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  1. Easy solution:tell him~ honey, we have this "don't ask don't tell" thing, and I had sex with a woman, maybe you've been with other people...let's do condoms with each other now because we care about each other. Your bigger issue is not using condoms with a guy on a "don't ask, don't tell" open relationship. Save the story, "break up" with the guy, live your life in your city as a grown up, and if you continue fucking your dude, use a condom.
  2. oh, and I can stay with others, and so can my hubby...don't let the dick size scare you. However, if you feel like she's super into him emotionally and physically and everything else, you may want to move slowly on the "staying alone" thing. If she is really into him, move slowly until everyone knows the rules. Is he just a single guy? Does he want your wife, would he want a relationship with her or is there a reason he's not capable of anything beyond sex right now? I'd say move super super slow until her "dickmatization" dies down.
  3. I have been with a much bigger guy and...ok...to be graphic. The vaginal sex was incredible! Like change your life incredible. My hubby is bigger (and thicker) than average, but I know he felt a bit dwarfed in the moment. Here's the thing about a big dick though--it's awesome in the novelty, and on an occasional basis, but if I had to deal with that monster every day, it would be a problem. I can't imagine being able to fuck like that all the time, anal is definitely out, and I couldn't fit hardly any of him in my mouth. While he was great to play with, it's impractical... now, a dick like yours...well, a girl can love that dick:)
  4. My husband is "bi", but he is not traditionally attracted to men. He never sees a guy and thinks "oh yeah, I want that." In the abstract, he doesn't feel like that. On the other hand, I (the wife) am bi, and I have fantasized about women my entire life, and rarely about men. Still, I find myself more physically drawn to the smell of men, it feels more comfortable than with women. What I draw from this is that sexuality is an odd thing, and there is more to it than the brain and the sex organs...there are hormones, there is chemistry, there are so many things. There are masculine people in feminine bodies, there are people who are in the middle. What most sex researchers find is that people are on a spectrum, with very few people at either extreme and most people leaning one way or another. I have gone out with plenty of straight men, straight men who like cock, bi guys, guys who are just pervy and therefore like it all. I just don't see an atmosphere on this here board where men can be open about who they are. Or in the swinger community. But I don't find it shocking since there are so few spaces in the world where men can truly be honest. And that's sad! (((pervy mens))))
  5. This sounds like too much complication, drama, effort for a relationship. Either fuck her and stay unemotional, or if you can't, stay away. My .02.
  6. I think the other guy is making you insecure, straight up. To see a guy that fucks like a pornstar and to see your wife loving it, it's going to knock you for a loop. I saw it happen to my husband, we were playing with a guy and his dick was so much bigger. It was naturally intimidating. He is above average so never had this issue, but I think its totally natural to feel like you can't "compete." Just remember, we all bring a unique sexual footprint to the table. While he may be able to pound away, that does get boring after a while...there may be things you are much better at, oral, kissing, touch, lots of stuff. Sure, you can pick up a thing or 2 from him, but I am sure he can from you. If you cum a bunch of times, good, you said you can keep going. Your mind is getting in your way. Slow down, don't play with this couple for a bit, reassess where you're headed. If there's things about how this man "pleases" your wife vs. you expecting to be pleased by her, then maybe that's something you should work on...
  7. I get turned on reading about women doing gangbangs but I think I would like to fuck her with a strap on rather than me being the woman getting fucked. I don't think that's for me...
  8. It's always funny to me that these hardcore swingers, chicks in group anal bangs, they will turn up their nose at a guy who has sucked a few cocks. "Ooooh, disease!" My husband and I are "oral only" with other people, I've had intercourse with one other man in 8 years...but tell people my husband has sucked few dicks, and hardcore swingers are like "you have aids." Nice. I find more and more, though, that people are open to it.
  9. To me, it seems like older women are so "turned off" by bisexual men. I've never encountered a woman under 35 that was "grossed out" by it. But plenty in the 40 plus category who are close to freaking out. Which makes me think it comes down to what you are accustomed to. I am so turned on by bisexual men, it drives me crazy. And I am a bi female.
  10. I love it so much I married a bi guy. I love sharing cock with him, I love seeing him enjoy it, I love the look on a guy's face when he sees a woman see him do something so taboo. BIG FAN!
  11. Didn't know he felt that way until that conversation. I'm thinking of never speaking to him again, but I wanted to make sure it was because he is a dickface and not because what he said hit close to home.
  12. Not very close to him, talk every few months, we both work in the same general area (geographically, we don't work together) and are in the same field, so we have met for coffee, whatever. Once he said he was going back to his wife, I told him there would never be anything more beyond friendship. I know he is wrestling with things within himself, I guess it's more that I do too, sometimes I question if I'm a "bad" person for being as sexual as I am, but then again, I don't hurt people, I'm as moral and ethical about it as I can be. I'm just not that mainstream wife that hates sex and the alpha male has to cheat on, so I think it's easier for someone like him to put me down. Whatever, I'm not going to let it sully my opinion of myself!
  13. No, wasn't my husband. He quite likes me and my freaky ways, which is all that should matter! I just let other opinions and my own internal judgments get to me sometimes. Which I like to call "the guilt monster."
  14. It's a friend who I played with on one occasion. He was married, was single for a year during the time I met him (and dating around), and has decided to go back to his wife, who is very vanilla. He is going back for the kids, which I understand, but he was the type who cheated on her left and right. I suggested to him that maybe he just wasn't the monogamous type, as some people aren't, and I count myself among those ranks. Then he went on a rant about how he wants to be monogamous, that's what we should all want, he could never be married to someone like me who is drawn to other people. I *know* he was just judging himself, and I was the unfortunate recipient, but it stirred up my own guilt monster. Which isn't hard to do, by the way. I have too many of those moments where someone says something, possibly not even directed at me, but I *feel* it too deeply. That I am wrong to be who I am. Please note I was raised catholic!
  15. Do you ever feel guilty about being non-monogamous, especially if someone knows and says things like "I could never be married to someone like you"...and then you start thinking maybe you are a bad person for being sexually open. It happens to me more than it should. I don't know how to fight the guilt monster.
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