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To the men/couples who use ad profiles, how many of you would make the following statement in your profile?

 

He is well endowed with great stamina and no performance problems.

 

I recently read this in a profile and my first thought was the guy's got to be awfully confident in himself.

 

I would think you'd be placing way too much pressure on yourself to perform, and I don't see why a man would place himself under this kind of pressure. :confused:

 

I've not played with a man who purports these traits; anyone had the pleasure? What kind of men make these claims?

 

Let me into your world.

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LM how about the profile: Short to average endowment, suffers from pre-ejaculation, kinda fat, male pattern baldness, oh, and yup man boobs too! Appealing?? Was thinking of updating my profile!!!

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My husband is well endowed (got pics to prove it too) and for me.. there are no performance problems. However, I think that for someone to put that in their profile (the performance part) they are really jumping the gun. You never know what is going to happen the next time. As far as well endowed, I have come across men who have said that. It appears that many people have a different definition of well endowed.

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CandTinLorainCo said:

LM how about the profile: Short to average endowment, suffers from pre-ejaculation, kinda fat, male pattern baldness, oh, and yup man boobs too!

I have found 3 out of 5 of those traits mentioned quite often in profiles.

 

I have no objection to 2 out of 5, and would even be open to 4 out of 5 of those characteristics if the guy's personality turned me on.

 

Now you just have to guess which 4 traits they are. :kissface:

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It's a little tacky but it probably works for him. Face it...a profile is nothing more than an advertisement for oneself. I rarely come across one that is truly accurate or comprehensive. If I did, it would probably read;

 

Nahhhh... I'm not gonna say how they would probably read. If I did, I'd probably get flamed right into the bowels of cyber-hell by people who would think I'm spoofin' their profiles.

 

I'M the only guy who's honest in his profile...

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Interesting post as Mr. Indy and I just had a discussion about how we can tactfully inquire an 'interviewing' couple those same questions- specifically the performance issue.

 

In this post, I would immediately think that this guy is full of himself, although, hopefully there is truth in advertising.

 

I am getting pretty tired of performance issues with playmates recently. I used to think it was a fact of life, and we can work around it, however I am finding now, that having repeated PA and not taking suggestions on how to fix the issue is getting a lot of men no where with me.

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northindycpl said:
Interesting post as Mr. Indy and I just had a discussion about how we can tactfully inquire an 'interviewing' couple those same questions- specifically the performance issue.

 

I am getting pretty tired of performance issues with playmates recently.

So Mrs NIC, would you and Mr Indy consider a couple who has a performance statement in their profile?

 

Maybe it would be worth it for you to give them a try. Maybe the initial feeling that the guy is full of himself would wane, once you found he could perform well.

 

Do it for the board. Won't you please? :D

 

P.S. How to bring the subject of PA to a single man or couple would be a challenge. I'll have to think more on that one.

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Sure. I would consider a couple whose ad made a statement like that. I would also consider a couple whos ad stated they have performance issues but have found a cure or something like that.

 

It just seems we have reached the age where a lot of men seem to be starting to have issues and are having a difficult time addressing them.

 

I will have to post our results for the board ;)

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With my humor aside, i agree with JnCC as well with all the replies so far. I think truly not to many people care what their profiles read as I'm sure many don't truly believe they are ever going to be read to begin with, but if so, lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not. Like some put in pictures but when you actually see them it's not the pic you saw and so forth. It is all advertising to a point. Which is why i suppose my previous reply came across the way it did with you. You yourself stated that you could deal with 2 out of the 5 and even go so far as 4 out 5 depending on personality. But what if they were really going for broke here and wanted 5 out of 5, wouldn't they want to cover everything and paint it perfectly?

 

Mrs Indy you are right PA is getting old. With all the meds in the world and other things one has readily on hand you would think we could be past that and not worry so much.

 

ps: considering without surgery, everything else is workable, how does one get surgery on their personality anyway?

 

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northindycpl said:
It just seems we have reached the age where a lot of men seem to be starting to have issues and are having a difficult time addressing them.

 

I can't understand that either. I had performance issues the first time we full swapped and when it was over and I had felt like a total loser and apologized to the gal no less than 100 times...I vowed to march into my Dr. (a female) and tell her the whole story and practically demand Viagra. Surrender

 

As it turned out I found out you can it off the net. :claps: No problem since.

 

As for the well hung statement, I've never called myself or considered myself well hung, but we've yet to play with a couple who is sporting more than I. I know they exist I've seen pictures. :D But until then I'm feeling on top the world.

 

As for the 5 statements:

 

We tend towards couples or single males that are lower profile than that but have a good kind of confidence...the kind that has nothing to prove.

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LikeMinds321 said:
P.S. How to bring the subject of PA to a single man or couple would be a challenge. I'll have to think more on that one.

 

It's really not a big deal to us. I just ask them if they have had any problems or expect any. So far none have lied and none have been offended. Of course I usually tell them I had it happen to me.

 

If we're going to the trouble of meeting, we want that info.

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LikeMinds321 said:
I have found 3 out of 5 of those traits mentioned quite often in profiles.

 

I have no objection to 2 out of 5, and would even be open to 4 out of 5 of those characteristics if the guy's personality turned me on.

 

Now you just have to guess which 4 traits they are. :kissface:

:::Short to average endowment, suffers from pre-ejaculation, kinda fat, male pattern baldness, oh, and yup man boobs too!:::

 

 

Let's see.....

 

I'd be open to everything but man boobs. I'm guessing you'd feel the same way?

 

I'm a B cup. I can't be with a man with bigger boobs than me. That's just so wrong. :sad:

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I wouldn't make the statement because I don't focus quite so much on the sexual aspect. Now if I was only looking for great sex and nothing more I might be more inclined to respond to such an ad.

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CandTinLorainCo said:

I think truly not to many people care what their profiles read as I'm sure many don't truly believe they are ever going to be read to begin with, but if so, lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not.

I care what our profile says, and I would expect anyone who is serious about meeting us will read it. If they haven't I can tell from the first communication from them.

 

And I've never thought of a profile as "bait" - "lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not" is not our approach. I think of a profile as a letter of introduction.

 

C - Sadly, I think your attitude about ad profiles is the norm for many swingers, it's also why so many swingers sound angry, frustrated, and negative about the whole process of trying to hook up with people through ads. They either don't count on others to be truthful and figure why should they, or they are truthful and demand others not play "games" with them.

 

A profile doesn't have to list everything about you to be truthful. If you're more comfortable sharing something about yourself upfront before you meet people, then do so in your profile by writing it in or including a picture that reveals it - such as being bald.

 

There is a big difference between saying you're bald - your bald head doesn't have to perform :) - and saying your cock is good-sized, gets up, stays up, and always performs well.

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Vespertine said:

Let's see.....

 

I'd be open to everything but man boobs. I'm guessing you'd feel the same way?

 

I'm a B cup. I can't be with a man with bigger boobs than me. That's just so wrong. :sad:

:lol:

 

You got it right, Ves!

 

Man boobs would be soft hanging things, not to be confused with a pair of large firm pecs. :facelick:

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LikeMinds321 said:
I care what our profile says, and I would expect anyone who is serious about meeting us will read it. If they haven't I can tell from the first communication from them.

 

And I've never thought of a profile as "bait" - "lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not" is not our approach. I think of a profile as a letter of introduction.

 

C - Sadly, I think your attitude about ad profiles is the norm for many swingers, it's also why so many swingers sound angry, frustrated, and negative about the whole process of trying to hook up with people through ads. They either don't count on others to be truthful and figure why should they, or they are truthful and demand others not play "games" with them.

 

A profile doesn't have to list everything about you to be truthful. If you're more comfortable sharing something about yourself upfront before you meet people, then do so in your profile by writing it in or including a picture that reveals it - such as being bald.

 

There is a big difference between saying you're bald - your bald head doesn't have to perform :) - and saying your cock is good-sized, gets up, stays up, and always performs well.

 

Dito That pretty much sums up how we use the online ads. We're serious and try to be as upfront and honest as we can be. We try to never be negative and take the good with the bad.

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northindycpl said:
It just seems we have reached the age where a lot of men seem to be starting to have issues and are having a difficult time addressing them.

No kidding—we just found that out big time! Whereas our first adventure was an outrageous success, our second one, which occurred just last weekend, was a big disappointment.

 

The gentleman we hooked up with was a very pleasant, handsome fellow in his mid-forties. He claimed to have participated in the lifestyle on-and-off for over a decade, and he had several SLS certifications to substantiate his claims. So far as we know he was very truthful with us.

 

He was very attracted to A, as she was to him, and they started getting it on quite nicely—lots of petting, kissing, and oral sex. But then he just shriveled up. And the harder he tried to regain an erection, the more frustrated he became. He claimed this had never happened to him before; he offered to have other of his partners email us to attest to his prowess; but in the end he finally just gave up and left.

 

A was initially concerned that there was something about her that turned him off, even though he kept telling her how outrageously hot she was. But when we got home Sunday morning, there was an email from him saying that this was actually the second time this had happened to him, and he'd decided to take a break for a while. We checked his SLS profile, and all pictures had been removed and all his entries said, “Taking a break.” Monday morning, when we went to email him a note reassuring him and offering to give him another chance, we found that his SLS account had been completely removed—no trace of him remained!

 

I guess he’s having a really hard time addressing his newfound performance issues. Fortunately, I’ve previously dealt with my own issues, so I’d already taken a little blue pill and was able to turn the evening into an extended, hot night of passion for just A and I—not the same as a new and different partner, but at least not a total loss either. :fun:

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Fortunately, I’ve previously dealt with my own issues, so I’d already taken a little blue pill and was able to turn the evening into an extended, hot night of passion for just A and I
I know this is a little off-topic, but the "Little Blue Pill" isn't the panacea that some guys think it's going to be either. It functions by blocking an enzyme that allows blood to flow away from the penis. It won't "make your dick stand up," it will only prevent it from "sitting down" once it has. You still need to be relaxed and attracted to a woman, not stressing out about the situation, for it to work. "Stage fright" will kill a dick as fast as booze or dope, and sometimes, the prettier the woman is, the more likely that is to happen.

 

That "Little Blue Pill" isn't going to do shit for guys unless they learn how to get their head in the game as well.

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JnCC said:
That "Little Blue Pill" isn't going to do shit for guys unless they learn how to get their head in the game as well.

Absolutely! I agree 100%.

His problem was in his head and probably wouldn't be cured by a little blue pill.

My problems are not in my head, so the little blue pill worked fine for me! :D

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I'm always looking for excuses to brag about hubby :) I love swinging 'cause he's just too good to keep to myself! lol Seriously though, I believe I've put in our ads (speaking from my perspective) that Mr. is well-endowed, very attentive and sensitive (as in able to read his partner very well, looking for little 'cues'), loves to please, is very patient, has tons of sexual energy, etc. He had an episode at our first encounter when Mr. Happy just wouldn't co-operate, but it was just newbie jitters I think ;) I don't know, I certainly hope I didn't put excess pressure on him, but this is just the way he is. He really doesn't have to try hard to live up the the ad. Now if I said something like "Hung like a clydesdale, has permerection, and has been known to buy condoms in bulk..." well that might be pushing it.

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LikeMinds321 said:
To the men/couples who use ad profiles, how many of you would make the following statement in your profile?

 

He is well endowed with great stamina and no performance problems.

 

I recently read this in a profile and my first thought was the guy's got to be awfully confident in himself.

 

I would think you'd be placing way too much pressure on yourself to perform, and I don't see why a man would place himself under this kind of pressure. :confused:

 

We have some experience in this arena. ;)

 

And form OUR experience, those who talk the biggest game usually have the most problems.

 

Of course no one is going to respond to an ad that read: Small dick, can't always get it up, and cum quickly when I do.

 

From what we have found, those who fill their profile about their intersect and experience are far better performers then those who just tell you how good they are going to be.

 

 

Do we shy away from profiles who talk themselves up?

 

Not always.

But we don't take it as fact. ;)

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I am average size mabye even a little smaller than average but up until 29 years old I could honestly say I could get an erection on que, hold it for a long time, And control ejaculation like clock work. I won't say performance since I feel that is up to my partner to decide. At 29 it's been all down hill. Bad back injuries, lots of medical problems, age , declining testoterone the whole 9 yards. I feel cheated, I was a virgin until 22 and at that my friends just set up a mercy screw for me. All those years justed wasted. All of that raw energy just wasted. If there is any young guys at there reading this whatever you do don't Just let time go by without doing every thing you can to try and get a relationship started. Because those fun times could disapear before you know it.

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LOL I don't know if we have ever played with any one who promotes himself that way .... but would sure like to be able to be the man in the ad :)

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