It took us a couple of years to finally even start investigating swinging online, and we are very very new still. We went to our first on premise club Aprill 11th, 2009 and we played with another couple there. That's our whole real life experience . I just didn't want you to think I am an expert or anything.. One of the biggest hurdles for me initially was being ok with the idea that my husband wanted to share me. Part of me wanted him to want me all to himself. He was patient and loving and waited until I got my head and my heart wrapped around the idea. Boy I am so glad I got over it!! Being a member here helped me tremendously, I agree that if she is willing, this board has been extremely wonderful for me see if she will spend some time here. I spend many more hours here than my husband. Mrs. H