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  1. One other thing to think about is what if your GF actually finds she enjoys herself? What is that going to do for you. We have seen it before where the Husband was "pushing" (probably too strong a word) to go and the wife was luke warm about the idea at best. The wife fit right in and the husband freaked at a party and they had to leave. Once he calmed down they decided to move forward and go again. We ended up "playing" and again the wife was very enthusiastic and the husband had a bit of an issue about that. The point being that there is more to think about and there is no way to plan for everything that can happen.
  2. The other interesting thing in the Phoenix situation is that the ordinance passed states something to the effect that it is illegal to charge people to come in to your establishment for the purpose of having sex. So why are none of the hotel managers or owners under arrest? The Phoenix other problem in town is that there were several people having parties for a donation. There are a couple of people that have now started to threaten them if they have any more parties. So the cops are raiding the clubs, the house parties are being threatened and the people will no longer have parties. So in effect the local news channel got their way. All of this was started as the result of an "investigative report". No one cared, or even knew about the clubs, until the local news ran out of real stories and had to start creating them.
  3. We watch how they treat each other. If they don't act "right " with each other they are going to be a problem. This is especialy true with the ways the men treat their wives. The thing we generaly see is the husband being over bearing, or threatening to the wife and she is overly submissive for the situation. The other cue is often people where one tries too hard and the other doen't seem interested at all. Sometimes the feeling is that one person is too pushy. It does come down to a "feeling" that something just isn't right.
  4. I hate to disappoint you, but I doubt that you will ever convince him to give up the desire. If it hasn't already happend, then he probably never will. I have always had a rule, the person with the most restrictive rules is in charge. If my wife didn't want to swing we wouldn't. She tells me I can go by myself, and I won't do it. It is either us together or we stay home. Now we will occasionally "play" seperatly, but that is never the intention it just happens, with mutual consent. People rarely change. If your goal is to change someone you are going to beat your head against a stone wall with more sucess. Not all people are compatable and you have to accept that and make a decision of what you can live with.
  5. "The most obnixious people in the lifestyle: Those who engage in unprotected oral sex and expect the male to don a condom for vaginal intercourse." Well I guess we are among the most obnoxious in the lifestyle then. However, our experience is that the people that feel this way (see quote) we won't swing with any way because they always seem to be more interested in "notching a bedpost" than engaging in a relationship. We swing with friends, and only friends. What we have found is that just jumping in bed with someone we don't know isn't very satisfying or much fun. Everyone sets their own level of risk acceptance, and if you can't respect ours then you don't respect us.
  6. Around here the younger couples tend to be the PPUC (Pretty People in Ugly Clothes), and don't want anything to do with people that are a little older. We have had a couple of relationships with some younger couples and they tended to be OK for a while. After a time one member of the couple (usually the guy) starts acting like they are 12 and that ends it. The thing we see is that those couples often tend to break up. With this type of couple, the guys are often using their wives as a ticket. Granted younger couples aren't the only ones with this type of behavior, but the proportion seems to be higher around here.
  7. My guess is that not only is it a scam, but would be illegal without the permission of the person in the photograph. One of the hazards in dealing with people you don't know.....or don't know as well as you thought you did.
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