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ddt&lgt

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About ddt&lgt

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    So. FL
  • Interests
    Fast cars, SCUBA Diving, Travel
  • Occupation
    It's a Job
  • Swinging Experience
    Not yet...Maybe
  1. My wife and I are not in the lifestyle. I guess…I have to say we flirt with the lifestyle. And I don’t mean that to be we tease another couple and then don’t engage in sex with them. What I mean is that we are both very curious and we want to know more before we take that plunge. We started visiting clothing optional beaches, moved on to resorts (we’ve been to Hedonism II a couple of times and just returned from Desire in Cancun), and we have visited lifestyle clubs near our hometown. While at these destinations we always tell those with whom we strike up conversations that we don’t yet swing…just dipping our toes in the water until we’re more comfortable. As of yet, no one we have spoken to was either rude or tried to push us into something. (Some, but not all, of the single guys have made us uncomfortable, usually a more stern “excuse us” gets the point across) The couples are very friendly, talk about what interests they have in swinging, and the kids and dogs. I believe my wife would never have considered many of the things we have done thus far without me sharing fantasies with her and encouraging her to do the same with me. We have been together 5 years and married for over 1. Both have been around that horn before and we each have grown children and grandchildren. She was raised in a somewhat closed minded Christian family and the previous marriage did not include any experimentation in more “out there” sexual activity. None of which is right or wrong it is just the way many people are raised. From what I observe it may also be the reason why many swingers and other more liberal sexual minded people take some precautions to keep their activities private and within their peer group. Least we labeled sexually deviant by a large part of our society. So my point…if I really had one…is if you have any interest in swinging or the lifestyle or whatever moniker you wish ascribe to any interest by one or both members of a relationship to step into nonmonogamous sexual activity, you must first address in each others heads what you really want, why, and what in your past either encourages or discourages those feelings. Both partners must be patient with each other, fair, and above all totally honest. We think that is what encouraged our open communication without any fear of the other partner getting upset or thinking you’re some kind of sex freak. Our only rule is, no one does anything without the other’s approval and NO is OK. With that simple rule we have exposed ourselves in public, watched others engage in many forms of sexual activity in just about every possible combination or permutation, and engaged in sex ourselves in view of others. We freely admire and discuss with each other our observations of other people and couples. “She has a nice rack.” “His ass looks good.” “I like the way she trims her pussy.” “I’d suck his cock.” “Those guys were a nice couple.” One day I may watch her take another man’s cock doggie with me beneath her kissing her pussy while she and another women share me cock. That is one of my fantasies. One of her fantasies is a man’s cock in her pussy, mine in her ass, and another man’s cock in her mouth. (That one works for me too) But, the best part is that we both really know what interests the other and we both know that neither of is emotionally quite ready for the reality just yet. Take your time and openly share your feelings with each other. And you can open the door and look in without fear.
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