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  1. Simply from an economic standpoint I would like to see more STD testing offered to the swinging community. As a rule, NO protection is 100%. We have an opportunity here as a subculture to promote testing. This may not be in line with the Club idea, but anonymous testing at the club for a minimal fee will certainly do two things: 1. Those with positive results will most likely see treatment. 2. As a result of more testing the costs and stigma of testing will drop. I believe as a community concerned about sexual health it is incumbent upon us to promote testing along with safe sex. This opinion is not meant as a "free ticket" for unsafe sex but rather a duty to bring testing to wider audience and make it more available.
  2. [quote=;8151] First: A Biblical perspective. To completely understand the Bible, which Christians believe to be the written word of God, one cannot just take a verse from any chapter and put it to use to satisfy a point that is trying to be made. An example is scripture states that the Lord will help those who help themselves, so now I am going to rob a bank and "help" myself to this money, or an eye for an eye so now I will kill your dog because you killed mine. Rather, a study of scripture is incorporated from different verses to lead us to a single solution. The Ten Commandments were written for Moses to be given to the Israelites who had fallen from grace. The two we can use for this post are, Thou Shalt not Commit Adultery, and Thou Shalt not Covet thy Neighbor's wife. Aren't you simply taking those two commandments out of context to satisfy your point? Remember it is the church that holds the ten commandments above the rest of the old testament. Not the bible itself. If we are to read the old scripture as a whole an entirely different message will present itself. "Be honest and be kind." This is the message of the bible. Old and new testament. I also noticed that you said that you have your own ministry. May I take that to mean that you are not Catholic? If so remember that as a consequence of your ministry you are breaking the first commandment as interpreted by the original Christian church. "You shall have no other gods before me." As Constantine saved Rome and laid the groundwork for modern Christianity the church came to regard deviation from it's teachings as a sin against the first commandment. If Jesus ordained Peter to be his church on earth, then rejection of Peter's church is rejection of God. As a recovering Catholic, I always find it convenient that protestants often are the most literal and fundamental acolytes of Biblical verse when by their very testament they reject the church that Jesus created. So I say that if you get to pick and choose what parts of the Bible to follow and what parts of Christian dogma to follow then the rest of us should be allowed the same. Submitted after 5,295 masses as an altar boy and Serra Knight of Arinagour.
  3. Fantasies for her. Fantasies for me. That's our bag too! Your question does remind me of a conversation my wife and I had the other night. We have a hard time changing our sexual routine when we haven't played with others in awhile. We've only been together for 5 years but we've gotten to know each other's bodies so well that it's hard to change. She knows exactly what makes me hot and I know her. Seem as though we go for the hot spots all too quickly now. It's sometimes difficult for us to prolong our sex when we're both so adept at getting each other off. I think we both miss those little sexual mistakes that people make when things are new. Of course, many of those "mistakes" turn out to be sources of great pleasure. Maybe that's why we like this, or we're just perverts. Who cares!
  4. I think that you SHOULD start a thread about exactly that. It seems that we have brushed a lot of tender nerves on the guilt subject. A topic about how our culture has conditioned us to feel guilty about sexual pleasure is essential. I look forward to reading educated views on the subject. I think that my wife and I are lucky as we were both over-educated as scientists. Over time science has a tendency to allow you to dismiss any guilt or regret associated with a departure from our dogma. We're so used to disagreeing (with Christian dogma) on other subjects, sex just seems to fall in line. (I think that's why I've kinda stayed away from this thread until now, I had my identity crisis long ago and ain't lookin' back or feelin' guilty for anybody or anything! )
  5. Unfortunately that happens sometimes. We ran into quite a bit of uninvited guests at Hedo. They're mostly harmless and usually can be dealt with by using the proper English. There are even terms for them at the resort. A "Vinnie" is a younger "god's gift to women" type that can be quite annoying but harmless. (i.e. I get the next blowjob!) A "Wally" is usually an older man the simply sits, stares, and usually has his hand on his very limp penis. You will encounter both of these species wherever naked, aroused women are found. They are usually non-venomous and have poor hearing. Both species reproduce by cellular division as no other organism would consciously mate with them. Reproduction usually occurs within large groups concentrated around an alcohol base. What happened to you is sad and uncomfortable. I simply try to put it in a humorous light. When we encounter one of these folks, I am ruthless. If they think that it's okay to be pushy, overbearing and a total jerk, well, I give 'em a taste of their own medicine. I make fun of their clothes, shoes, family and anything else I can find. It usually works too, nobody wants to get in a fight with an angry, naked husband sporting a big ol' boner. I hope that your future encounters with these species is very limited.
  6. I don't mean to be too callous here but I feel that you should simply stay out of this situation as much as possible. I realize that these folks have become good friends so treat it as simply that. Just because you had sex with them really doesn't make you sages that will solve their problems. One thing that we have kept in mind throughout our adventures is that our separation of love and sex occurs with our relationships with other couples also. There have been a few couples that we have stopped seeing because they were a little too eager for a good friendship. Simply because I have sex with this guy's wife doesn't automatically make him my best friend. Hell, my best friend doesn't swing but I love him like a brother. It would take years for another couple to truly develop a loving relationship with my wife and me. So, what I'm really saying is it's their problem and their loss (from what I've read from you guys.) As for questioning your desire to swing. Well, as you know only you can answer that. I will point out that the idea of swinging is a break from the norm. You have already changed your thinking contrary to our societal dogma. When our culture tells you that extra-marital sex with ruin your life you have chosen to ignore it. Why suddenly pay attention to the experiences of one couple who obviously has severe communication problems. One of my pleasures of hanging out with other men that swing is that they rarely tell me about any marital problems. My straight friends sometimes do and it bugs me. I’m not saying that swinging couples don’t have problems, simply that the successful ones rarely consider talking with anyone else other than their spouse. Usually that solves the problem rather quickly. It’s this team mentality that I enjoy. And, when I see a couple discussing problems with others instead of their spouse, that’s when the flags go up (and we usually go elsewhere.)
  7. Jason is 29 and Sarah is 27. We've been together for 5 years and married six months TODAY! We started swinging off and on about three years ago.
  8. Originally posted by JustAskJulie: Once we had sex in our car (it was a Camaro with the T-tops out). Car was parked in our driveway in daylight. So was "Hot for Teacher" playing the the tape deck during this Camaro encounter? Sorry, couldn't resist. Camaro, T-tops, sex in the car... add some Van Halen and it's 1984.
  9. On the nude beach bar at Hedo II. Not really that unusual for Hedo but it was nice to have the bartender serve us our drinks as we got thirsty.
  10. Hell, I'll bite on this one until the ladies chime in. I'm a married regular guy who belives he satisfies his wife and other partners quite well. While I am endowed with an average member, good sexual health and knowledge make it very desirable. First, "how to use it" is an improper term. You're not "using" your penis anymore than the woman uses only her vagina. Herein lies the meat of the matter. For a man to be a truly good lover he has to first understand the female anatomy. Basically we're both the same. Head, shaft, sack. Clitoris, vagina, labia. They all start out the same, a little hormone here, a little hormone there and viola, one-eyed-monster. Knowing that they are both basically the same organs will help you to have better sex. The head of your penis is a wonderfully sensitive area just like the clitoris. So if it feels good to have that stimulated then vice-versa. While yer at it, the shaft needs a little attention, so on to the vagina.... Oh, but don't forget to play with those balls when giving a blowjob ladies... so remember that labia... Get them all together for a hoedown and you've got yourself an orgasm. I always try to put myself in the womans shoes during sex. (hehe no comments about that please.) What feels good to me usually feels good for her. What I mean is that if I like it when a girl sucks on the head of my penis and plays with my balls at the same time then she would most likely like it if I sucked on her clitoris and played with her labia at the same time. Of course I've only dealt with the genitals here and I could write a whole book about breasts. I always look at sex like dancing. You gotta move all the parts, keep a good rythm with your partner and don't stop until the song is over for both of you. And sometimes you just have to grind together until you're sure that your pubic hair has turned to diamond from the pressure. If there are any men out there that don't fully understand the female anatomy I would highly recommend the Discovery Health Channel. They have some awesome shows about human sexuality and how it evolved. We've even evolved sexually so that it is more likely that pregnancy will occur during simultaneous orgasm.... look it up!
  11. Compliments...Compliments....Compliments... My wife has those few extra pounds and I know that she's the most beautiful woman in the world in my eyes. And nothing reassures her more of that than other men trying to bed her. Most of us are in this to see our loved one experience pleasure (bed notches just don't last in the long run.) I remember broaching the subject a few years ago by asking her if she missed all those guys in college hitting on her. The answer was a resounding "YES"! Yes you want to play with other women. And, yes she probably wants to play with other men. It was very easy for me to throw her on a little ego trip by asking about who was after her, when she felt sexiest, why she felt sexy, and who she thought was sexy. Next thing I knew the questions were coming back at me. Talking about past sexual experiences was our biggest hurdle and now it's sometimes our favorite pastime. It doesn't matter whether it was an innocent kiss or that college orgy I can barely remember through the drunken fog. All of those experiences shaped both of our sexual psyches. And reliving those with each other was a necessary and wonderful first step towards total sexual honesty. I've heard other men and women say that they don't want to know what their mate did before. Well, if you can't honestly talk about and enjoy those experiences with each other, it's going to be a little difficult to share your intamacy with new friends. Just my 839 cents worth.
  12. I've tried it in a group setting back in college. This wasn't what you would call a swinging situation. Hell, we didn't even know about the swinging world then. We were just a bunch of college kids who did drugs together and sometimes had sex with each other. The X just got us all naked faster, and much hornier. It was a fabulous experience but I think that the people involved made all the difference. We had done similar parties on LSD and had similar experiences. The ecstasy simply amplified the physical factor. However, as someone who took a great deal of acid in college, I wouldn't recommend doing X in a situation where you're going to meet a lot of new people or where most of the group has never taken major hallucinogens. Even though it's X you're still tripping. The emotional aspect of the drug is very powerful also. Make sure that everyone involved is very trusting of each other. That and that alone can make or break your trip. Good luck though. I can tell you that if everyone is comfortable with it, the drug will add to an already erotic and fulfilling experience.
  13. Yea, we just got back from Hedo II two weeks ago. When in our local pub last weekend we had mucho trouble censoring ourselves after a full fledged week of debauchery. We had a few friends actually tell us to calm ourselves for fear of us just stripping down and going at it right there. We even made up a new code word. Well, we have our regular code words for when a situation is going to far or too fast (rarely used). So last weekend we made a new code word for when the company is just utterly boring and too prudish.
  14. I always use the same response when someone wants a naughty pic of us. I ask whether they got a naked pic of their wife or girlfriend before they started dating. My wife and I certainly never traded dirty pics before we slept together. It kinda takes the fun out of getting someone naked the first time if you ever do hook up with them. This response usually gets us past the naked pic thing or the person just disappears because they aren't for real.
  15. Well, recently on our honeymoon at Hedo II in Jamaica a friend was performing the "muff diving" competition upon my new bride and nearly drowned. He started to inhale water through his nose and we had to basically push the water out of his chest when he came up comatose. However, she was VERY proud that a man would drown himself for a taste of her little box.
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