38and9

We gotta go along with CuriousinOregon on this one. Since you definitely do have a preference (age-wise), don't depend on the luck of the draw. Accordingly, you have to do some more checking. In Ca, there are "affairs" that have nights or events that are within a certain age groups. Look into those. And NO, you did not come across snobby! Everybody has preferences.

Ahhhhh! THE question. When we first got started in the lifestyle, I thought that I needed some kind of emotional connection with the guy who would be fvcking me. Friendship, love, SOMETHING! My husband reminded me that we were in this for the physical gratification and not to fall in love. Of course there needs to be a physical attraction for me, however I already have a best friend, lover, and husband. Shortly thereafter I read an ad on SLS that stated: "We don't want to know your Zodiac sign, your favorite color, or the life's trivilations of your kids!" That too....... reminded me of where "home" is. So, I'm saying that we do not have to be "friends" with anyone in order the fvck them. It IS however, nice to have a partner(s) with whom that is more than a fvck-buddy. Still our support system is at home. Fvcking is totally separate.

Mr 28 volts, At the first meeting.....do NOT assume that I want to fvck you just because we are there and in the lifestyle. I already assume (just as you do) that the prospect of fvcking is open. I will invite "your affection" because I want it, or like it. When I do....please knock yourself out showing "affection", but please respect that if I do not want an ear-full of your spit in my ear, and you continue...I might not like you. If you do....then I will consider THAT pushy. My advice.....take some time to ask/learn what your prospective partner likes and wants. Do not assume that James Bond did everything right in all of those damned movies! Do NOT assume that I like giving you head, if you do me in an obligatory fashion.