pleasantinok

Our favorite is MFM. She enjoys the attention, and I love to see her in action, especially when we get her really going. Mr Pleasant

We know a few couples that have physically aggressive males. They actually act like little boys trying to cop a feel. If we give them a hello or goodbye hug, then they are feeling for her tits or reaching up her skirt. These guys usually aren't grabby right when you first meet them, but the more you talk to them, the more handsy they get. I look at it more as a lack of class or control than as aggression, but I'm sure it could be unnerving to a newbie.

It is also possible to have a "Soft MFM". We've had a couple of great MFM's where only the wife and I had intercourse, and she took care of him in other ways. She was still the main focus. And some of you thought the swinger dictionary was full! LOL

This man's opinion, other's may vary. It was very worth it in the end. I am turned on by the sight of my wife's sexual pleasure. Whether it be by herself, from me, or from someone else. When we have a MFM, I want to be next to her, assisting and experiencing her pleasure. In the unlikely event that the other guy does something better than you, so what? That is an opportunity to learn something new. You want her to enjoy it, don't you? If you adopt the attitude that what is good for her is good for you, than you will be fine. Talk about it a lot, and not only in the bedroom. Set your boundries, let her participate in the selection process, and take your time. Go to some off-premise clubs, meet some new people. The attention you wife will get will improve her confidence. Have fun! With each other! Promise each other of your love and commitment. Don't be in a rush, the extra guy, or couple, will show up. Now, you've finally had that eperience. Together. Lots of talking, lots of lovemaking between the two of you. Your bedroom windows are all steamed up, and you were worriied that it would negatively affect your marriage? Mr Pleasant

We won't go to anyone's home until we know them quite well. I would be more worried about him having hidden video cameras running than him being an axe murderer. I don't want to see my wife on YouTube the morning after we had some fun. I'm sorry, sweetrosy, I disagree with making it sound as if only you're wife is uncomfortable. I, or we together, will will state any rejections. If there is any anger directed at us, I want it towards me, not my wife. But take heart, remember "he keep saying his home he had candles going"? His house was probably burned down from the unattended candles!

This could go on forever. In Oklahoma, there is a song with the lyrics "this land is my land, this land is your land". Swinging is who you are and what you make of it. We all have our wants and preferences. Can't we all get along, even if we don't agree with the next guy? We wish there were Vegas style parties in this area. 35% single guys, that would be great. We are picky, she want's to have plenty to choose from. We have been fortunate in that most guys are polite. (Maybe something in our body language helps with that.) Am I afraid that you will please her better than I? Hardly! I want her to shake thru a dozen Os with you. Because I will be there to experience it with her. Show her something new? Great, because she and I will both benefit from it later. So, single guy, come introduce yourself. But remember, polite and charming always gets you farther, in everyday life and in swinging. Ha! I think I addressed everything in this thread!