Are analingus and cunnilingus acceptable in swinging?

My wife and I are contemplating swinging. I really enjoy performing anilingus and cunilingus on my wife, and I would be willing to do both on other women. I am wondering if these practices are accepted within the swinging lifestyle.

You will probably have no problem finding ladies that enjoy cunnilingus, and are more than willing to receive.

However, before you decide to toss some salad, you may want to make sure it's ok with the potential recipient.

Personally, we will go down on a lady in a New York minute, but we find analingus with playmates to be a little too risky for our, um.. "tastes".

we find analingus with playmates to be a little too risky for our, um.. "tastes"

Of course, cleanliness of a female playmate goes without saying. The taste and smell of a clean female anus is as great as the taste and smell of her pussy.

The Mrs. here, I like both, but Anilingus is strickly for Mr.101. I don't think I would feel comfortable with anyone doing that except him. Things are always changing, so that too may change in the future, but for now, that is only a home team activity.

As Two4you said, You might want to check with the potential recipient first. In my opinion, as much as I also love anal, my ass is off limits unless I hand you a written invatation. ( Can you imagine that...You are cordually invited to please my anis at such and such a time. ) Sorry, tired, bad jokes. Anyway, I have usually made this clear in advance ( Open, honest comunication as I have learned here on the board ). In the event that we didn't discuss it in advance, if it happened, I would simply tell that person that I wasn't comfortable with that. No big deal.

Thanks for your reply Michelle101. And thanks to Two4you too for yours.

It looks like anilingus is not a very popular practice among swingers. The good news is that "things are always changing."

I am also wondering if it is acceptable with other couples to perform anilingus and cuniligus at the same time. When I do both on my wife, I usually switch back and forth between her ass and pussy until I feel she's ready to cum and concentrate on the latter. Would doing the same be OK with other women once/if I have been "handed a written invitation?" As I mentioned in my initial post, we are new to the lifestyle, so the advice from other swingers is greatly appreciated.

I see no reason why Switching back and forth would not be acceptable if the woman was willing to have it done to begin with as long as there was no anal penetration....

CuriousInOregon, anilingus is considered risky for a variety of bacterial infections. Correct me if I'm wrong but performing cunilingus after anilingus may result in some vaginal infection. Sorry for the details, but I enjoy not only kissing, licking and sucking my wife's anus but also tonguing it as deeply as I can. To make things worse , I may kiss her on the lips in between. And of course, I do not use any latex barriers when enjoying my wife's ass. Again, this is my wife - she trusts me, and I enjoy every inch of her body. But it may be too much for other women if I can't stand the temptation to do the same with them.

We perform both on a regular basis, and have never been turned down

Carol Danny, is it OK to perform it unprotected? Are there any boundaries? Something like "you can kiss it but can't tongue it" or "you can't kiss this thing after you've kissed that one" etc.

We have no real rules for Anilingus. While there is a bacterial risk, we are willing to take the chance (life is about risk and chances). But for any full penetration, be it a finger, or more, we only do it safely, usually with condoms. This is for both sex toys and penises. The condoms are changed as soon as the guy (or girl with toy) are done.

We also do the same thing with sex toys and with vaginal penetration. Candoms are used, even on toys (makes it so easy to clean up afterwards), and greatly reduces the risk of any sort of STI.

But....I love ass! So I risk putting my tongue there

-- Danny

When we get together there are no rules per say, anilngus is performed but we know each other and know we are clean up there? or down there? Whatever, yes I love it and my husband loves it too ... would we do it with strangers or some one we hook up with? Probably not.

When we have our parties it is about sex and pleasing ourselves and our partner(s), fact is we know and trust each other which means we can sort of do whatever we want to which includes cunilingus and anilingus ... LOL sometimes BOTH

I guess what it comes down to is asking your potential partner what their boundaries are. THere are somethings I only do with hubby, and others that i have no problem doing with others, but it is always appreciated when the person I am with asks first before they try something on my (other than the 'normal' things ).

I think you will find there are people out there who are willing to particpate in those type of things without any problem at all.

Personally I think what ever is comfortable with you and the couple you are with, go for it!! I love it done to me and hubby does it so well

I would imagine though you may find some that are not comfortable with it and therefore you would have to bypass that area. I don't see that happening very much though. If we hit it off as a couple and decided to share then I would have no problem with going there with you.

It is most important though to make sure that you respect others boundaries and if its a no then dont let it slip accidentally..you know?

Have fun and this was an interesting post to read.

Nothing is written in stone...even handwritten invites! As in all things it is best to just ask your partner what she likes to do, and just do it the way she likes it, or unless she is a free spirit, your invite may turn out to be written in invisible ink.

Male D

K and I just go for it. Neither of us has had a partner reject it. We look at it like if we are going to fuck, then why not cunnilingus or analingus, unless their is a health issue. 

Cunni, yes.  Ana, no.

Acceptable if your partners enjoy it. Every woman I know enjoys getting oral and I can’t remember one who didn’t enjoy giving. Not every woman will do analingus nor will I do it to everyone. 
A funny experience, we were with new friends sexually for the first time, Honey had him in her mouth while she had his gf eating Honey with the girl’s  butt exposed for me. I was going to enter her from behind but decided to use my mouth, she loved it and later told me that was a first 

One female partner performed anilingus on me. I did not find it sexually stimulating. I could tell she got off from doing it. Who was I to stop her? We later in the episode  had intercourse. 

Cunnilingus is generally acceptable, but analingus is something you might want to cover in the "pregame"

Would ask before doing either of course, but cunnilingus I'm expecting the answer to be yes. Analingus, maybe yes, maybe no, and I'd only ask a close swing partner who I knew was comfortable with me and me with her. I have done it with someone special, and she volunteered that other than her husband, I was the only one she had allowed to do that to her.

Cunnilingus hell yes!  If you don’t do it I doubt you would be asked back and you probably would not be getting any oral yourself either. Anilingus is not really her thing, but it has happened in swinging situations before.  Best to ask before doing.

Best advice there is to communicate on it.  Either verbally, or non-verbal cues.  Cunnilingus will almost always  be welcome and I can only think of one event where analingus was politely declined.   In almost every event it has really heated things up in our experiences.