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  1. For David and me, it was pretty simple. He said, didn't ask, "You're still sleeping with Red." I thought this was our breakup. Then he said, "I want you to know that I'm ok with it." Not long after, David said we should marry. We did and Red came along for the ride. Our relationships weren't planned in advance, but worked out. That's why I believe it's better to go into a relationship as ENM, not trying to pry open a monogamous one.
  2. Yes, but start by putting it in a way that gives something to your spouse first, and doesn't make them feel inadequate. You want see your spouse enjoying someone else, not that you want to have sex with another person. If the first happens, the second follows.
  3. I'm too lazy to search Amazon, but is there a device to measure vaginal depth and gives a tightness profile? Something for us women to be competitive about.
  4. Understood. At some point start a "real talk" conversation about a small, comfortable "sex talk" topic that had come up, one that you think your boyfriend would move along. Something along the lines of "Hey, we talked about a threesome with Mike and Mary. I really like her tits and would want to watch you play with them." Something very non-threatening for him, and see what he says. Baby steps.
  5. Allow me to offer another contrarian opinion: he is hoping, wanting his wife to be playing, somehow knows that you and your wife are in the lifestyle, and wants advice on how to open up the conversation with her.
  6. In my recollection of that story, they were already in the lifestyle and it wasn't a random guy. Still a good point, just not a huge step. Yep.
  7. I do like to watch, it makes me jealous and horny for both my husband and the woman who he is fucking. But I get excited as much or more when denied the privilege of seeing them copulate, and now knowing it will be one-on-one, alone. Plus, I know Lora and Clair will taunt me as Red has his way with me. They have already started, telling me how eager David and Shan were to accept the arrangement. How sweet it all is.
  8. Joe and I went behind our spouses' backs to make arrangements. We noticed that David and Shannon will be in NYC during overlapping times and strongly suggested that they get together for some fun. This will be a new combination, those two alone. It already gets me excited thinking about it, fantasizing with David. Joe and I have been texting, sharing our thoughts.
  9. Your situation is the opposite of the usual "how do I get my wife to swing" question, but my advice is the same as I would give such a husband - let your partner go first. Nothing says that the lifestyle must be symmetric. Tell your boyfriend that you love him and would like for him to have a sexual adventure or two, it would make you happy. Admittedly it's harder for a man to just put himself out there and find a casual sex partner, but when I decided I wanted my husband to play (after two years of him letting me have a boyfriend) I had success setting him up with my female friends and acquaintances. As a married man offered up by his wife, my friends considered him safe, not immoral, and he is attractive. If you are bi, offering that participation will attract some women as well. The long game here is to show your boyfriend the pleasures of the lifestyle and that he'll want you to play too. That wasn't my husband’s goal with me, he was happy sharing me, but I wanted to see him with other women. The other approach is to just tell him of your fantasy and what you want to do. After turning it over in his mind for a while he may go for it. He may be a willing cuckold. Be sensitive to his desires, however; does he want to hear the details or not, meet your sideman or not, be humiliated or praised, have you come home sloppy or clean?
  10. Red and David like the easy access for a quickie of just flipping up the back of my dress or pulling up my skirt. I prefer not having my labia and clit bound up by panties or pantyhose, and like the feeling of air moving. Don't complain, my boobs are too small to need a bra. More easy access though for the guys, I guess. I do wear very plain bras to work and other conservative situations.
  11. That's an interesting request. Is the response from women positive? Do they let you harvest it yourself? What do you do with it?
  12. It would be a problem for me. I rarely wear underwear.
  13. My first thought is that starting in the lifestyle need not begin where you want to end up, in your case a couples swap or be symmetric. Consider other scenarios which may be a good first step: same room non-swap sex, just one of you playing, MFM or FFM/FMF, etc. After "years" of talking, it's time for a first step. If I know a man is going to cum quickly, I find it an exciting challenge to keep up and cum quickly myself. Besides, you can always go down on her.
  14. I understand, I'm not into stranger sex at all. But I do like being "used," the one chosen over two other women in our family to simply satisfy a man's desire for an orgasm and ejaculation. This usually happens as a morning quickie. The best times for me are when I'm pulled aside by one, then the other, solely for their sexual release. It's very flattering and satisfying for me, even though the reason may be that Clair and Lora are not readily accessible. Genuine lovemaking comes later. BTW, I also sometimes desire aggressive Lesbian sex. Anyone else?
  15. You and your husband seem to be on the same wavelength, a very good one. But this caught my attention: I love, love, love it when David or Red (both in great shape) tell me about a woman who he'd like to fuck, or he thinks I'd enjoy fucking, or even better, someone he'd want to watch me have sex with. They just don't do it enough.
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