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  1. Well it's been almost 8 months since we decided to tell our spouses what was up. I am still in love with this woman. She is all I could ever want or need. I am with my kids every other weekend and one night every week. Things are going good there as well. Things between me and my ex have settled. She has a new bf, and a new house. She seems to be doing well. I am not proud of what I did, and I wish that I felt the same way towards my wife as I do for this woman. Unfortunately, I didn't. I think coming clean as some of you told me to do, really was for the best. It was hard at first, but as time passes, everyone seems to be doing better. cheers.
  2. Hi all, i thought I'd just stop by and see if I was still getting bashed, really I did expect to hear it. I came here and was honest and was looking for some input, that's all. My g/f and I are still together, she is a wonderful person and it makes me happy knowing that I make someone feel as special as they make me feel. I married young and I really didn't know what love was. I thought, at the beginning of my marriage, I was in love. But how could I be in love and be unhappy at the same time? The reason? it wasn't love. I never knew what it was and to be honest I thought I had found love with my wife and that it just wasn't as great as it was made out to be. I stayed with my wife because of my kids, plain and simple. No other reason. I have found something special in this woman that I love and I would do it all over again to be with her.
  3. Things are good. Moving in with the g/f very soon... and getting some loose ends tied up. (divorce). I am very happy about the decisions I made, I feel like a better person. I am so much happier and that is reflected in every aspect of my life (imo). I love the person I am with, and for once I can say that I love myself as well. I know it sounds corny, but things are really good right now.
  4. Well it's out, I finally got enough courage to come clean with my wife. It was a bad scene but I did it. That's all I have for an update. All I can say is I did what made me happy. Thanks for the advice, I guess i did end up taking it after all.
  5. Telling my wife would do more damage to her than it would to me. I do care about my wife, I don't want to hurt her for the sake of getting it off my chest. I think taht would be plain STUPID and mean.Anyway, my wife and I are now going through a seperation. It just happened last night, so we are still working out the details.
  6. Well, I took your advice (part of it anyway). I told the other woman that I had cheated on my wife previously. She said that she was glad I told her the truth because a friend of hers had asked her if I had done this kinda thing before. It felt good telling her, you guys were right.
  7. Well, it turns out we had a few more run ins, a few more conversations... and happened to get some alone time together. I told her I loved her and she told me the same. I was scared to tell her , but I did. I really have noone else to talk to about this, I know noone here cares, but it makes me feel a little better sharing... don't know why. It just does. I just wish I was talking to her when I was talking to you guys, I guess. When I am no longer around here, you'll know why.......... I'll be with her.
  8. That is exactly how I feel, and ultimately it is what I fear at the same time. We have talked about our current states.... and we have decided to take our time and enjoy whatever time we have together . I am not willing to end this prematurely as it would weigh on my mind for the rest of my days. If it is love, we will feel the same way about each other in a year... 10 years, whatever. And guys, who's arguing here? I'm not. And sure my wife does deserve someone better.... I guess everyone does.
  9. it's funny because when I first posted, I was told that no one had ever done this... that I was in the minority. That is why I said that. I was told it hadn't happened, and then you come out and say " spare me". Jesus. I can't win around here ( not that I am trying to ). And I agree with you, I bet there are plenty.... but only a few have come forward to tell me about it.
  10. Well, you said it better than I ever could have. Thanks. I did come here looking for advice ( beating the dead horse, I know ).... and I got some. i didn't come on here looking to get some sort of validation for cheating. Duh, I know that IS something which can not be done. So get that out of your systems right now as I know cheating is wrong, although I do continue to do it. I came here hoping to get "snapped" out of this state I am in. I gave a hx of my affairs to let you know that I am not some green noob who falls in love with any pussy he sees.... this is just not the case. I have told this woman that I love her, she has told me she is not in love with her husband. I feel sadness when I am with my wife... not sure why... sad because SHE is not there when my wife is -or- sad that I am with my wife. I really don't know. All I do know is that this woman makes me smile, makes me feel special. She makes me feel like I am watching a movie or asleep having an awesome dream. it really is indescribable. it is so powerful... it is like nothing I ever felt. I know that I love this woman..... and it is only a matter of time before I finally end it with my wife. With that said, I don't know why some of you make it a point to bash me for what I am doing. I really just don't get it.... does it make you feel better about yourself? Does making me feel like shit make you feel like gold? Do you see me thread bombing the "the condom broke" thread? It's like me going over there and saying .. well it serves you right.. having sex with someone else is just wrong, and I am sure your spouse will be happy when he finds out you are pregnant with so and sos baby. That's just ridiculous. If you despise me and/or this thread... just stay out of it.it's not like I am bumping this thread every other day so if you want to plump up your post count you'll just have to start your own thread , that's if you have an interesting/positive thread that anyone would want to respond to. This board is funny, several people have PM'd me.... saying that they are afraid to post publicly here as they know what the reaction will be. That's sad. That's all I have to say. Don't like the thread, don't bump it. I already know how witty and funny you are... please don't waste your intelligence on this cheater's thread.
  11. Just an update..... We consummated our 'affair'... and it was SPECTACULAR. No, really it was. Thanks for all the support guys, I couldn't have made it this far if I didn't listen to your advice. YOU know who you are. Thanks again.
  12. Hi, I am back. No update, just an apology. I apologize if I came across as an asshole, a pig, or whatever. I am neither of those things. So all I am doing this time is offering an apology for the way I reacted to some of the posts and / or ways I have offended some of the people here, that was never my intention. I'm sorry.
  13. I didn't trash the site and I never pretended to be a sheep, not unlike some people.
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