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GrayWolf

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About GrayWolf

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    Couple
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    Santa Fe, NM
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    him retired;
  1. I just wanted to thank those who took the time and trouble to post some positive feedback to my tentative introduction. I was confused by the post of the sereneiders, however, but it seems this post was addressed to Nikki77 or whoever. Of course it's germane what my wife thinks about swinging. I have no intention of forcing her into anything. I do feel quite certain she would go along with the idea, since we discussed such things in the past, but never took any action about it. Yes, I guess I wanted to test the waters, so to speak, before bringing it up again with my wife. You see, I want to make certain how I feel about it before I reintroduce the subject. I am not impotent, but I am certainly not the man I used to be, and cannot promptly have an erection, to get to the nitty-gritty, and yes, I have used Viagra and have found it useful, though not absolutely necessary. But I would certainly feel awkward to be involved in swinging with a couple if I found I could not have an erection on demand. When I first tried swinging I was in my early 40s and randy as a billy goat, but nowadays, I must accept the fact that sometimes "the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak." Besides, I think one of the main attractions of the lifestyle is the possibility of sexual variety, and to be perfectly honest, I feel no compelling need for it nowadays. Indeed, my sexuality, as that of many senior gentlemen, is more like a woman's in that it is dependent on mood and general well-being in a way it was not before. I was once a nudist for some time, but I saw the damage the sun did to the human skin and I eventually decided I could not be a social nudist outdoors again, and after an operation that split me from my breastbone to my pelvis, I have a scar that is outstanding, and indeed, no longer have a navel. The bottom line is that I don't feel comfortable being nude anymore. Yes, my health is paramount, and I am a semi-vegetarian of some years standing, and still work out with free weights and an exercise bike, though I'm not the dedicated fitness enthusiast I once was. Anyway, thanks again to all of you for the non-judgmental feedback. I mention this because I find that some men and women seem to look upon me as a "DOM" for marrying an attractive woman half my age. I find there really is a strong and persistent bias against such relationships, even though I feel it's really no one else's business to judge me or tell me how to live my life, since I am not dishonest, did not marry my wife under false pretenses, and treat her well at all times. And as I said, I did not actively seek a woman with that age difference. I sought a more mature woman, no more than 10-15 years my junior, but alas, all the women I encountered among my foreign contacts were with heavy emotional baggage, or a child or two, or even wanting to have a child at 45, even 50. So it was only as a last resort that I considered a woman so much younger than myself. Well, I wish all of you well, since most of you seem to have it together pretty well.
  2. I am a senior married to an Asian woman half my age. I joined this board with reservations. I was married once before and my first wife and I had a few swinging encounters, largely positive, but our marriage was in trouble for unrelated reasons and we eventually agreed to go our separate ways. Now I have been married to a much younger woman for about 10 years, and I can say, without reservation, that we still love and care for each other. However, I am past 65, and though I'm in reasonably good health, I worry that I may not be able to satisfy my wife in the years ahead. We have a young daughter but will not have any more. My wife, a virgin when we married, has blossomed into a really insatiable sensualist. I do not wish to see her deprived in any way, so I think about us entering the "lifestyle," as it is now known, but probably just to have my wife physically gratified by other men, as I watch, since at this stage of my life I can hardly consider myself a sex stud looking for other sexual encounters. I seek input from other members. Are there other members in my circumstances, that is, of being an older man with a younger wife, etc.,? I know that some people are biased against marriages with such large age gaps, but we have had a good relationship and I don't wish to hear from judgmental people who wish to burden me with their narrow views. I did not truly seek marriage with a younger wife, but that is the way it eventually turned out. And my wife was not from an impoverished background, so she did not marry me for money or security. Perhaps we are both unique in our reasons for marrying, but I love her deeply and wonder if I can really accept her being with another man. Strange thing is, I don't feel very threatened by the idea of her having sex with another man, but I suffer with the fear that she might someday have a secret affair, which would hurt me deeply. It is a matter of trust, and openness. Anyway, that is the crux of my introduction. I am retired, and was lastly employed as a state government worker, and though I have no fear of starving or being deprived, our retirement income is modest, though adequate for our needs. If indeed we embrace this lifestyle, it will be mostly because I am proud of her sexuality and her capacity for pleasure, and don't wish to see her deprived. Right now, I am merely putting out feelers and seeking input from people who can speak from experience.
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