KajiKurai

Single men wanting to only chat is common. However, we're pretty sure we encountered a women that's only interested in cyber. Another thing we're pretty sure we've encountered a single male posing as a fem better than most. Pretty sure he may have set up multiple free accounts on the site then used though to "validate" his impostor female profile. We prefer e-mail and phone, then meet for coffee or drinks after a bit. Easier to weed out the BS!

"Discretion is the better part of valor." We'd keep things to ourselves unless permission were granted. It's just one more way of showing your appreciation of the situation.

We talk about it. We even have a list of co-workers in the event one of us should change jobs. Couple of weeks ago a woman in my office inquired with my department's secretary about my phone number. Secretary said,"He has an SO." Told my SO about it. My new mission is to find out who inquired.

Take your time and let them (the ladies) decide. If it is going to happen it will happen, if not if not. I have a close female friend that has for years now, has questioned her sexuality. My SO has no questions about her sexuality. She's bi. Has always known and it's never been an issue. My SO likes my female friend as a person and does find her to be attractive. I've simply made a point of making situations available so that they can get to know each other more. So far they get along great and it's good to be me. My female friend is becoming more comfortable with the idea of us. We talk openly about sex among other things. Last night, we simply did dinner and movies. No lack of conversation, or flirtation amongst the three of us. We had a great evening and definitely be doing so again because we are at ease with each other. My SO and I may have found our "girlfriend". Most important for the OP to garner from this post, is the fact that no alcohol was involved. Nary a drop. My close female friend is a recovering alcoholic.

Add another couple. We both ride. Have several bikes between us. Couple of sportier bikes, a UJM, and a track bike. We like all kinds of bikes and don't care what you ride. It's the fact that you ride and are a level-headed rider that's more important. Surprisingly, some of the bike boards I'm on, swinging gets discussed now and again. Maybe riders are just a bit more adventurous than most.

Meggy -- I saw your post and pic and promptly showed my SO your thread. Followed by your photo and we are in very mutual agreement that we both find you attractive. You would definitely get our attention at a club. You're a beautiful women and have a great smile. Your photo tells us that much anyway. It's all about how you carry yourself. We'd be all over you.

We're an inter-racial couple. She's Caucasian and I'm African-American/Puerto Rican/with a touch of something else (likely French or Brit). We don't make race part of our decision at all. It's just never a thought. Never has been for either of us. It's someone's personality that will get our attention and be the final factor in our decisions. Works for us, so we're happy.

I'm 36 and she's 38. We're honest about our age in profiles. If we were to find out someone we were considering were lying about their age it would likely be a dealbreaker. Recently I was out with a buddy having a beer and I got carded, but then again I've never given my age too much thought.

My SO and I agree that you're not fat. Frankly your build sounds incredible. Your stature would definitely turn our heads and get our attention!

Sounds like you're taking the smart approach. You can always ask the straight out. See if they fluster. I would also keep in mind they've lied to you once.

Yes, for my SO and I it's still good. Maybe because for us we know it won't end right there. She's very multi-orgasmic (which is what I derive most of my pleasure from). From time to time it just doesn't happen for me. Which is fine. Typical result is me waking her in the middle of the night or nice morning session to start our day off.

If that's the case what are you worried about. You enjoyed another woman. You're consenting adults and it sounds like your husband knows you well. From reading your post he's okay with your sexuality but you need to come to some inner peace about it. I currently have a female friend trying better understand her own sexaulity. She's not been with a woman other than kissing/fondling but her curiousity and interest haven't wained in two years. My SO is bisexual. I have no problems with it whatsoever. If your husband is anything like me he considers himself a lucky man. My advice, be quite a bit more sober next time. Then you know you had your wits about you when you went there. If you're bi you're bi. That's something that just is. What's the problem? Good Luck.

Quote: Originally Posted by Happypair When it comes to couples who seek only bi-females, or couples with bi females, we suspect we are just hearing the point of view of a jealous, controlling husband. He wants to boink other women; he wants a girlie show because that doesn't threaten him, but he is terrified when he considers the possibility of me getting within pronging range of his bride. God forbid, I might be... competent. My SO and I only seek bi-females. She simply has no desire whatsoever to be with another man. She handles the profiles and contacts. We're pretty tired of being approached by people that don't fit the bill. Couples, single men, etc.... We don't seek couples for the reason I have stated. Not because I'm a hypocrite or insecure. We are not going to waste a couple's time because we don't fit their bill.

After reading this thread my SO and I are really beginning to wonder about the lifestyle couples in our area. We are about twenty minutes from acple4fun's town. Between reading this thread and getting responses from "pushy" couples in the Reno/Carson area we may keep our activities limited to out of area only vs. local events. You were in the right acple4fun, and handled the situation much better than I would have.

I've been asked what is my preference plenty of times. I honestly don't have one though. So you're not a supermodel. If you have a good/great personality you get my interest. More for me I guess. I think Capt. Kirk was on to something. Some people will always be superficial. Those people just aren't for me and my SO.