L (my wife) and B (me) really have enjoyed surfing our way through the site the past few days. Don't know why it took us so long to Google "Swingers"...
L and I and have been off and on again lovers for the past 9 years. During the "on" times we've explored a variety of sexual pleasures just with the 2 of us and other women. We both have a rich fantasy life and we have always openly shared our past experinces with other partners and our as yet unfullfilled fantasies. Last September we finally decided that "on" should be Official and we wed on a beautiful beach here in Costa Rica.
Our wedding and Honeymoon were incredible, rich emotional and sexual experiences and drew us toward Swinging as a next step in our sexual relationship.
Although we each had numerous experiences together and apart (FF, MFF, MFM, MMMF, MFFF). Neither one of us had ever been with another couple and swapped partners. We extensively talked about what our boudaries were (including the tricky (I'll "Never" do "X") and other sexual and situational things (another thread at a later time) and felt good about kicking our sex life up a notch.
1st time was with a couple from an ad site... we clicked and a couple of "I'll Never's" we're mutually disposed of easily It wasn't great but it wasn't a bad first experience (Another thread at a later time).
Our second experience was very different, We hosted a "Meet and Greet" for some couples 6 including us) we had met OL. Well.. As often happens at M and G's, as the evening progressed it became apparent that there was mutual sexual attraction from 2 of the couples and ourselves.
So... "To the bold go the riches" we wound up with a late night coupling with one of the couples that showed interest (The other couple to be discussed in an upcoming post).
Started off great... we intially kept to our own and then easily slid from that into swapping with an incredible transition of FF fun in between. It went quickly downhill from there. L and her new male friend we're hitting it off great and I was secure in the knowledge that he was treating her right and knew the boundaries. As my interaction with the other woman began I felt and immediate sense of dislocation from what was, a moment befor,e a really nice connected feeling between the 4 of us. My new friend clearly had lost interest in what was going on between us and was intent (verbally and physically) on what was happening on the other side of the bed. After 2 subtle attempts to re-engage her and 1 not so subtle attempt... I called "Stop".
My wife (God love her, immediatly disengaged) and, realizing what was happening, took immediate control and made it clear that the night was "over". I have left out pertinent details and specifics in this saga for a reason. I hope that those of you more experienced will chime in with input.
Here's the bottom line: The other couple was very insulted when we called halt... we briefly and politely explained why and asked them corteously to "vamos". We knew going into this that sex and love are not the same things. We believe however that there should be some kind of mutual respect and connection (not emotional) between swapping couples in this Lifestyle.
So... to those of you who disagree with our viewpoint? We would appreciate your insight. We certainly can appreciate a "just "F" me" approach but can't concieve that there could be NO (or even a little) deeper connection between swapping couples and in this case? A minimal regard and respect for all concerned.
L is now clearly indicating that I write too much (I do) and love the sound of my own voice too much (Mea cupla). So we thank you in advance for your comments and bid you a very good day... Pura Vida!