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  1. It's only sex...right? It seems to me that your desire to watch your girlfriend copulating with a stranger was more important than allowing your girlfriend to extend her sexuality. Now you wonder if you can measure up? There is only one way to know. Ask her what she thinks and trust what she says. After all the two of you did this because__________? You fill in the blank.
  2. Yep, had sex in highschool...Yep...had sex in middle school...Yep...found out how girls are made in grammar school...no sex in grammar school though...guess I was ahead of my time...
  3. "I still can't help but adore them, lick them, suck them, blow on them..." Bunny...this is the secret that keeps me up and ready for the long run. A woman who adores... I have a real problem every time I am with a lady who expects me to perform. Just can't seem to get around the "performance" issue when "performance" is expected. And there are so many ways a lady signals that "performance" on my part is what it is all about. The best sex is the kind where you "perform" what you like and leave it to me to "perform" what I like. When that magical moment happens, I "perform" and "perform" and "perform". Oh, when does the magical moment occur? The moment "the moment" becomes about the other person!
  4. To tell of the smell...or not? This is the question? Wikipeida [ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olfaction has a great article on smell. In the references at the end there are several that bear study, but one in particular jumped off the page at me. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olfactory_fatigue says in part: "Olfactory fatigue or adaptation is the temporary, normal inability to distinguish a particular odor after a prolonged exposure to that airborne compound[1]. For example, when entering a restaurant initially the odor of food is often perceived as being very strong, but after time the awareness of the odor normally fades to the point where the smell is not perceptible or is much weaker. After leaving the area of high odor, the sensitivity is restored with time. Anosmia is the permanent loss of the sense of smell, and is different from olfactory fatigue. It is a commonly used term in wine tasting, where one loses the ability to smell and distinguish wine bouquet after sniffing at wine(s) continuously for an extended period of time. The term is also used in the study of indoor air quality, for example, in the perception of odors from people, tobacco, and cleaning agents. Olfactory fatigue is an example of neural adaptation or sensory adaptation. Our bodies become desensitized to stimuli in order to prevent the over loading of our nervous system, thus allowing it to respond to new stimuli that is ‘out of the ordinary’ " So the answer may be that she can't smell herself and a sensitive person might just find a kind way to let her know of her "problem". Or, the alternative...just keep on playing and eventually the odor will go away for you. Just remember, what caused the odor is still there.
  5. I used to feel a lot like Julie says...I would gauge a woman's satisfaction by whether she had an orgasm...until I met a lady who seet the record straight. She taught me that thinking my performance in recreational sex is of great importance was mostly my ego talking to me. She said that a conversation you have with yourself may be heard by your partner and be a total turn off for her. She said that conversation goes like this: "I am good and women love what I do for them. I must prove myself to them by making sure they cum every time I provide sex for them." Boy-oh-boy did I get knocked off my perch. She taught me that sex is enjoyable when the people involved in the act not only enjoy what they are doing for the other person but they ae enjoying it themselves and that I should just relax and enjoy the time. If she didn't like the results, I would find out soon enough. From that night on, I stoped trying to be the "great pleasure provider" and found that I enjoyed swinging much more. I found out that the enjoyment is not always just in the climax but in the overall experience. So if I don't cum or you don't cum, neithe of us is a number. Rather we are just enjoying the moment. For the OP, just relax, enjoy the ride, and tell your partner just how good it really is.
  6. Well said. Of late I have thought a lot about what got me hard and kept me that way when I was a much younger guy. It really is women who are "themselves." Now for me, my fantasy woman is IMDb - Catherine Zeta-Jones. However, that being said, all I know about her is what I see in the movies. If you want my "attention" give me reasons that are "you"...the "real you." You don't have to look like Cathrine or Kate...but you do have to be you...and that's where the "chemistry" comes from.
  7. When my wife was alive I never got bored...she did, a lot however it was always fun and interesting for over 40 years. God knows, I miss her.
  8. From one single guy to all other single guys...Thrax hit it squarely on the head. I have been "in the lifestyle" since 1981...longer than some of you are old . I have actually been able to have play time with only five couples and five single women. I had never thought about how many and how often until tonight while reading the posts in this thread. I don't keep score and don't like being a hash mark on someone's bed post so some of those couples I will never see again. I tried very hard to make sure I was allways respectfull to all my playmates and their spouses, making sure that their pleasure was first and foremost. Each encounter was special...some more so than others and some of these folks are special friends even though we may never play together again. For those of you who don't want to play in mfm threesomes, thats ok. I personally don't want to spoil your fun because the thing that will cause my "little friend" to loose his interest quicker than anything else is to know someone is not happy in making his acquaintence. With all that said just this week I have been approached by two couples and one single lady. I have had a "get acquainted meeting" with all of them and one of the couples has asked me to join them in what promises to be a great evening of sexual fun. I didn't make the first move, they did. I have been the gentleman in our conversations and meetings as I will always be. Thats just me. OP, take heart, there are some really great single guys just waiting for you to make known to them that you have an interest...that is, if you do. Single guys, listen carefully to Thrax...you'll learn a lot!
  9. Don't quit verbalizing your thoughts outloud...just keep the phone off ). The best way to strengthen your resolve on any issue is to state outloud how you feel about it.
  10. OP said, "I talk to myself when I'm alone driving in the car...sometimes I have a lot on my mind. Music works sometimes, but other times, I just need to vocalize my thoughts, set them in order and make them make sense to myself." Wow...thats me...I do that all the time. I drive abut 35,000 miles per year, mostly by myself. I always double check my cell phone before I start one of my monologues. The same thing has happened to me. I knew we were kindred spirits! cplnuswing said, "Act normal, play it cool." Good advice. One problem. If she says she knows without a doubt that it was you talking and she now has come to beleive your are some kind of "pervert"...well then, just act normal...play it cool. Cool confidence under fire will always prevail! My personal opinion...you are more normal than most of the rest of the world. You know what you want in life and you make no apologies. That is the whole of the "cool confidence" you need to exude. And as a couple of others here have said, she might even be interested herself...
  11. The elusive nice single guy should be pleasing and agreeable in nature. He should present an attractive appearanceand dress well. Courtesy and politeness exhibited by appropriate gestures with a good character and reputation are paramount. The nice guy should show sensitive discernment and be subtle. He should perform with delicacy and skill as if his performance were a craft. A warm and caring heart is evidence of his niceness. Words that describe the elusive nice single guy are agreeable, congenial, favorable, good, grateful, gratifying, pleasant, pleasing, pleasurable, satisfying, welcome. He should conform to accepted standards with courtesy and respect. He should be byond reproach in his actions. Mr. elusive nice single guy should never be difficult to please. If he is persnickety or picky he will never be considered as nice. In other words it could be summed up that he is refined, delicate and subtle. The only place I have ever seen him is in the movies. Usually, Mr. Elusive Nice Single Guy is a wolf in sheep's clothing...appearences can be deceiving don't you know? Mrs. Trixie, I hope you find him. The problem is, you probably have already found him and you married him. Congratulations. In the meantime as you explore your sexuality with his permission, I wish you the best in your search. There are a lot of us availabe nice single guys out here...we just have a really hard time exhibiting all the traits that do make us nice. Oh, and one final parting word of advice...don't look at it as getting laid. The nice guys enjoy good sex with sexually adventrous people who are just as nice...not just the ones looking to get laid. singleagain
  12. Spoomonkey wrote "but I had fun writing this." And I am sure, no doubt that you did. For all of you who have taken time to read my original post and Spoo's as well, kudos. I have refrained from responding to as many of the replies in this thread as I could. I'm a lot like Spoo because this is fun and I wanted to respond to each of you. Why would I not respond...well its quite simple...some of you, like Spoo and Intuition really do "get it!" And some of you want to get it...and some of you just don't. None of that makes you a bad person or a person that I wouldn't want to hang out with. If I responded to each of you and your individual points we may never end this thread (not that it would be bad to end it or to continue it) and I am sure we would never be able to come to agreement on many points. Now before you begin to think me crazy or worse let me clarify a minor point. I do not agree with my pastor's interpretation of the paticular passages involved. I think he, like many of the other clergy I have known during my lifetime, is simply going with the flow. Spoo is right about finding the context before making a decision. I have done that, I think. Let me relate a story...a true one that happened in our city this week. Two police officers were assassinated this past weekend. Each left a wife and one left two kids who will never get to know their dad. Our city came together and both were given funeral services that were incomprable. Sympathy and compassion were poured out on the families of these two men's families. I certainly don't mean to demean any of that as it was all very proper and I am sure was appreciated by the widows and their friends and families. There was, though, something lacking in all the pomp and circumstance of their respective funerals. Simply, there was a lack of any suggestion of how these two women who lost their husbands were to carry on physically. They will never hold their husbands again. They will never know the enjoyment of sex with them again. They will never experience so many things that "nice" people don't talk about in church. Why??? I think its simple...not many of us believes, deep down in our hearts, that sexuality should be expressed. We hid our sexuality because of what others will say. We don't talk about it because of the stigma attached to it that will cause others to say we are deviants. Spoo is right. Whenever there is a story in the Bible about sexual expression, God does not condemn the sex...he always condemns the sin...and sex in and of itself is not sin. And that's the way it is with every incident of the type, no matter what the sin is. Consider gluttony, God wants us to eat. So when someone sins at the supper table, He condemns the sin, not the fact that people are eating. I could go on with all the other sins, but you get the idea. Many of you have expressed the idea that one of your first considerations in choosing playmates is this: will I get enjoyment out of it. That is a reason to swing, but in my humble opinion, I don't beleive its the primary reason to swing. I'll leave it to you to correlate the first two commandments with the "what's in it for me" attitude. Comments please...
  13. The Bible defines religion as visiting "the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unspoted from the world." This in itself is a moral tennant that only the psycho mind could reject...don't you think? Ethics can be defined as never harming others by one's own actions. And probably the greatest treatise on the subjects of ethics and religion is found in the epistle of James in the New Testament. Swinging is not morally wrong. Forcing one's own beliefs on others may be the most morally unacceptable act one can attempt. This is something the organized church tries to do every day.
  14. cubnamy1995 said "Don't have gangbangs in front of children or the elderly." I agree about the "children" part of your statement...but please...have all the gang bangs in from of this old codger you wish. I love it ! As for the rest of you...continue on while I watch the gang bang...this is the kind of discussion I love to be a part of...and just as a reminder...I don't necesssarily agree with everything my pastor and church teaches. And I guess its a little unusual, intuition, that he does encourage independent thinking and study. Quite refreshing, actually...
  15. intuition897 said "I feel that certain passages have been picked and chosen to suit ill-conceived concepts and doctrines that have been force fed to us since we first able to start learning our respective languages. The interpretations of these passages are created the way they are due to certain assumptions people make out of ignorance. The love-equals-sex theory for example, and the notion that lack of jealousy indicates a lack of love." In this, intuition, we are very much in agreement. My post is not to say that I agree with what my pastor said in his sermon. Rather, I hope this thread will gender thought provoking and rational discussion about the very nature and wholesomness of the swinging lifestyle. Also, in response to BiloxiCouple, the very oldest New Testament manuscripts known to man were written in the Greek language. Check this out with any religious or secular authority on the Bible and you will find it to be true.
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