UKLibertines

Hi Moondance, I think your experience is not totally uncommon. I think as has already been stated you should just chalk this one up as a learning experience, I am sure your partner didn’t mean any harm in her actions. As for her falling to sleep, it was probably the booze. Another thing to consider is, what is your fantasy may have not been her fantasy; she could have wanted a dominant screw with the new guy. If it was her fantasy, it was just her fantasy and not meant to hurt. The idea of talking through what you guys want out of an experience is good to get you both on the same wave length. I speak with some experience, as when we were starting out we had a MFM and Lady Libertine in my view at the time got carried away with the single guy (or so I thought at the time). When I spoke to her about it she said she was sorry if she upset me, but what did I expect to see when two people are screwing (she had a good point). Now we talk about things we want to do at parties, we leave each other at parties to mingle and go explore and have generally become more relaxed. When I see Lady Libertine going at it with another guy now I think ‘god what a lucky guy I am’. I guess what I am trying to say is when you first experience sharing somebody you love you, what you see will be distorted by your feelings for them, this will pass as you go on in the lifestyle. However I do think the booze should be left out until you both are more comfortable.