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AsianSwirl

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About AsianSwirl

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 01/01/1950

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    Couple
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    South Bay, CA
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  1. I hope you don't mind, but I sat her down and had her read your post because I thought you hit the nail on the head. Sure enough, she concurred with your assessment of the situation (the one I quoted, not the unpleasant one below it ) Well, y'all have been a big help. I feel a lot better and I've come to appreciate my wife's point of view on this. Right now she only gets pleasure from performing for me, but who knows, she might start liking other aspects of the lifestyle, too, right? I'll just try to be as supportive as I can and not push things. Thanks for talking to me/us. It appreciated more than you know.
  2. Thanks for the replies, everyone. We've talked about this to great length. My wife and I have no issues in the communication department. I know what her reasoning is; that's not the question. As she put it, she's not opposed to the lifestyle, but not all that thrilled about it, either. She "likes" the lifestyle only because she "likes" how much I enjoy it. She wants to continue solely for that reason. Maybe I'm expecting too much and should just be happy with the situation? She does say she has fun performing for me. As for who we've played with, only the one couple because we're still noobs at this. Yall may be right, a new couple might bring her a different level of enjoyment.
  3. TLDR: She's in lifestyle only because she likes pleasing her husband and fulfilling his desires. Background: We got married out of high school, both virgins at the time, and have been together 15 years. Never any infidelity. She's hot as all fuck and we love each other. Sex is great, she and I do everything and fulfill each others fantasies. She wanted us to fuck in a Moon Bounce once, so I rented one and made it happen in the backyard. But I digress. I thought watching her with another man would be hot, and told her that fantasy. She thought me watching her fulfill said fantasy would be a turn on for her and she was curious about other men anyway. So with some good friends, we all talked it over and then "took the plunge", so to speak, by going away for a weekend together, sharing a room, and swapping. First time for all of us and it was great. I was right, I loved watching her. And of course, I enjoyed playing with my buddy's wife. It was awesome, she said it was awesome, friends said it was awesome and wanted to do more, and we have. But now it seems like the novelty wore off and her curiosity has been satisfied. She says playing is "fine" and she "doesn't mind it at all" and she just wants to "make me happy". I know in my heart of hearts that she truly has no ethical or moral qualms about it and doesn't feel coerced - that's not the issue. She doesn't even care about the other guy or girl, she only cares that I'm enjoying myself; she just cares that she's putting on a "good show" for me - HER WORDS! "If it makes you happy, let's do it" - again, her words! Certainly married people do things for their partners all the time that they may not personally enjoy, but it makes the other so happy that they want to keep doing it - like dishes, vacuuming, watching Titanic, and going anal, but isn't this a little different? Since this epiphany I have put a stop to everything, but damnit, I like the lifestyle and want to continue! And it always LOOKED like she was enjoying things, but apparently it's just an act for my benefit. If we continue to do stuff that she only wants to do because she likes "performing" for me, would that make me a royal d-bag? Help! Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Thanks.
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