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  1. Female: Audrey Hepburn Male: Hunter S. Thompson (yeah, well, I figure we're all just fantasizing anyway...)
  2. This is admittedly off-topic (sort of) but is in the same vein; see peeing, orgasms, enjoyable fluid ejections. I would recommend to any guy reading this, who hasn't already, to look into Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms (NEOs). Basically, it's utilizing the same muscle you use to stop your flow of urine to stem your little soldiers from enthusiastically leaping forth when you're having an orgasm. It not only allows for multiple male orgasms, but I find that it increases my sensitivity as the orgasms rack up. It's a lot of fun and I just wanted to share it with anyone interested.
  3. Should I feel bad that it took me an eight page essay to conclude the same point that sweet here so eloquently put in a matter of 28 words? Something tells me I should! Nice Post
  4. I think this is a classic case of comparing...um, two fruits that are different from one another. Promiscuity and cheating are two different animals. This "group" is "noteworthy for its tolerant attitude" towards promiscuity, casual sex, etc., not marital infidelity. Unfortunately, these two things intertwine with one another, most frequently under deception on the part of the cheater. Hence the wildly spraying hostility regarding the topic.
  5. Ok, I feel like I'm being over analytical at this point, so this is my last post in this vein. OK, to be fair I may not have kept the words 'fun' and 'sex' exclusive. While sex=fun, so do a lot of things. If I had meant only sex, I could have excluded the word "want". I intended a practical and a philosophical meaning in my statement. I regularly feel fulfilled, both with the necessities and the little extras that I enjoy and that add so much to life. Again, conceded. Get back on the horse, look on the bright side, you can do it! I am, in fact, an optimist despite many years of being a dark, brooding individual. Hell, maybe it's just an equal-opposite reaction. Oh well, one of my favorite quotes of all time: "Don't ever become a pessimist... a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events." - Robert Heinlein I do have a jones for being right, though... [Activate Motivational Poster] I suppose the most important thing is not to let "The things we forget..." discourage you from pursuing the things you enjoy. [End Motivational Poster] Sure, I should have added that lovely prepositional phrase that highlights the best parts of being human: I can swing however you like to swing "in reason". That's better. I feel like a fencer with a sore, bulging, over-worked saber arm...
  6. Sure!! The weather, the ball game, what we're having for lunch, the stock market...you know, the usual.
  7. It must be due to a lack of purchasing power...what else could I mean, given the context? I'll give you that, but I want to add that fun is subjective. It's important to make an effort to enjoy the plane ride with the Amish just as much as you enjoy the Annual Quilting and Churning Festival. I've had many journeys that beat the hell out of the destination...not in swinging, granted, but...just saying. If it doesn't involve irreversible mutilation, I can't think of much that I wouldn't try at least once. That's no marketing bullshit, either, just a philosophy I try (and succeed) to live by. Finally, something I think everyone here can easily agree on.
  8. My sense of humor is considerably dulled, due to it being 5:30 in the morning, but I laughed my ass off at this. It's not my cup o' tea, but it sure sounds like it could be fun for oral action! Me? I like it slow, strong, and passionate. When things are especially hot, my strokes are a little more forceful and longer/sweeping, but the pace is pretty similar. I like it the same way that I give it, but it's not a make or break type situation.
  9. First, a simply beautiful analogy. Also, I think it's important to be respectful of others "niche desires" when in a setting like a club. Sure, there's some craaaazy shit going on in the semi-private room that even I think is a bit racy. I simply move along to some people/acts that do interest me. I don't dramatize what others are into/doing - if I don't like it, I go about my business. Great quote! I'm going to remember that one. I'm not attempting to be a "motivational poster"; I suppose my goal is to be a "stimulative poster". I have strong outlooks and opinions about this lifestyle, but they are also still very malleable. So I like posts that elicit passionate, insightful replies from people, many of whom I'm growing to respect very much. I'm also not lifting anything out of context - I was defining fun in my statement just as you were in yours: "fun=sex". "Swinging is about sex" - it doesn't get any clearer than that. I'm not sure what exactly gave you the impression that this fact is lost on me. Because swinging is about sex, I put a focus on comfort. I make it my top priority to be sure my partners are comfortable with the path to the fun and the activities during the fun itself. I've said it before, but I will again here - I believe adaptability is the most valuable asset I have in the lifestyle. I can swing however you like to swing. "Actually having sex is way more fun than not" - no arguments here. "Follow Me?" - sure, I'd consider it...assuming your orders aren't too outlandish. I'll end by saying that I feel extremely lucky that your return to this board coincided with me finding this board. Your thoughts and insights are invaluable.
  10. I would like to share this with you all, not in support of the OP (I have 0 tolerance for cheating, period) but to supply you all with a truly different POV. Progress always follows trauma. That being said: I am a casualty of an unfaithful relationship. My wife of two years had met a customer at her job, developed a relationship with him over a period of time, and, eventually, fell in love with him. When I found out, I packed up and left her to her own devices. As time went on, we mended the relationship we had together (we are soulmates, after all) and we talk openly, honestly, and frequently. It's become a wonderful relationship on a lot of levels. This is the point where things get slightly twisted. Aforementioned customer had previously been involved in the lifestyle, and ex-wife has since eagerly and thoroughly explored the lifestyle herself. She even introduced the lifestyle to yours truly. Cheating is always a terribly shitty act, regardless, but, like all of the adversity people face during their time on this rock, growth and change tend to come out of the experience.
  11. I wanted to add a quick thought on this... ... I see less defined as a move in the right direction. The less definition involved the more true everyone can be to themselves. Complicated? Hmm, I like to think of myself as pretty complex and, honestly, simplicity is sometimes over-rated. "Not as much fun" really just sounds like a personal problem for them. I'm living proof that all the fun you could want or need is available right in the here and now. I believe it's important to appreciate and accept something for what it is, not what it was. It's wonderful to have fond memories of times past, but when you get bogged down in those memories to the point that it closes you off to the present it becomes a problem. Just some mid-day musings...
  12. OMG! I forgot one essential song! "Pure Morning" by Placebo Some of the best lyrics of all time: A friend in need's a friend indeed A friend with weed is better A friend with breasts and all the rest A friend who's dressed in leather And, by the way, that super sexy avatar right up there is the cover of the Placebo album "Sleeping with Ghosts". How could I forget "Crash Into Me" by DMB. I'm slipping in my old age. Enjoy!
  13. You can always spice it up a bit...here's Richard Cheese's lounge cover of "Closer". It's worth the time, trust me. Well, I'm about to get obscure on all your asses, but this is great stuff: "Dressed Up in Smoke" by Deadboy and the Elephantmen "In the Aeroplane Over the Sea" - Neutral Milk Hotel Take the time to check these out, despite the seeming strangeness...you won't regret it.
  14. (2) - I take offense to that!! (3) - I won't speak on the subjectivity of "attractiveness", but I think this pasty white bod does all the speaking required. It's impossible for things not to be better. As all of this technology in communication and transportation advances, our Lifestyle advances with it. It's easier than ever for me to find like-minded, interesting people in the world to share experiences with and easier than ever to make my way to wherever they happen to be. It'll be even easier tomorrow. It's an exciting time for the advancement of Human Sexuality!!
  15. I just have to say that I have the utmost respect for you and how you handled this situation. I'm also envious as hell of your daughter...openness like this in a child/parent relationship is rare. I hope you realize how lucky you really are.
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