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You all have never steered me wrong yet so need some advice. We signed up for a trip with two other couples before I knew I was pregnant. We have been on a break from swinging due to the pregnancy. We have been with both couples but they don't know each other.

 

I am getting a tad nervous about the weekend as I'm hoping the others don't have expectations of us. They know we have been on a break, etc. So should I be very clear that we are there to socialize only? I don't want to do anything honestly. I'm so turned off by everything that I'm going through that I wouldn't even want to have sex in front of everyone...to me there is nothing sexy about myself at this point. DH agrees that we need to keep it vanilla. The sad thing that if I even watch anyone I know I would be sad because we just can't participate.

 

Any advice on how to handle things?

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Just be honest. Tell them you are with child and there is a self imposed swinging ban in place, it's vanilla time. Although, I would let them know that BEFORE the trip to lower expectations.

 

I would not worry about having sex around them, pregnant ladies are very sexy, but that is totally up to you.

 

As for them having sex, look at it this way, you are around friends, they are having the time of their lives, so enjoy their joy. If you feel amorous, jump your DH.

 

Have fun!

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I don't know how far along you are in your pregnancy or if you have any special health concerns, so my comment is assuming mostly normal and with doctor's permission.

 

I read between the lines in your post and I think the adventure could be fun for both of you. There should never be any guarantee of interaction at any encounter. As long as they understand that too, a sexy fun time doesn't HAVE to include any particular sexual activity. Those changes in you body are a beautiful thing to behold and should be celebrated even though they may feel strangely uncomfortable in the moment. I think your self esteem could use the reinforcement that a fun filled adventure with friends could easily provide. If you stay home, you're depriving your friends of your company for the weekend and you're depriving yourself in many ways. Think of the back rubs you could enjoy. I guess, by definition, pregnancy is a sexy thing....

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OK, there is never any guarantee that there will be sex! The fun part of swinging is knowing there might be and, if it happens, it's OK with everyone.

 

All you have to do is say no..., well, with friends it should be more of a "no, not now, thank you"!

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thanks for all the great advice. Weekend went off, didn't feel uncomfortable at all. I took care of Mr. Learning while we got to see some sparks fly between our friends. It was a great show. Plus I didn't have to get naked (thank god). Being chunky and pregnant is not a sight that anyone deserves to see.

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Being chunky and pregnant is not a sight that anyone deserves to see.

 

I don't want to be rude, but I do think you got it wrong here. Believe me, a pregnant woman is a beautiful woman. Ask anyone around and you get the same answer. I would even recommend taking lots of pictures of you pregnant. I wish I had taken many more pictures of my wife when she was pregnant.

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Thanks for the point out :) I'm hoping to feel better about my body as things progress but right now I'm at an odd stage. I just look heavier no bump. I lost about 100 pounds 10 years ago and I'm just getting back those old feelings of being overweight. I can't wait until the bump so my mind can get sorted out.

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Thanks for the point out :) I'm hoping to feel better about my body as things progress but right now I'm at an odd stage. I just look heavier no bump. I lost about 100 pounds 10 years ago and I'm just getting back those old feelings of being overweight. I can't wait until the bump so my mind can get sorted out.

 

I know it's sometimes hard for a woman to find herself beautiful when she's pregnant. The fact that there's a lot of hormonal change going on does not help. My wife would cry for nothing. If I stayed quiet, she would think that I was mad at her and would cry.

 

But, please don't bring yourself down. Just think about how lucky you are to be carrying a living person inside your womb. This is a feeling that many would like to experience but for some reasons cannot. I am sure you'll be filled with joy when the baby starts to kick.

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I'm glad to hear you had a great weekend and that it all worked out. So nice when we stress out for nothing. I'm sure you're radiant and have that beautiful pregnancy glow that very sexy, those new curves are there for a reason and won't make you any less sexy :)

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thanks for all the great advice. Weekend went off, didn't feel uncomfortable at all. I took care of Mr. Learning while we got to see some sparks fly between our friends. It was a great show. Plus I didn't have to get naked (thank god). Being chunky and pregnant is not a sight that anyone deserves to see.

 

I know you will find this hard to believe, but most women find pregnant women a TOTAL turn ON :facelick: . As a matter of fact, my wife has a total pregnant woman fantasy (she is very bi obviously). It almost came to fruition with a couple that we've known for a long time, when she got pregnant. I let her know about my wifes fantasy, and we almost had her over to fool around, but her own self image prevented her from following through.

 

It's natural to feel overweight and unattractive, but the reality is, at least for many, that you're more sexxy and alluring in that state :) Just sayin...

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