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I'm a single bi-curious female and I get the whole aggressive issue. My profile clearly states that I need to get to know someone, chat a little online, have a phone call or two and then set up a M&G. My profile also states I won't meet married men cheating. (If the wife knows and approves fine) I get so many emails asking to meet in an hour so we can fuck. I also get so many that state "I read your profile" when they are either married/cheating or want to meet right now! Did they really read the whole thing or did they never get past single female? I don't respond to many of those and the ones I do respond to I turn down any further contact.

I am going to have to agree with what many have said before, it is not the size that matters, just what he can do with it. I have been with both large & small and for me it all came down to the skills. I will say that large is more difficult as it takes some time to get used to the size and the fear of pain. Some positions are just impossible with a bigger cock. Like someone said, I like my internal organs right where they are.

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In my 20's I had quite a few partners, spent a huge portion of my 30's either in a LTR or celibate, and in my 40's prior to the LS just 3 partners.

I'm going to agree with dim lights. It's been a long time since I've had sex in the dark :P

As a single I want to address both of these replies. I feel singles can be swingers in that they are looking for similar things in the lifestyle that many couples are looking for. People who have an open attitude about sex and feel that sex & love are not the same thing. Please don't take this to mean that I feel couples don't love each other. It has been my experience so far that the couples I've met have great love for each other, respect, trust and all that makes a marriage good. They also have the ability to understand that bringing others into the bedroom is not love, just sex. As a single I am not interested in a committed relationship in this point in my life. I may be at some point and when & if that happens I have no illusions that I will find him in the swinging world. Could happen but I'm not looking for it nor do I want it now. For many of the same reasons as the OP. Just can't handle the emotional aspect of it at this point in my life. I do not see swingers as a *convenient fuck* at all. I see them as a great open minded group of people who view sex & sexuality as I do right now. Like the OP, I can get laid by walking into almost any bar. But that is not what I want. I want to have sexual fun with like-minded people, those who understand and agree it's only sex.

CockStamper - Please don't take my comments to mean that I feel single men do not belong in the LS. I feel SM men are great and I look forward to meeting them. It just has been my experience many treat the lifestyle as a meat market and not an alternative lifestyle. Please spend some time here, you are willing to learn, and should have some success. And again I was in no way trying to single you out in my previous post.

OP - I read this post and your introduction. I'm a single female and have, as usual, been bombarded with emails from SM. Some of the things I have learned as I've gone along are these: 1. If a SM sends me a message, I don't want to read how big your dick is, how you are the best at eating pussy, how you'll be the best I've ever had. You don't know me and don't know what I've had. 2. If there are pictures I want to see more than just a dick picture. If you're a man I'm going to assume you have one. 3. Be willing to exchange a few emails so we can get to know each other a bit. I'm not here to fall in love but...there needs to be some connection for me to have sex with a man. 4. I don't want to hear you bad mouth your ex-wife, current wife, ex-gf, current gf.....and so on. Gives me the impression you are an asshole. 5. Just because I'm on a sex site does not mean I'm an easy, quick fuck. I have needs & desires that I am exploring now. I'm not looking to add notches to my bed post, just want to have some good friends that I can be sexual with. I've used the word you in here but please take that as a general you, collective of many SM looking for women, not a specific you. I don't know if you have a profile on a site but if so, your chances at success will be better if you try to treat women you want to meet as a woman, not a fuck toy. I am going to assume this will be for many couples also.

There has to be an attraction of some sort for me to want to have sex with a man (or woman). I was at a LS party last night and about half the men there were a turn off for me. Why? Who knows, just no chemistry for me. The other half I could have very well been turned on by. Now that does not mean that I would develop any type of emotional connection with them past wanting to have sex. I'm in this to have fun and explore my sexual, sensual side. It's only sex and for me it will stay that way. As soon as I feel I can't maintain that attitude it is time for me to get out of the LS.

One thing I've learned since become active in the lifestyle is that dicks come in all shapes & sizes. For me it doesn't really matter (the very big ones are scary though) as long as there is a connection with the male. I once had a LTR with a man who felt he was small. He was average but could not be convinced that this wasn't an issue. I was happy with him and our sex life but...over time his concern with the size of his dick really took something away from the relationship. His constant need for reassurance in this was difficult for me to deal with. He couldn't understand that there was a lot more to making love than the size of his penis.

I'm another woman who enjoys giving BJs. I don't know why I enjoy it and really don't need to know why. I just do. I don't cum from giving a BJ but it does get me excited to see & hear his response to what I am doing. I don't think I've met a man yet who didn't enjoy getting a BJ and would be very surprised if I did. To me it is a natural form of foreplay.

I'm a single female also and have some of the same concerns about going to a parties (no clubs in our area) as a single female. The first event I went to I went alone. It was a small weekend event and I had met a couple of people attending prior to going. Everyone was great in welcoming me and made me feel very comfortable about being there. I was very new to the LS and scared. I was very lucky to meet a single man there who I formed a good connection with. We live near each other and have met many times for play. We attend parties together and this works for us. We are upfront with those we meet about our relationship, that we are both singles looking for friends & playmates, and that while we do play as a couple we are both very open to playing without the other. I don't know that I will ever be as comfortable going to a party alone, maybe down the road, but I really enjoy having that safety net so to speak. OP-maybe try to find a single man who you can get comfortable with and attend some events with him. You may have to sort through a bunch to find that person but it could make you entry into the LS a little easier. Another thing I have found at some parties is a single attending with a couple. I've seen this also and it really seems to work well for some.

"When you tamper with the way the body works naturally you can't predict long-term outcome until you study long-term outcome. And right now we don't have that data." I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers? In my younger years I tried many methods of birth control for the obvious reasons. While some were effective at preventing pregnancy I never liked the effect on my body and system. I had a tubal 19 years ago and after the first year or so my cycle regulated to the point of being able to predict when I started almost to the day. It was nice to not mess with the hormonal stuff that comes with the pill and to let my body do what is natural. Now that I am older I'm finding I am less predictable in when I start. I'm just putting that down to peri-menopause and hope it happens soon. It will be nice to be done with that aspect of my life.

I went to a LS party this past weekend, one that I had been really looking forward to a couple of months. My period started that afternoon. I have a single male partner that I attend these parties with and I let him know on the way to the party that I would be out of commission for sex. As this was away from home we did get a hotel room. I told him that he should do whatever he wanted as far as hooking up with others. (Not that he needs permission from me to have sex with others, just wanted him to not feel obligated to limit his activities due to my inability that night) We did meet up with a single gal that he wanted to take back to our room with us, which I was OK with. We explained to her I was on my period but was really OK with watching and a little participation. This gal was awesome and she & I did play with each other while he had sex with her. The next morning, she left after sex, he & I did have intercourse. Since we know each other & play together quite a bit I was comfortable having sex with him. Bottom line, I've never had a problem having sex with a known long term partner while on my period I am very uncomfortable with someone I don't know as well. As far as a group encounter (even a 4some), not going to happen. The mess alone screws me up. Needless to say I had a great time as the party, seeing old friends and making some new ones. I would let my period stop me from attending it would just limit my activities after the party.

That was priceless. I can't imagine, having grown sons, what my response would be. Another reason to not have a face picture on any profile. :lol::lol: