meeting with this couple... We met them on Swing Lifestyle... had only chatted once on yahoo chat and felt very comfortable to meet... well they couldnt get a sitter for their 3 kids... we also have 3 kids and we could have gotten a sitter... we felt that we would leave our kids with us so that their kids would have someone to play with... so we set up a "date"... we would go swimming... you know tire out the kids... we had a bbq and had a really nice night... well we drank and drank and drank... and got a bit drunk... and hands and mouths got a little touchie... yes with the kids still awake... we tried to contain ourselves because of the kids... o and the kids range from 4 to 16... so they would be aware of what was going on.... I swore I wouldnt do anything in front of my kids... but drinking and being very attracted got me distracted... my daughter (9yrs old) did see daddy touch the other woman did come to me and tell me and I just just laughed it off... I did tell hubby that we would have to be more discrete (spelling for this is always subjective)... So we set up the kids to go to bed... set up the tv's in the bedrooms and all the kids fell asleep... this was perfect timing to go to the bedroom... Now... I feel that my hubby and I are pretty much experienced in swinging and that this new couple are not... they havent had a good experience (only 2 couples in 4 yrs)... we wanted to show them what it was to have a great experience... and I think we did... well actually I know we did... With the moans and screams coming from the other woman I knew my hubby was doing his job... and the other man was very gentle... not my cup of tea.. I like it rough... but that is why I do this... variety... I did enjoy the attention that he gave me... touching every part of my body... using his mouth to kiss and carress me... It felt like he could have eatin me out forever... but again he was very gentle... the sex was good... not earth shaking but good... I think the earth shook for the other woman tho... which made me so happy... I cant tell you how much it makes me feel to be in this lifestyle... how much it makes me happy to see my hubby satisfy someone else... How much it pleases my hubby to have someone else please me... I know that I will have some comments on this subject of having the kids there... and know this I wasnt very comfortable with having the kids there... but when drinking things dont always happen the way you think they will... Next time we will do things different... you know we werent expecting things to turn out the way they did... I knew we were gonna be attracted to the couple because of the pics... but figured we could contain ourselves..
  14. Thank you for the comment Dont Stop... I appreciate your words... I do feel that everyone was waiting for someone else to start... I am shy in those regards... I did feel comfortable but maybe not "that" comfortable... I dont know... I have never been so confused about a couple before... Deep Breath time... Time to make a move... need to communicate my thoughts to them... and see what happens...
  15. So a bit disappointed... nothing happened... just talking... was hoping... but nothing... so is it us... are we too young for them... hubby is really attracted to her... I mean we didnt put any moves on them... maybe they are a bit shy... and so are we... we usually dont make the first move... we didnt feel uncomfortable with them... just the opportunity never arrose... hmmm... well this is where communication comes in... we are gonna have to talk with them and find out why nothing happened... If they like to take things slow... if they are not attracted to us... if they... something... just so we know... I mean we like them... and we wouldnt mind them just being friends but we want benifits too... o well... maybe next time...
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