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    • We always use condoms when fucking someone other than our own mate.
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    • We never use condoms when fucking someone other than our own mate
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    • We don't give a fuck-we never fuck-thank you.
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    • What the fuck are you talking about?
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    • Sometimes we use condoms, sometimes we don't, depends on who we are with.
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You forgot an option for....Sometimes we use condoms, sometimes we don't, depends on who we are with and their preferences as well.

 

 

Teresa

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We are like TNT. Most of the time we do use condoms. But there are times when things are rolling really smooth and the couple is cool and we don't use them.

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I answered that we use them all the time.

 

I am not entirely objectionable to going bareback, but for the most part we haven't met anyone yet that we would...and I'm not on any other form of birth control. So that is pretty much the only standing 'rule' we have.

 

 

Maria :kissface:

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Most times no, we try to get to know the folks we meet. occasionally we do, but rare.

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I answered that we use them all the time.

 

I am not entirely objectionable to going bareback, but for the most part we haven't met anyone yet that we would...and I'm not on any other form of birth control. So that is pretty much the only standing 'rule' we have.

 

 

Maria :kissface:

 

We have to agree here... except we don't have to worry about the birth control thing. Don't like the way condoms smell.... wish they had some that had a better odor to them or have we not checked out the right ones?!?!?

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Wish we had experience to say with authority:sad:..... but I would likely vote for the "sometimes" answer because it would depend very much on who we were with, ie; friends, lovers, or acquaintances just poking around for fun. It surely isn't a decision to be made without serious thought.

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This was a major driver towards the poly thing for us. Who doesn't hate condoms? Also, it's hard to be totally free if you have to "duck and cover", LOL. I am fixed so the only need I have is for STDs.

 

Really this may sound harsh, but if I feel I need to use protection due to fear of disease, then I probably don't need to be doing that. There is an "ick-factor" at that point and no condom will make up for that.

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It would really depend on who we are with,and it was there request to wear one.For the most part we try to get to know the people we are having fun with.

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Swinging and safe Sex. :)

We started swinging back in the mid 70’s, my wife had her tubes tied so it was all bare back sex for us (the last time we used a condom was before we got married), back in the 70’s and 80’s we were going to swinging parties where their could be up to 30 couples attending at least every second weekend and it was all the go to go bare back.

We dropped out of the swinging scene for a few years and re entered more so into M F M threesomes, it was my wife’s idea to only play with married guys (which we stuck to most of the time) as they had a wife to go home to “and have sex with” so we could continue having bare back sex, we would select a guy and start a relationship and keep it going for as long as it lasted, we stuck to that regime.

In all we have been playing with others for well over 30 years and have never caught an S T D, I consider we have been careful “and lucky”, we have slowed down a lot these days but still would not consider using condoms, we love my silky seconds and cream pies to much !

We have now been married close to 50 years and still have our fun. ;)

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We have one couple that we "socialize" with on average once/month. With them we never use condoms anymore. New couples - ALWAYS!!! Except with oral sex, I am aware of the risk but I just cant give a BJ when its wrapped.

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What about oral sex? Do you use protection for that too? You have equal chances to catch most STDs with oral sex as you have by having regular genital intercourse....A fact always missed in this conversation...

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If you really must do it unprotected, make sure you use this precaution to reduce the risk of infections: Thorough and meticulous washing of all genitalia with antibacterial soap, BEFORE AND AFTER playing.:)

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we find using a condom spoils the whole show we there for the fun she loves the feel of some one cumming on her or in her i love to feel the wet pussy of my partner whoever she may be that is what it is about but be choosy

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It sure looks like the best policy to follow if you don't like condoms, like myself, is to be very particular about who you play with. And, I think the oral side of things really brings this home.

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I am the only one that swaps. My husband is there for support. I never use condoms. I am allergic to latex and I hate the way condoms feel. I always have the guys dump their load inside.

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Oral does not have the same risks as intercourse. As far as HIV goes, oral is safer than intercourse with condoms. It may be that HIV is not transmitted orally virtually at all.

 

As far as the other big ones, herpes and HPV, condoms are not very effective. So the difference between bareback and condom wrapped is not as large.

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I personally hate wearing condoms and Sasha doesn't really enjoy having them inside of her.

 

We never use a condom during our own play at home, since she is on the pill.

 

During our MFM fun, the 3rd party must always wear a condom.

 

I would love for us to have a regular FB for her that we knew well and trusted completely, so that we could have some bareback fun sometimes....

Perhaps a Married guy that just wanted to play with Sasha and I once in awhile for some extra fun, or another couple that we know always plays safe.

 

I would love to take turns on her with another guy swapping mouth & pussy back & forth without having to remove & install a new condom each time.

 

Frank

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we find using a condem spoils the whole show we there for the fun she loves the feel of some one cumming on her or in her i love to feel the wet pussy of my partner whoever she may be that is what it is about but be choosy

could not agree more condoms spoil the feel my wife says without the feel of cum why do it she loves that feeling,we are aware of the risks so are very picky

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We always use condoms for the new people we meet. Although we both enjoy seeing a happy ending on her somewhere! We have to know the person we are with is D/D free before going bareback.

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We never use them for oral. She tried it once and said never again with a condom.

 

With penetration we use condoms, although we do have the option of going bareback once we get to know the people pretty well. Whether or not we will get to that point is another matter, we've both had regulars that the spouses said "always condoms" to when the discussion came up, so condom use continued.

 

We dont freak out about mishaps though, we've had a condom break twice, and it will probably happen again. I guess our view is that if we really thought someone had something that was bad, we wouldn't be playing with them, condoms or otherwise. And we arent particularily worried about HSV considering the stats.

 

So yes, we use them, dont like them, but will continue to do so with new people and with anyone who isnt comfortable with bareback.

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We do the "Safer Sex Elevator Speach" (google it) when we meet folks we're going to have sex with, so the barriers we use for intercourse or oral all depend on when people were last tested, their status and what they've been up to in the interim...

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For our first few MFM events, we did not require condoms. After that, we went to the other extreme and I required them even for oral sex. Hubby thought it was really erotic to see me sucking a guy wearing a rubber, as if it showed a stronger determination to suck. I did notice that guys resisted the idea of condoms and oral. More recently, it's condoms for vaginal but not for oral. Hubby wears one too just to make the other guy feel for comfortable about it, not as if he is being treated as a second class participant.

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No condoms for us. We are careful selecting playmates. We are both safe; and we both feel that cum is an essential part of the swinging experience. She loves it in all holes as often as possible. If we thought that something someone said made us think that a condom would be a good idea, then a better idea is to pass all together.

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