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MattLisa

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About MattLisa

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    Concord, California
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    computers, art, fantasy (both sexually and the knights and dragons)
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    Computers/Artist
  1. Uncut men seem to have a more sensitive head than cut... I've played with both (hubby is not cut) and enjoy both fairly equally. Sometimes the extra skin can make condoms a problem, but you can usually make it work pretty easily (they can tend to slip sometimes). I do like giving oral to uncut men though, they are more sensitve
  2. Hey Stratecpl! I bet some of the considerate men we've spoken to online aren't so awesome in person but since we've only met one man online (a few single girls and girl-girl couples surprise surprise is who we've usually met!) in person and he was really everything we were looking for I've got good vibes at the moment. Whats *really* cool about this guy is after we chatted via email, Matt and I wanted to meet him cuz he sounds just like what we wanted (friendly, Matt and him enjoy same interests, same sexual intrests, intellegent, wants friendship, ect, ect), we find out that he's already been playing with some of our other intimate friends, and it was like having a super trusted reference who really knew this guy well already! The first time (so far only time) we played with him sexually our other friends were here so we all played together and it helped out so much with the "first time" jitters. So since we've been having good luck so far with meeting people in person we're pretty happy with that aspect... I *think* the bozo single comments we get have a lot to do with my age (23). So many of the negitive type of men trying to be involved in swinging get the "dirty old man" syndrome... "Ooooh young flesh...young flesh..." glazed-eye drooling here>. Not that I have ANYTHING against older gentlemen (or ladies), about 90% of our special friends are 10-15 years older than us and are so awesome it just seems like the I have the weirdos coming after me more because of my age... And I've heard the topics of possible problems with "young swingers" and it really actually comforts me when a couple (or single) double checks to make sure we're not irresponsible and really know what we're getting into (and trust me, we do, its *all* about communication and respecting your partner). It just shows they aren't just focused on the sex part but all the aspects that make positive swinging possible. It's a *lot* of work to swing... Our friends have this mental image of us having carefree sex with lots of people, never having those deep down 'are you okay with this and don't tell me yes just to make me happy cuz your comfort is more important that my temporary enjoyment' conversations (it can be hard to make sure everyone is completely okay with a situation when your husband doesn't like talking about his emotions... but I certainly make him and assure myself that he is 110% happy with our choices , after all if our relationship isn't good then swinging isn't going to make it better), all the men involved having rock hard genitals for hours, ect, ect... When in reality while we've been actively interested in finding full swing partners for 2+ years we've both only full swung with one other opposite gender partner and have only had a total of 7 people involved in our sex lives and that includes very limited contact with a few friends who were "interested" but didn't want to give as well as get (and it also includes the full swing partners *and* a triad we play with regularly), and as posted in another thread Matt has "hard" issues which makes him feel sad , and I make sure *every* time we play to sit down afterwards and make sure we're both happy with what's going on and that nothing was wrong as well as what we might want to add to the next time, ect, ect. Don't get me wrong, its worth every minute of work to do this, but it is a lot of work.. and some people don't *get* that (mostly the before mentioned "weirdos" who just want a quick lay). Anyways, sorry for running a bit off thread here... I didn't mean to babble on so long either! Continue the conversations I'm having a lot of fun with this one!
  3. I can so understand people who can't read profiles. The places we have ads are VERY clear about what we want, and since I am actively looking for single men I do, of course, get lots of responses. About 90% of them don't fit our requests. We are both plus-sized and prefer that (not to knock everyone in shape, we just find we need to make *really* good friendships with people not in our size range to play and most people on the internet aren't looking for making long term friendships first...) and almost every reply I get is from Mr. Buff and beautiful. Great. I'll just make my husband feel inadquate with your six pack, buff arms and lack of any body fat. Just what I was looking for when I said "we are plus-sized people and looking for same". Oh and how many married men come looking for a "discrete" relationship? Geez! I do play with one gentleman who is allowed to play with wife's permission, which is great, but I had my fill of sneaking around like a teenager, well when I was one. And how awful for the wife! And I get *so* many responses from men who have never done this and it just "sounds interesting". Which hey can be great, but to me most of the time its "please I can't get laid and don't want to commit so I'm using swinging as an alternative". Oh and the #1 thing that pisses me off. Responses from men that go something like this "me hung you sux me good and I do u all nite long u want to meet me alone". Like what I'm not even good enough for a description much less capitilization or puncutation? And um when an ad says "We do not in any circumstances play without each other" I didn't know it really meant that if some guy who can't be poliete, use periods or talk to me like I'm a human sends me an email I'll jump into his bed. Hmmm interesting... But I haven't *quite* got to fed up totally mode. We've had lots of fun with other couples, single women and triads but my fantasy is two men on me all alone... Yum... that thought just keeps me going... and some of the men I meet online are very sweet and nice and intelligent.
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