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  1. Further to some comments on here about posting one's own images and/or information on the Internet and other's uses of those images and/or information, I just found this interesting piece from a Prof. Thomas G Field of Pierce Law "Fair use is one of the most important, and least clear cut, limits to copyright. It permits some use of others' works even without approval. But when? Words like "fair" or "reasonable" cannot be precisely defined, but here are a few benchmarks. Uses that advance public interests such as criticism, education or scholarship are favored -- particularly if little of another's work is copied. Uses that generate income or interfere with a copyright owner's income are not." I'm going to seek further legal help on this one, but it seems that as I took the pics and they're of me, I hold copyright, regardless of where I choose to use them. And as my images and information have been used to directly interfere with my income, it seems that that isn't fair use of my own copyright materials. I'm sure some do-gooder here will tell me I'm misconstruing this information, but if nothing else, there's a Professor of Law who has stated what I have believed all along - what I do with MY own images and information is MY business, regardless of where I decide to post them.
  2. Thanks for another reply, guys. (I won't use up thread space by quoting your whole message). To answer your question - the Swing site my information came from was SLS (in the three years I have been a member there, I spent some months Paid then let me account change to 'Free'). I had no externally viewable profile and had opted out of the 'Featured Member' section. I attended a grievance hearing yesterday and my SLS profile had been printed directly from the screen (I've since deleted the profile and told Tech Support I was deleting it because someone had reported it to my employers. I wasn't aware until yesterday that it had been printed). I'm going to see what I can find in regards to SLS' TOS after I finish this reply to you. I also got to see the envelope that was sent to my employer with the information. The address label had been printed and no return address given. Interestingly, it was addressed to my Office Supervisor by name rather than title. I didn't get to see whether there was any other information, but it appears to have been sent anonymously.
  3. Actually, you've hit the nail on the head with just one exception. It's MY County Court that won't allow an email to be used as admissible evidence (despite Social Services, Family Services, EEOC and an attorney telling me otherwise). I even turned up at my County Court with the appropriate legislation that showed emails are admissible and was told that if I wished to argue with the Clerk of Court they would have me arrested. Yes, the woman harrassing/stalking me did exactly what you said - she put her own email together using my address. She alleged that I sent it via AOL who told me that they wouldn't release any records of sent/received emails without a Court Order (even my own as I was to be using them for legal purposes). When the Police turned up to arrest me, they weren't concerned with whether or not I actually sent the email or whether the woman composed it herself. They told me (understandably, I suppose) that they were there to serve an Arrest Warrant and that Court was the place to argue. The woman ended up dropping the charge that I had allegedly emailed death threats on condition that I dropped her very real one of threatening to kill me over the telephone. We went to mediation, where she agreed to have no direct or third party contact with me, and unfortunately I cannot prove it's her doing the harrassing now, although only she could know the things that are being alleged. And whilst I understand that you have to take this into consideration, I'm not exaggerating anything here. To repeat an earlier reply - I'm being driven to Hell and back by a woman who wants to ruin my life and is increasingly manipulative. You know that addage about 'Hell hath no fury...' Well that doesn't just apply to a man who's p*ssed a woman off
  4. Thanks, xxoticangel. That makes perfect sense to me. I hate what happened to you, and can't believe they even contacted your ex! That's disgusting treatment. I totally understand the point about millions being able to download the pictures, but it seems there should be some way of dealing with those who do use them. After all, even if I post the pics it seemed to me that I own the copyright on them (by taking pictures myself of ME). What about these sites that put a copyright notice on their pics? Surely that's there for a reason? I know the legality of that is for an attorney to decide, but it still seemed logical to me (not that logic counts for much these days)
  5. I have to say I came very close to never returning to this board again. Most people seem to have no idea of the hell another can go through whilst a perpetrator remains within an inch of the law. You don't have to give me advice, Aurora - just knowing that someone understands my plight his lifted a little of the weight. I've now spoken to maybe 4 different attorneys and each of them tell me I've got a real case. Unfortunately I still haven't found one to work with me pro-bono (oh, and to those of you who have pointed out that I mentioned being short of money on more than one occasion in this thread - I make no apologies. I'm answering posts as they come in, not trawling through my every reply to check whether I've said the same thing twice). Thank you again, Aurora. You've been a huge help just by posting your message.
  6. Excuse me? What on earth gives you the right to try to hit me with this sh*t? My original post was about losing my job to swinging. The post that you quoted was the background to the person who has reported me. If you don't believe what I'm telling you then just turn up at Forsyth County Court (or phone then, I don't care) and ask them whether they'll issue an Arrest Warrant for an emailed threat. How dare you make the accusations you did. I came here for support, and have had it on the most part. Just because there's a ton of sh*t going on in my life and it's all inter-related doesn't mean it's not happening and isn't killing me and my family. If you've got nothing better to say then please f*ck off and don't reply to my post. This is difficult enough as it is without dealing with somebody who doesn't believe something just because it doesn't fit into their pigeon-holed view of the world Oh, and if (God forbid) you're ever stalked - try to make sure you ask the person stalking you to leave as much physical evidence as possible. It will make your life so much easier. Unfortunately in the real world, that tends not to happen.
  7. Thank you for your support, biblonde. What you said has touched me. Unfortunately I have little to no disposable income and just can't afford to go down the legal road that would help me with my stalker. When I've had the money, two separate attorneys have told me that there just isn't enough physical proof to have her charged, even though they believed me. The last time I DID have enough to file a charge, she filed a counter-charge at me (she sent herself an email with my name on threatening to kill her - I didn't communicate with her at all). Perversely, her County Court allows emailed threats to be used as evidence. My County Court doesn't! Anyway, thank you again for being supportive. That meant a lot to me. I seriously hope no-one else has to go through this mess that I am
  8. Thanks again for another in-depth reply to my topic. I should just take this opportunity to point out that during my 18 years with the same employer, I have an excellent disciplinary, attendance and sick record. If I'm ill but can move around, I go to work. I work through my lunch hour five days a week. I stay behind if there's work needing to be done within a deadline. I have given my all to my job, and whilst I know I could be happier elsewhere, I am conscientious and professional. My private life should be my own and has no bearing on my work, regardless of my use of the Internet to share information or pictures. (I'm not suggesting for a moment that you were criticising me, I'm just using your post to highlight the kind of employee I am).
  9. Hi Menuinnc. Firstly, thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. Secondly - I'm becoming more painfully aware that NC is an 'At Will' State. All I can hope for, however, is that I can fight on the grounds that my letter of dismissal cited 'Immorality, sharing pornography...(and) soliciting others for immoral or objectionable acts' (actually my profile mentioned a fantasy scenario that I have, but NOT that I was looking for participants to re-enact that fantasy). As I say, I'm hoping to be able to fight that I hopefully can't be dismissed on those grounds, especially as (a) I have never actually signed a contract of employment; and (b) there doesn't seem to be any mention in my Employee's Handbook about an employee's private life unless it involves breaking State or Federal Laws. In the meantime, I will try to contact UNC in the hope that somebody can advise me there. As for the question about Gays & Lesbians - I actually have no idea what my employer's stance is. I do know this much, though. A year or so ago, a colleague of mine was warned and (months later) ultimately dismissed for phoning sex lines in work time from a work's phone. I didn't even get a warning for something I did in private. I hope my experience doesn't put you off dabbling in the lifestyle. It's just a shame that even if your wife agrees to do swing, you're still going to have to do it with the secrecy of the French Resistance.
  10. I'm not sure I follow. What happened to me DID happen. My point was that I've been dismissed for something consensual. If I were a member of one of those extremist groups, I'd have a right to be a member AND continue in my job
  11. You keep telling me it's foolish. Yes, it's foolish in hindsight knowing that it could be used against me. But I believed (and STILL believe) that I have a right to pursue an adult interest that (a) doesn't break the law; and (b) is consensual. By your argument, all 'amateur adult sites' would close. The only people who should post images that might be recognisable should be members of the 'adult industry' to avoid the chance that either someone might recognise them or that they might bring disrepute upon themselves. I would argue that there is a thriving trade in amateur erotica, whether you think it's foolish or not. You can't tell me for one minute that I am the only person sharing amateur pictures with a less-than-perfect 'regular' life. Sealed what? You admit that I have a right to have a swinger profile, where I can mention being bisexual and that I am open to the possiblity of 'recreational sex' but that I can't post a picture of MY OWN body? Hmmm.
  12. ...are you suggesting what I think you're suggesting? lol. Maybe we'll have more of a right to swing if we cut eyeholes in pillow cases and wear them for consensual sex! (I'm not being dismissive of problems faced by 'extremist' groups, before anyone complains. I'm just wondering what it would take to afford our community the same protection under the law as certain extremist groups).
  13. Thank you, Suncouple. I've submitted a case report with Scarlett Law Group and am keeping my fingers crossed. Even if it ends up being 'bad' advice, at least it's useful! Thanks for your time and your research ? As for suing the stalker... I know exactly who it is, and the things she knows and uses against me can only come from her. But when she doesn't leave her name or she makes 'anonymous' reports against me, there's apparently very little I can do. I paid an attorney for advice on the stalking matter a couple of years ago. He agreed that everything I have points to this particular woman but that it's not exactly 'beyond reasonable doubt' for a court of law. Even though she threatened to kill me in an email, my County Court said that emails are inadmissible (I know they're not in every county, but until I can move out of this one, I'm stuck). She also telephoned me with death threats, but as I didn't have a recorder set up, it was my word against hers. The Police have told me that even though I know she's capable of killing me, they can't act until she lays a finger on me. ?
  14. The OP has told you all of the story. It seems you're very quick to argue with both me and any other poster whose posts contradict your view of the world. Whether you believe it's stupid or not to post identifiable pics, the fact is that I did so in the belief that I wasn't doing anything illegal. As I've said in a previous post, it's people like you who believe that 'swinging' should be an underground activity. I happen to disagree. Tell me what kind of country this is where your right to be a member of the Ku Klux Klan or any one of a thousand other 'minority' or 'extremist' groups is protected but your right to have consensual sex with adults (or post erotic pictures of your own body) isn't?
  15. Thanks for the continued posts, everyone. This is all having a profoundly negative effect on us as you can well imagine. Regardless of the fact that I had erotic pics on an amateur site, I still feel it's unfair that an employer can have a say in what we do in our private lives. I know I mentioned this earlier (and was partly ridiculed for it) but why is it ok to be seen drinking and smoking outside of work yet it can't be 'discovered' that you're willing to have consensual sex with another adult in the privacy of your own home, or that you can't post self pics on a site that's dedicated to that. I was told by my boss that the problem was that someone could stumble across my pics and that would reflect on my job. But my pics and profile were on sites requiring registration (the swing profile was on SLS) and could only be 'stumbled upon' by someone who registered, recognised me, knew my name then Googled my name and eventually found it on my employer's own website. How is that fair? It seems that even if I can be dismissed for my private life, then that is by definition forcing swinging and amateur pic posting underground, almost akin to illegal activities.
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