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bi4me2

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About bi4me2

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  • Birthday 02/05/1958

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    NEPA
  • Swinging Experience
    10 years

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  • SLS Name
    Bi4me2
  1. (him) Wow, so much to say about this! Love and relationships are about what both of you want and need while respecting the wants and needs of the other .... or as I like to say it is a 100% / 100% thing. What your husband is doing is taking his feelings into consideration above yours. This IMO is nothing short of selfishness and childish (at best). Swinging, open relationships or whatever people are 'into' is something BOTH have to be interested in, comfortable with and above all NOT forced into. He is, and I am sorry for saying this outloud, being manipulative. He is trying to manipulate you into something you don't want to do by using your past as an 'ace in the hole' .... not good, not good at all. While is seems like the two of you talk, one half of 'you' isn't listening ..... you need to sit him down and lay it out in no uncertain terms and again I am sorry to say this, let the chips fall where they may. If my wife came to me tomorrow and said "I don't ever want to do that again and here's why" I would respect her wishes. Why? Because she is my wife and more than anyone else I respect her and her wishes ... that is what a relationship is about. Wish I could sit down with your man and explain the facts of life to him cause he is acting more like a little boy rather than a man. Stick to your guns, only you know what's right for you and if he really loves and respects you he had better figure out his #1 job is respect for you.
  2. (him) A girl I lived with WAY back loved it. Took a lot of lube and some patience but once things got going she loved it.
  3. (him) A very good friend of ours was a pretty big porn producer 'back in the day'. He talked about this all the time, it is a lot more common than you would think. Once you get over the nervousness it gets better
  4. (him) As a VERY picky bi-guy (I describe myself as 95% straight) I would say no to all of the above ... why? Because I am not interested in something 'just for me'. While with the right guy I am as bi as they come I am also very interested in her pleasure and the 'two guys one girl' thing. So all things being equal I don't think we would ever think about a gay guy, just like we wouldn't consider a lesbian woman that wasn't interested in me. Sorry didn't mean to be mean ..... but as a couple were both are bi our primary interest is in everyone enjoying everything.
  5. ^^^ this ^^^ I am also a Mrs. massive squirter and have had issues with dehydration as well. If I don't drink enough water during the day I will dehydrate, guaranteed. I also have low blood pressure so I try to keep my salt intake to the maximum. You're not different, like lotsoffun said you're special and belong to a small group of gifted women. Enjoy it.
  6. (him) You have to take things at the pace you are both comfortable with. Trust me both of you will know when the time is right (if ever) to move forward. Oh and BTW, I'm glad I'm not the only one out there that fantasizes about seeing their 'better half' get pounded by a huge cock.
  7. (him) Agreed AND there are couples (and singles) that don't accept certs ... like us. Now as far as being a third wheel? Nope, just watching her being pleased (if there's no room for me) is exciting. Now if there is room? Well I'm there. We have had a fairly steady male friend for years now, we don't get together as often as we would like but the simple fact he is a nice guy, very respectful in every way keeps us in touch with him. Tell you what too, sometimes finding a nice, decent looking and well endowed (meaning average or above) guys sometimes seems like trying to find the elusive unicorn.
  8. (him) Well I personally look back at one or two and think that but I'm not so sure about her. The woman (rightly so) has some seriously high standards, not only for others but for herself as well. We have met quite a few couples where one of us would have to had 'taken one for the team' and more than not we say 'thanks but no'.
  9. (him) I see nothing wrong with being picky, it's your choice right? The wife has a saying about this: "If I wouldn't fuck you when I was single why would you think I would do it now?"
  10. (him) I have highlighted a few parts of your post and they ALL go back to 100% honesty. If she can't be 100% honest then there is a problem. Swinging starts there and she didn't have the confidence in you to be 100% honest in many ways. She didn't tell you about her 'previous life' and she didn't tell you about her wanting to swing yet she told you everything else that made you want to marry her. This is so wrong it's not funny. If you can not trust her 100% there is no 'real' love, if for one second you doubt her sincerity or her 'word' you are setting yourself up for failure (in your marriage) If I had to think about (or worry about) anything from her (meaning my wife) the 'deal' would be blown to hell. But, that being said talk to her, but this time she MUST be 100% honest ..... nothing less will do.
  11. (him) Have to agree with most of the others here, this doesn't fall into the swinging category it's plain old cheating. Her lack of honesty with you from the get go is whats bothering every one. A marriage that isn't 100% honest is a marriage that's going to find trouble sooner or later. She should have been up front and honest with you from the beginning of your 'serious' relationship. If it had been me I would have walked out and never looked back. Sad that people feel they have to hide who they really are, especially from ones they swear they love. Sorry to hear about your situation, best of luck in whatever you decide to do.
  12. Well I'll tell you what. There is no way I would open myself up to the medical community. Beside the example my husband gave (which is 100% true) I have also had a OB/GYN tell me that my 3 miscarriages had nothing to do with my thyroid dysfunction, only to read in every medical book that it is one of the top causes. Then to have him look me in the eye and tell me that I could have a miscarriage every month and not know it. Nice going doc, glad I looked to you for advice. There are many other personal examples I could give you as to why I don't trust/believe anyone with a MD, DO, PHD or the like following their name. Yeah these are the people that I want going over my body trying to figure out what I already know and what others will never believe even with scientific proof. Maybe if Kinsey was still around I would say yes or even someone of his nature/reputation, but as it stands now, there is no way, period.
  13. (him) Well I'll tell you what. When you have a woman literally blow you out of her vagina when she squirts then we will talk. Until then you are speculating. While my wife might be a bit perturbed by some of the responses here, and while she might get a bit hostile towards doctors that seem to think they know it all (for good reason ... but for another thread) I have personally experienced this with her for damn near 15 years now and here's my take on it: 1. Without a doubt it comes from within her vagina, no doubt in my mind 2. The 'flavor' of it is 'sweet' and the color is 100% clear 3. She can't do it when she is dehydrated ... just doesn't work 4. Again, on those odd times where I was able to make it happen by fucking her (it is very difficult and usually only happens when we use our sex swing) she has either 'squirted' around my penis or on the explosive ones pushed me completely out. 5. 9 times out of 10 I am 'down there' when she squirts, a perfect 'view' and more than not my fingers are inside her ... it comes from her vagina, no ifs ands or buts. Oh and sorry 'mr doctor', you haven't a chance arguing with her. You can thank your fellow physicians for that. Like the idiot doctors that told her for years her 'fainting' was 'all in her head' only to finally have a chiropractor realize (first visit) her thyroid was 'dead' .... sorry but I have seen what quack doctors have done to my wife and her anger is very justified. She is mad at doctors and for a very good reason. Maybe some day the male dominated medical profession will get their heads out of their asses and actually take the time to figure out the female body and all its wonders ... but I doubt it
  14. Female ejaculation Isis Media - G-spot & Female Ejaculation So maybe you're right and all these other women are peeing. I am not one of those. I can literally push him out with the force of the fluid.
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