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Ladies, Would you have sex with a long haired man?

Would you have sex with a long haired man?  

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  1. 1. Would you have sex with a long haired man?

    • Long hair, short hair, no hair, doesn't matter to me
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    • No way, that's immoral, get a haircut
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    • I haven't but wouldn't mind
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    • I have before
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    • I'm married to one right now
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Being a long haired man myself (and being shot down because of it), I'm curious what the opinion of swinging women is on this.

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Long hair can be very sexy on a man. I think it just depends on the man and what looks right on him. The thought of a man's long hair tickling the inside of my thighs can really get me going.

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I answered doesn't matter to me - I have been attracted to guys with long hair and short hair....just depends on the man......

 

Jenn

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Considering I'm married to one my answer is yes :lol:

 

Teresa

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I have 2 major weaknesses when it comes to what i find physically attractive in guys. I like them tall. I like them with long hair.

 

Find me a tall guy with long hair and im in heaven!!!! Yes, ive found one of those to keep on a permanent basis, but always looking for new ones just to have fun with!

 

Laura

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Depends on the guy really. Now if he is Ted...well....how can we not love it ;) .

 

There are some guys that look soooo hot with long hair...and then there are some others, that definately need a trim!

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I really, really like long hair.

 

But... I don't like mullets. :eek:

 

Yeah, I wasn't referring to mullets. I should have clarified that...mullets are in a class of their own :)

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I didn't answer b/c none of the answers I thought really answered it for me. I never have been too attracted to any guy with long hair that I know. But I am always opened to it. I just seem to have always prefered guys with short hair.

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Vespertine wrote:

 

I don't like mullets.

 

From the Concise Oxford Dictionary:

 

mull'et, n. Two genera of fishes of which red & grey ~ are the types.

 

???

Mr. Alura

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My answer would have to be YES. My husbands hair is down to his waist. Plus he 6ft. I always have fallen for tall long haired, blue eyed men and hes fits them all... LOL

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From the Concise Oxford Dictionary:

 

mull'et, n. Two genera of fishes of which red & grey ~ are the types.

Mr. Alura

 

 

You are looking in the wrong dictionary Mr. Alura!

 

From the Urban Dictionary :

 

Pronounced "MUHL LET"

 

A hairstyle in which the front is cut trim, but the back is long, left wild and often uncut. Even when the back is cut, it is still longer than the front. It is the sign of the redneck. Alternate names include:

 

Ape Drape. Beaver Paddle. Bi - Level. Camero Cut. Buisness in the front, Party in the back. Canadian passport. Coupe Longveuil. El-camino. Hockey hair. Kentucky waterfall. Missouri comprimise. Mudflap. Neckwarmer. Ranchero. Shlonc (short + long). Achy-breaky-bad-mistakey. Soccer rocker. Squirrel pelt. Tennessee tophat. Yep-nope.

 

:)

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TNT said:
Considering I'm married to one my answer is yes :lol:

 

Teresa

 

Mmmmmmm, lucky you....and yes he's now at the top of my "men with long hair" list :kissface:

 

I have to agree with everyone here it does depend on the man some men look good with it some don't. If they do though......*sigh* they can make me melt. I have to confess to being a big fan of the old "Highlander" TV series, and yes I only watched it because Adrian Paul is HOT (long hair or short). :D

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I have to confess to being a big fan of the old "Highlander" TV series, and yes I only watched it because Adrian Paul is HOT (long hair or short). :D

 

Mrs Spoomokey

 

Ohhh, me too :D and yes he is facelick

 

Teresa

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Hair length doesn't matter to me as long as he takes care of it. I love running my fingers through soft hair, it's so soothing (I also like pulling hair but that's a whole different thing ;) ). My fiances hair is short but so nice, I'm always playing with it!

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It's good to hear that a few folks still enjoy a full head of hair on a guy.

 

NOW........for the geezer question of the week........

 

I am curious about opinions concerning the wisdom of coloring this aging ponytail.

 

It has been a flattering medium dark brown for the last 20 yrs or so........but lately the hair that isn't moving from the front to the back....(or relocating to my ears, nose, or worse yet...shower drain ), has been growing in grey. :rolleyes:

My question is should i bother trying to color?....or accept the aging process with grace and wear the grey proudly?

 

D

 

BTW.......we have never had any issues raised about hair length ....that is one of my minor eccentricities.

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Vespertine wrote:

 

I don't like mullets.

 

From the Concise Oxford Dictionary:

 

mull'et, n. Two genera of fishes of which red & grey ~ are the types.

 

???

Mr. Alura

Mr. Alura...

 

We went over this about six months ago. :lol:

Vespertine wrote:

 

I was wondering, is it just my area, or have ya'll noticed a lot of swinging men have mullets?

 

Your post, Ves, sent me scrambling for The Concise Oxford Dictionary.

 

Mull'et, n. Two genera of fishes of which red & grey~ are the types.

 

What's a mullet? I'll bet you're not talking about fish. If you are, I certainly don't want to have any around if you ever come to a Meet Up! in Tulsa!

 

:)

Mr. Alura

This was my reply to you in December.
A mullet Mr. Alura, is a heinous haircut that was quite popular in the early eighties. The hideous haircut in question requires one to grow out the back of their hair long (the longer the better, it seems) and to keep the front of the head 'clean cut'- or more simply put, short.

 

A man with a mullet can, more often than not, be found in trailer parks and karaoke bars.

:D

 

 

:kissface: -Ves

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C n D

Long hair is long hair no matter what color it is. :) I love it all.

 

Oh and BTW I happen to like mullets.. lol and rat tails for that matter. :lol: Cant tell what years I grew up in.. LMAO.. Im think Im one of the few that actaully like em.

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Mrs. WS says it depends on the guy, not the length of his hair, BUT a mullet is a bit harder to get past. LOL

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Oh and BTW I happen to like mullets.. lol and rat tails for that matter. :lol: Cant tell what years I grew up in.. LMAO.. Im think Im one of the few that actaully like em.

:eek:

 

Tell me you still don't listen to Hair Bands!

 

I grew up during those years too. I prefer to forget them like a bad ex-boyfriend though. :lol:

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Yes! Yes! Yes!

 

Never could resist a guy with a ponytail. There's just something yummy about feeling all that hair around you...

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I love long hair...Mr. Midnights is to the middle of his back...though the last few men I have been with have been sorry to say into the bald thing...Mr.Midnight says one of these days they will be standing in front of a mirror pulling it going *grow grow* :lol:

 

His hair is a modified mullet I am guessing..feathered back on top, long in the back but no where near the style of the 80's....and no we do not live in a trailer park.... :lol: but it keeps the hair off his face and he keeps it pulled back in a pony tail most all the time....he is very popular at the club...all the women love to mess with his hair...me? Well I like to pull a mans hair... :) so I love it...But again I am a child of the 70's...

 

As for the poster who said something about dying it I would say nah...let it go silver...the silver in Mr. Midnights hair is beautiful...

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Tell me you still don't listen to Hair Bands!

 

Yes we both listen to hair bands still.. thats about the only thing we listen too.. :lol:

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It's good to hear that a few folks still enjoy a full head of hair on a guy.

 

NOW........for the geezer question of the week........

 

I am curious about opinions concerning the wisdom of coloring this aging ponytail.

 

It has been a flattering medium dark brown for the last 20 yrs or so........but lately the hair that isn't moving from the front to the back....(or relocating to my ears, nose, or worse yet...shower drain ), has been growing in grey. :rolleyes:

My question is should i bother trying to color?....or accept the aging process with grace and wear the grey proudly?

 

D

 

BTW.......we have never had any issues raised about hair length ....that is one of my minor eccentricities.

Long hair on men is sexy.

 

Long, gray hair on older men= Super Uber Sexy. facelick

 

Wear it proudly, D.

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Considering I'm married to one my answer is yes :lol:

 

Teresa

 

 

My answer was the same, lol. Hubby's hair is long, black and super sexy; I love it. But like someone else said, you've got to take care of it- scraggly and dull isn't sexy no matter what, but clean and shiny is ;) Long hair isn't a requirement though- it's more about the personality.

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NOW........for the geezer question of the week........

 

I am curious about opinions concerning the wisdom of coloring this aging ponytail.

 

It has been a flattering medium dark brown for the last 20 yrs or so........but lately the hair that isn't moving from the front to the back....(or relocating to my ears, nose, or worse yet...shower drain ), has been growing in grey. :rolleyes:

My question is should i bother trying to color?....or accept the aging process with grace and wear the grey proudly?

 

D

 

BTW.......we have never had any issues raised about hair length ....that is one of my minor eccentricities.

 

I have a-little-bit-past-shoulder length hair. My hair is mostly brown but all the colors are represented. Black, brown, red, blonde and grey. I used that hair color for men on my goatee and didn't recognize myself. Then I saw an old photo and saw that my hair color really was that dark at one time! Time sure changes ones appearance and the perceptions that go with it! Oh well, I think I'll leave it the way it is for now.

 

I have been turned down because of my hair at least once that I know of. The ladies we play with now certainly don't have any problem with it. I'm not cuttin' it just to see though! :cool:

 

Male D

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I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me?

 

The reason I ask is, I have very long hair. I keep it braided always, unless a play partner requests me to have it down. I can handle rejection at any time very well. I'm the first to admit if there is no connection its cool. Here is a rejection I just find strange:confused:

 

Its happened a few times where the male half approaches me with, "My wife doesn't like guys with long hair". Is that something that a woman couldn't say to me ?

 

I keep my hair clean, trimed and like I say, braided. It has just been something I don't think I want to change and here is why. My daughter while she was growing up and even now that she has moved across town, would braid my hair for me allot. While doing this ,it was many times she would talk to me about personal stuff in her life, serious stuff. Anything from her period, to who she would marry some day. Each braid to me, has meaning and memories.

 

I wear it actually under my shirt collar most of the time, and even surprised many. I've heard many times "WOW, I didn't realize you had such long hair"

 

Mrs.Fun, I think:rolleyes:, could talk about stuff as well because lets face it, she has the upper hand if the right jerk of the hair is applied:eek:.

 

Its not like I'm trying to be a rock star or even have that attitude. But it just seems strange that its always the husbands who tell me their wives don't like long hair. I just think a woman would be more up front about this. Many times even in vanilla bars, women will walk behind me and tug on my pony tail. Yes I know its a message of ,hey do I have your attention. I mean you know, I'm going to look at who did that. Then they usually just smile and walk on. In a vanilla setting, I would tell my wife what happened.. In a swingers club or meet and greet, I would be telling my wife about the tug, and we would probably be heading to your table:lol:

 

Although its never happened, I could see a woman actually gracefully saying something like "You know, I prefer my men to have a military hair style" thats not a put down or anything and I would just be thinking, that cool. I am out numbered at most places these days anyhow. ITS COOL:cool:.

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Well....I happen to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE long hair on men...bet that surprised some of you :lol:

 

It's never a turn off or stopper for me...in fact, I gravitate towards men with long hair. It does however seem to be a rarity in the swinging world. I'm not sure if Ted has ever had a husband tell him his wife didn't like long hair, he usually has women's hands in his hair most places we go. He has made the comment a time or two that he's sure it is a turn off for some women but, he doesn't worry about it.

 

Ted has caught a lot of flack from older family members about his hair...his reply has always been "Teresa likes it and until the day she tells me to cut it, it's not getting cut". I will admit there has been a time or two I've thought about him getting it cut...when we're playing around and our hair gets all tangled up and we wind up fighting his hair and mine, I'm sure it's a hilarious sight...the thought doesn't last long though...seeing him walk across the room with his hair all mused up from our playing :facelick: nope, he ain't getting it cut.

 

I'm sure for women, it's just like it is for men. Some men like long hair on women, some like short...it'd be the same for women. Hair or lack thereof is not a deal breaker for me...if I like you, I like you and hair style doesn't matter.

 

I keep my hair clean, trimed and like I say, braided. It has just been something I don't think I want to change and here is why. My daughter while she was growing up and even now that she has moved across town, would braid my hair for me allot. While doing this ,it was many times she would talk to me about personal stuff in her life, serious stuff. Anything from her period, to who she would marry some day. Each braid to me, has meaning and memories.

 

That is one of the sweetest things I've read. It reminded me of watching our three girls playing with Ted's hair. He'd sit forever letting them braid, brush, put barrettes and ponytails in it...and like you, it was a special time for him. Even now that they are grown they still like playing with daddy's hair and braiding it for him and he still loves for them to do it.

 

Don't worry about your hair it's part of what makes you, you.

 

 

 

Teresa

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One thought that crossed my mind reading this is that maybe some men are "challenged" by the idea of a guy with long hair. Some would not see it as "manly" and therefore would feel it a challenge to their manliness.... so whether their wives are turned on/off or whatever by it they may try to head it off at the pass (so to speak) by telling you that their wives are turned off by it.

 

I agree with you if there is something particular like that that I don't like (for me it's typically full beards) I will just say "I really don't find beards attractive" or whatever. Either way, I can't see me or anyone just walking up and saying "that's a turn off".

 

Are these guys male halves of couples you have approached? Or just coming up to you out of the blue?

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I'm particularly attracted to bald men and men with long hair. I hate military cut hair.

 

That's not to say that I'd not give a man a chance, no matter what type hair he has. ;)

 

Lots of women dislike facial hair, so hubby shaved his mustache of 30 years. It was his decision based on my tender skin being rubbed raw.

 

Mrs. D

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I am sure a few avoid him without saying anything due to his hair and full, very long, beard -Think ZZTop :D

 

Others like it and it appears to attract them to him. :)

 

We decided early on to just be ourselves and not try to work hard to attract others and so far we are having lots of fun that way! :facelick:

 

It does seem strange that the husbands are the ones telling you and not the wives. I'd just cross off that couple as playmates and move on though.

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Are these guys male halves of couples you have approached? Or just coming up to you out of the blue?

 

Yes Julie, it has been mostly couples that we have approached on line or aproached us, via sls. Its a pic we share that Mrs.fun likes, with me getting out of the hot tub with a towell around my waist, and my hair is down. We share pics with us dressed nice, and a couple with us in a little less. You know, just so there is no surprises. It seems to be a deciding factor.

 

One particular time was at a club the last visit.

 

While we were in the kitchen/drink area, the husband was aproaching Mrs.fun talking. The thoughts would have been pursueing. Then Mrs.fun introduced me, and kind of off to the side He made the comment his wife didnt like long hair. She seemed to give me looks, but I felt somehow he was the one intimadeted or made the decision for her.

 

We just as you say ~moved on~ but still the looks I recieved from her, felt like an interest:confused:. Then again for all I know, I could have reminded her of a relative or a bad experiance:eek:.

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I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me?
Absolutely not a problem for me.

 

I can be attracted to men no matter what style of haircut, as long as it is clean, I love to run my hands through hair or across a bald head.

 

I cut Mr LM's hair and I think because of this I look at men and sometimes wish I could take my shears to them because I wonder if they may look better with a different haircut, but that's just my creative mind at play.

 

Having a guy come up to you and tell you his wife doesn't like men with long hair boggles me! I can only presume he's got more of an issue with it than his wife and, therefore, doesn't want his wife getting the hots for you so he's trying to keep you from turning his wife on by your charm.

 

I'd like to know the circumstances surrounding the times men have said this to you.

 

I'll put myself in your shoes. If a woman came up to me and said, "My husband doesn't like women who are tall" my first thought would be screw you but I wouldn't say that...although I'd like to. I sure wouldn't hang around her for long and I'd probably schmooze with her hubby just to irk her.

 

There is no need to tell someone why you aren't attracted to them. What's the point, really? I see these men's comments as rude and a lame way of trying to fend you off. Our long-standing belief is that you shouldn't explain why you aren't attracted to someone or don't feel compatible.

 

Keep your hair long, fun4Ds...and let it hang outside your collar.

 

LM

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Until I met my husband, I always dated guys with long hair, not as long as mine, since until recently mine was to my butt. DH was in the USN when he and I met, so of course he had military hair, and he actually tried to grow it out after he got out. It was not good, lol.

Now, if the hair style looks good on the particular guy, I don't care if it's long, short, shaved, ect... Well, I won't let dh shave his head anymore than he'd let me, but for just someone we play with, we don't care what their hairstyle is, it's all about the person and whether there is an attraction there.

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I don't like bad breath. And I like teeth. Other features are just those ... and not a deciding part of whether I find him attractive or not. But, with that said, we have read ads that say "no facial hair" -- Mr. Fun has a goatee, and I like it a lot as does he.

 

To each his own. And I love the story about your daughter. That is just awesome! :)

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I've never been attracted or un-attracted to a guy solely based on hair length. I agree with LM that it's probably the husbands that have an issue with your hair more than the wives. And it's their loss.

 

=)

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I don't think it matters what your hair style is, some will like it, others won't. I have a flat top hair cut, and I have had women tell me that I look to military or like a cop, so they couldn't play with me. It doesn't bother me much, I have my preferences too.

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I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me?

 

That depends. Do you mind if I wrap it around my hand and give it a little tug? I love long hair! We've never had the joy of playing with a gentlemen with such a quality. :rolleyes:

 

Of course Mr B is completely shaved and I love that too. There's something to be said for being able to just give it a lick (with permission of course). ::P:

 

Facial hair on the other hand is a bit of a turn off for me but no matter what... personality always rules. :kissface:

 

Ms B

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Well...I would have to see a pic of your hair to make an accurate judgement.

 

But I agree with LM, wear it where it's visible...not inside the collar. That way there isn't too much of a suprise factor.

 

I used to totally have a thing for guys with long hair...but then again it was during the time of all the 'hair bands' and many of the guys I went to school with grew their hair long.

 

I don't like super-short miliary cuts (although Jeff will do it every now and then and it drives me batty...prolly why he does it. ;) lol)...but as long as the style looks good on that person, I don't have a preference.

 

Just like certain styles of facial hair do not look good on all men (full beards, mustaches, goatees, or the more high maintenance looking 'skinny' facial hair...you know they shave half of the moustache or 'outline' the jaw, etc), it all depends on the individual to me.

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I alternate between long and short hair. When I get it cut, half the women I know say "

I am glad to see you got it cut" and when I grow it out half say "I'm glad you're letting your hair grow again". I figure no matter your hairstyle, some will like it, and some won't.

Wear it like you want to wear it.

 

I am in the camp that the husbands telling you that seems more like they don't like guys with long hair instead of their wives feeling that way.

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My daughter while she was growing up and even now that she has moved across town, would braid my hair for me allot. While doing this ,it was many times she would talk to me about personal stuff in her life, serious stuff. Anything from her period, to who she would marry some day. Each braid to me, has meaning and memories.

 

As they should, both for you and your daughter. Those times are so important and to be cherished.

 

But it just seems strange that its always the husbands who tell me their wives don't like long hair. I just think a woman would be more up front about this.

 

It is a strange was of saying the chemistry just isn't there. There are a lot better ways of getting that across instead of some guy hiding behind his partner's supposed preference for shorter hair to say they aren't interested for whatever reason.

 

For the Mrs, hair length isn't something she pays much attention to. Personality #1 followed by an overall presentable appearance is what counts.

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Fun4D's you bring something extra to the bed during love making. I love men with long hair. My SO also has long hair and I love what he does with it when we are making love. I love the way he flips me over and run his hair down my back. He also runs it down my face, down my breast, and across my stomach. Talking about stimulating. OMG! :facelick: Those women who put you down for having long hair, don't know what they are missing and as far as the men go, they are probably the one's who don't like long hair and says it's the wife.

 

That was very beautiful what you wrote about your girls. If your hair brings you that much joy and with such good memmories, I would not get rid of my hair for anyone. I'll be awing all day long.:kissface:

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Well I have to say I loved 80's rock bands (I know you are not trying to be that just a reference) and still love them. But when it comes to my attractions now I'm more of a military cut girl and I think that has a lot to do with the fact that hubby has that kind of cut. Now in saying that...bald men are extremely sexy to me and I also love this new rock look which is slightly longer but not that long.

I think you will find that its not all about the hair for most women. I would never rule out a man with long hair that I found attractive.

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Having a guy come up to you and tell you his wife doesn't like men with long hair boggles me! I can only presume he's got more of an issue with it than his wife and, therefore, doesn't want his wife getting the hots for you so he's trying to keep you from turning his wife on by your charm.
So true! But it wouldn't be the first time some husband used the line "my wife doesn't like" or "my wife prefers" as an excuse for justifyng his own hangups about who she's "allowed" to be attracted to. "Insecurity breeds drama" and "fear breeds hostility"

 

Who needs more "drama" and "hostility" when we're all just trying to screw?

 

BTW, I love long hair on a man, almost as much as I love a nicely shaven head. (it has to be a nice head, though. Now don't ask me what constitutes a "nice" head because I can't tell you. I just know it when I see it, that's all)

There is no need to tell someone why you aren't attracted to them. What's the point, really? I see these men's comments as rude and a lame way of trying to fend you off. Our long-standing belief is that you shouldn't explain why you aren't attracted to someone or don't feel compatible.
Maybe they're jealous, or insecure? Or maybe they just like to pick fights?
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This is great feedback for me and the funny part is, Mrs.fun doesn't even consider it a deal breaker herself. I mean, she has been with men with crew cuts and I know she has a thing for (a certain bald guy). Its just the times we would hear from men, that their wives don't like long hair?

 

I was thinking well, don't show that picture. But then thinking well, if we are together at a hotel or in the hot tub its kinda hard to hide.

 

I think the proof is in the pudding with these responses. Women are honest for one, some men (may) have rejections toward men with long hair, and its not a yes or no thing. Even if a woman doesent like long hair on a man like me....... Its still cool.

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I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me?

 

Nope. Of course, it would depend on the overall appearance of the man whether I'd be attracted to him with long hair, short hair, or any hair. Everyone is individual.

 

It's weird that it's the men telling you this stuff about their wives not liking guys with long hair. Perhaps they're intimidated, because you have something they don't and his wife might just like it? Hmmmm. :rolleyes:

 

The first thing that came to mind, and I see that others have mentioned their like or dislike of it in this thread, is my husband's facial hair. He has a sexy, thick head of hair (cut above the collar) and a neatly trimmed beard. I think he's sexy as hell. We often read the "no facial hair" statement in people's profiles, but we've never heard it from people we've met in person (like at a club). After years of practice, I've not found his beard to cause me any discomfort at all. ;) Mr. Tybee has seen "no facial hair" comments and asked me at times if he should shave it. I love it on him, and I'm the one that matters, so..."NO baby, don't shave!"

 

Just be who you are, and you'll attract the people to yourself who appreciate you and your appearance.

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Mrs. Alura, in twenty-eight years, has never seen me without a beard. The only time she (jokingly) threatened to divorce me was when I said I might shave my beard. I think I'll keep it, no matter what other women think. :)

 

Our son, Eighteen, quit getting haircuts when Mrs. Alura was diagnosed with breast cancer. His plan is to donate it to an organization (that makes wigs for chemotherapy patients) the week of his high school graduation, which comes up in May. You'd be amazed at how many girls want to cut it for him. He's given the nod to a certain cheerleader, who is promoting the event with a program to collect donations and give them to breast cancer research.

 

Most women are envious of his mane; it is full and wavy and reaches well below his belt. "I wish I could grow hair like that!" they say.

 

He can't seem to go out in public without girls running up to him and giving him a hug! "Oh, Eighteen, I haven't seen you for an hour or so!" :)

 

Keep your hair, Mr. Fun. Mrs. Alura thinks it's sexy! So do a lot of other women. What men think doesn't matter.

 

Mr. Alura

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